Let me try to make this as clear as possible. In 2004, I turned 9 in January. Right? Then in July of 2004, my parents got divorced and life was crazy for about 6 months. Then in October of 2005 I was 11.

 

 

 

How did you age 2 years in 22 months? That's a neat trick.

 

 

 

And you're 14/15 (I can't tell, since you seem to be using dog years or something of the like) and you want a Dune Buggy? On top of that you have a Go-Kart? Sheesh, get over yourself. It seems like your only problem is the fact that you hate your Dad's new girl. Which is textbook definition normal. I'd have been more shocked had you liked her. Besides, having a car is quite necesary. Much more so than a damn Dune Buggy. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't have been this upset had your biological mom re-arranged your room. Or ate a bit of "your" ice cream. Unless you paid for it yourself, you really should share it. If it's in the family fridge/freezer - it's fair game.

 

 

 

[End counter rant.]

Well, as others have said, compromise is the name of the game.

 

 

 

Is she being a bit of a nuisance? Yes.

 

Are you being unfairly intolerant of her? Also yes.

 

 

 

Sit down with your dad. Bring up these concerns, in a logical and fair manner. He can't fault you simply for stating your opinion. After that, try talking with her. Arrange compromises; tell her you will keep your room clean. That way she can be happy that it is clean and you can be happy that she isn't messing with it.

 

 

 

Also, you talk a lot about hating her. I find people tend to use the word "hate" too easily. Hate what she does, not who she is.

Wow, I come home and there's a full page of posts. Anyway, I read them all and I thank Riku the most. I know I'm being a bit spoiled as Assassin put it. Anyway, there's no need for her to get a car. She has never drove before. Why now? My dad has his own car and she goes pretty much everywhere with him. The whole deal about the soda was we were at Mc Don Dons (McDonalds) and everyone got a cheap meal and no one got a drink, but then she busts out that she just has to have a sprite or she'll dry up and die. The point is she could of waited the extra 20 minutes considering she got the same damn thing as us.

 

 

 

Then today we were in the Grocery store and we walked by the Pudding and I decided to get it. I told my dad and he said Yeah. He said to get 2 packs in case she wanted to eat some. Now, I know I'll get flamed for this but anyway, I only got one since I wanted the Pudding for ME. I don't get it, should I start buying my food to prove a point that it's for me and my brother? I don't know.

 

 

 

Another thing. I made a typo. In October 2005 I was actually 10 still. I made a typo. Not that my age in 2005 really mattered.

 

 

 

I know this is doesn't concern me but she is a real [wagon]. If I wanted to get something in Publix for example and she was there and I started to tell my dad, she would go "Blah Blah" and it pisses me the hell off.

 

 

 

Now, another thing. As I write this, I hear the damn Skype [cabbage] making a ton of noise but whatever. Last night I changed my dad's desktop background and when they came in the room to get on Google earth since I introduced them to it, my dad was like, "Oh Elena, you changed my Background it looks nice". And I say you know, somewhat loud but not rude "No, I did that" and real loud she mocks me "NO I DID THAT!" and I'm like thinking wtf? And my dad finally says you can't do that to me she does Blah Blah Blah with the hand opening and closing.

 

 

 

Why should I attempt to compromise with her if she's going to disrespect me?

Wow, I come home and there's a full page of posts. Anyway, I read them all and I thank Riku the most. I know I'm being a bit spoiled as Assassin put it. Anyway, there's no need for her to get a car. She has never drove before. Why now? My dad has his own car and she goes pretty much everywhere with him. The whole deal about the soda was we were at Mc Don Dons (McDonalds) and everyone got a cheap meal and no one got a drink, but then she busts out that she just has to have a sprite or she'll dry up and die. The point is she could of waited the extra 20 minutes considering she got the same damn thing as us.

 

 

 

Then today we were in the Grocery store and we walked by the Pudding and I decided to get it. I told my dad and he said Yeah. He said to get 2 packs in case she wanted to eat some. Now, I know I'll get flamed for this but anyway, I only got one since I wanted the Pudding for ME. I don't get it, should I start buying my food to prove a point that it's for me and my brother? I don't know.

 

 

 

Another thing. I made a typo. In October 2005 I was actually 10 still. I made a typo. Not that my age in 2005 really mattered.

 

 

 

I know this is doesn't concern me but she is a real [wagon]. If I wanted to get something in Publix for example and she was there and I started to tell my dad, she would go "Blah Blah" and it pisses me the hell off.

 

 

 

Now, another thing. As I write this, I hear the damn Skype [cabbage] making a ton of noise but whatever. Last night I changed my dad's desktop background and when they came in the room to get on Google earth since I introduced them to it, my dad was like, "Oh Elena, you changed my Background it looks nice". And I say you know, somewhat loud but not rude "No, I did that" and real loud she mocks me "NO I DID THAT!" and I'm like thinking wtf? And my dad finally says you can't do that to me she does Blah Blah Blah with the hand opening and closing.

 

 

 

Why should I attempt to compromise with her if she's going to disrespect me?

 

Because you're dependent on them for food and shelter?

My dad's friend from the neighborhood told my dad about Russian Brides (Which is the most ridiculous thing in my book) and he started looking on the internet. From October 2005 til May of 2009 (Almost 4 years) my dad was dating 10,000 miles away (soo stupid). And this girl gets here after he talked to her for about a year...

 

Soo...she's officially a gold digger? Because that's what I think when I hear the term mail-order bride.

 

 

 

Mail-order bride - A mail-order bride is a woman who advertises her willingness to marry mainly to better her standard of living

 

 

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Russian_brides

 

I find it odd that no one's really acknowledging this. I would have a lot more problems if my dad married a mail-order bride than if than if my step-mom was annoying me.

Wow, I come home and there's a full page of posts. Anyway, I read them all and I thank Riku the most. I know I'm being a bit spoiled as Assassin put it. Anyway, there's no need for her to get a car. She has never drove before. Why now? My dad has his own car and she goes pretty much everywhere with him. The whole deal about the soda was we were at Mc Don Dons (McDonalds) and everyone got a cheap meal and no one got a drink, but then she busts out that she just has to have a sprite or she'll dry up and die. The point is she could of waited the extra 20 minutes considering she got the same damn thing as us.

 

 

 

Then today we were in the Grocery store and we walked by the Pudding and I decided to get it. I told my dad and he said Yeah. He said to get 2 packs in case she wanted to eat some. Now, I know I'll get flamed for this but anyway, I only got one since I wanted the Pudding for ME. I don't get it, should I start buying my food to prove a point that it's for me and my brother? I don't know.

 

 

 

Another thing. I made a typo. In October 2005 I was actually 10 still. I made a typo. Not that my age in 2005 really mattered.

 

 

 

I know this is doesn't concern me but she is a real [wagon]. If I wanted to get something in Publix for example and she was there and I started to tell my dad, she would go "Blah Blah" and it pisses me the hell off.

 

 

 

Now, another thing. As I write this, I hear the damn Skype [cabbage] making a ton of noise but whatever. Last night I changed my dad's desktop background and when they came in the room to get on Google earth since I introduced them to it, my dad was like, "Oh Elena, you changed my Background it looks nice". And I say you know, somewhat loud but not rude "No, I did that" and real loud she mocks me "NO I DID THAT!" and I'm like thinking wtf? And my dad finally says you can't do that to me she does Blah Blah Blah with the hand opening and closing.

 

 

 

Why should I attempt to compromise with her if she's going to disrespect me?

 

Because you're dependent on them for food and shelter?

 

 

 

But I don't need to compromise with her. She doesn't do a damn thing except put her dirty feet all over the couch. I compromise with my dad but not her since she doesn't do vice versa.

ghahah, can't put into words what a selfish little [bleep] you seem

 

 

 

oh and is she sexy this russian bride?

Why should I attempt to compromise with her if she's going to disrespect me?

 

 

 

She's not showing you a lack of respect, she's finding it damn hard to assimilate into her new life and you're not making it any easier. No matter how she copes with it, by being annoying at times or whatever, it fundamentally cannot have been easy for her moving over here and trying to start a new life with an already established family. What would she have to do to make you like her? Because if it's do everything you want her to do then that's unreasonable. If you have issues with some of her actions then talk to her, calmly and respectfully like a man. If you start some petty [bleep] for tat thing when she does something you don't like then this clearly won't work.

 

 

 

It doesn't take a genius to see that this is hard for you, and some issues like you've described are perfectly understandable. But try to see it from her point of view, and if she's being petty then rise above it. The way you're portraying yourself here is as some spoilt brat around the house who wants to have a [bleep] to try and get some sympathy. That's no way for a man to behave.

Why should I attempt to compromise with her if she's going to disrespect me?

 

 

 

She's not showing you a lack of respect, she's finding it damn hard to assimilate into her new life and you're not making it any easier. No matter how she copes with it, by being annoying at times or whatever, it fundamentally cannot have been easy for her moving over here and trying to start a new life with an already established family. What would she have to do to make you like her? Because if it's do everything you want her to do then that's unreasonable. If you have issues with some of her actions then talk to her, calmly and respectfully like a man. If you start some petty [bleep] for tat thing when she does something you don't like then this clearly won't work.

 

 

 

It doesn't take a genius to see that this is hard for you, and some issues like you've described are perfectly understandable. But try to see it from her point of view, and if she's being petty then rise above it. The way you're portraying yourself here is as some spoilt brat around the house who wants to have a [bleep] to try and get some sympathy. That's no way for a man to behave.

 

 

 

Exactly. Respect isn't something that just happens. You need to make the first step. You clearly dislike her and show it, I doubt she will make any effort to respect you if this continues. Likewise, it's very difficult for people to blatantly disrespect people who always treat them with respect.

 

 

 

You make the first move, she will reciprocate. And if she doesn't, your dad will certainly notice and it will only serve to make her look bad and your case more sympathetic.

 

Then today we were in the Grocery store and we walked by the Pudding and I decided to get it. I told my dad and he said Yeah. He said to get 2 packs in case she wanted to eat some. Now, I know I'll get flamed for this but anyway, I only got one since I wanted the Pudding for ME. I don't get it, should I start buying my food to prove a point that it's for me and my brother? I don't know.

 

 

 

Until you start paying for your own food you can't just call that [cabbage]. I mean, can she not eat the same things you eat or something? It even seemed like your dad was trying to help you out by getting an extra one just in case, but no, you'd rather just get one so you can [bleep] about it later when she eats one.

 

 

 

And the drink thing, it's [bleep]ing $1 for a drink at McDonalds. How is that wasting a dollar? She said she was thirsty, and it's not like you guys are hard or money or anything if you have two go karts...

 

 

 

It just seems like half of this stuff you're just trying to find a reason to [bleep] about it. Yeah, a few things are are legitimate concerns but most of it is just childish.

Appreciate and respect her culture and ask her if she wants to experience American Culture.

 

In other words, get to know her.

Yes, she could of got a free cup of water. The point is she is trying to feel better than us in my opinion.

 

 

 

 

 

Let me give another story. Let's say 3 weeks ago my neighbor who is actually fat and my dad wouldn't look at in that kind of way, called our house to ask if we wanted a box of pizza she ordered and my dad said sure. You can imagine this made her go nuts. "Oh omg, you're probably going to date her. Omg.. Etc..." For 5 minutes she just went crazy thinking my dad was going to cheat on her with my neighbor. So, 5 minutes later, me, my dad, and my brother walked next door and come back with a box of pizza. "Do you want a slice?" "No" this is just an example of how petty she is about my dad talking to ANY other woman. Don't say she's looking out since men cheat etc. My dad wouldn't cheat on her in the first place. My dad would be allowed to talk to another woman but this girl is just so jealous. I can't even talk about MY OWN mom in front of this girl without her going crazy and my dad having to say change the subject.

Why should I attempt to compromise with her if she's going to disrespect me?

 

 

 

She's not showing you a lack of respect, she's finding it damn hard to assimilate into her new life and you're not making it any easier. No matter how she copes with it, by being annoying at times or whatever, it fundamentally cannot have been easy for her moving over here and trying to start a new life with an already established family. What would she have to do to make you like her? Because if it's do everything you want her to do then that's unreasonable. If you have issues with some of her actions then talk to her, calmly and respectfully like a man. If you start some petty [bleep] for tat thing when she does something you don't like then this clearly won't work.

 

 

 

It doesn't take a genius to see that this is hard for you, and some issues like you've described are perfectly understandable. But try to see it from her point of view, and if she's being petty then rise above it. The way you're portraying yourself here is as some spoilt brat around the house who wants to have a [bleep] to try and get some sympathy. That's no way for a man to behave.

 

She's not a woman that was raised by millionaire parents and now is marrying an impoverished man because of here love, she married the op's dad to up her financial standing. From what it looks like she is not planning an getting a job and is leaching of the family while op is being ignored.

Why should I attempt to compromise with her if she's going to disrespect me?

 

 

 

She's not showing you a lack of respect, she's finding it damn hard to assimilate into her new life and you're not making it any easier. No matter how she copes with it, by being annoying at times or whatever, it fundamentally cannot have been easy for her moving over here and trying to start a new life with an already established family. What would she have to do to make you like her? Because if it's do everything you want her to do then that's unreasonable. If you have issues with some of her actions then talk to her, calmly and respectfully like a man. If you start some petty [bleep] for tat thing when she does something you don't like then this clearly won't work.

 

 

 

It doesn't take a genius to see that this is hard for you, and some issues like you've described are perfectly understandable. But try to see it from her point of view, and if she's being petty then rise above it. The way you're portraying yourself here is as some spoilt brat around the house who wants to have a [bleep] to try and get some sympathy. That's no way for a man to behave.

 

She's not a woman that was raised by millionaire parents and now is marrying an impoverished man because of here love, she married the op's dad to up her financial standing. From what it looks like she is not planning an getting a job and is leaching of the family while op is being ignored.

 

Thank you. I've been trying to get that out but couldn't quite put my finger on it.

Why should I attempt to compromise with her if she's going to disrespect me?

 

 

 

She's not showing you a lack of respect, she's finding it damn hard to assimilate into her new life and you're not making it any easier. No matter how she copes with it, by being annoying at times or whatever, it fundamentally cannot have been easy for her moving over here and trying to start a new life with an already established family. What would she have to do to make you like her? Because if it's do everything you want her to do then that's unreasonable. If you have issues with some of her actions then talk to her, calmly and respectfully like a man. If you start some petty [bleep] for tat thing when she does something you don't like then this clearly won't work.

 

 

 

It doesn't take a genius to see that this is hard for you, and some issues like you've described are perfectly understandable. But try to see it from her point of view, and if she's being petty then rise above it. The way you're portraying yourself here is as some spoilt brat around the house who wants to have a [bleep] to try and get some sympathy. That's no way for a man to behave.

 

She's not a woman that was raised by millionaire parents and now is marrying an impoverished man because of here love, she married the op's dad to up her financial standing. From what it looks like she is not planning an getting a job and is leaching of the family while op is being ignored.

 

 

 

Well done for being spoon-fed your opinion by the OP's one-sided and childish rants and not really analysing what is happening.

 

 

 

It seems simple to me: parents divorce and move on and the child doesn't like it. There is no more explanation needed; all of this "she doesn't respect me" crap is just born out of the fact that she isn't his mother and he resents her for that. If you go out of your way to not get to know or not to like somebody, why should they bother trying?

Why should I attempt to compromise with her if she's going to disrespect me?

 

 

 

She's not showing you a lack of respect, she's finding it damn hard to assimilate into her new life and you're not making it any easier. No matter how she copes with it, by being annoying at times or whatever, it fundamentally cannot have been easy for her moving over here and trying to start a new life with an already established family. What would she have to do to make you like her? Because if it's do everything you want her to do then that's unreasonable. If you have issues with some of her actions then talk to her, calmly and respectfully like a man. If you start some petty [bleep] for tat thing when she does something you don't like then this clearly won't work.

 

 

 

It doesn't take a genius to see that this is hard for you, and some issues like you've described are perfectly understandable. But try to see it from her point of view, and if she's being petty then rise above it. The way you're portraying yourself here is as some spoilt brat around the house who wants to have a [bleep] to try and get some sympathy. That's no way for a man to behave.

 

She's not a woman that was raised by millionaire parents and now is marrying an impoverished man because of here love, she married the op's dad to up her financial standing. From what it looks like she is not planning an getting a job and is leaching of the family while op is being ignored.

 

But his dad knows that, and is welcoming it. That's pretty much the whole point of mail order brideom. It's not like his dad met a girl and thinks she loves him for him, when she's really an evil [bleep] trying to steal his money.

This so makes me think of the filme 'step brothers' but instead of a new step brother, its a step mother. I still think you should sit down with her, talk about your boundries and limits, get to know her, you never know, you might actually like her.

The issue with your neighbor: That is clearly a problem between her and your dad, not something you need to be involved with. Let him deal with it; and don't worry about it, it will only serve to cause you more stress.

 

 

 

As for her leeching off of your family: Bring the concerns up with your father. If he has any common sense he will notice if she is actually doing it, and if not, at least you tried.

The fact than your title says that it's juicy pisses me off. I'm not sure why but it annoys me so much :lol: :x

The fact than your title says that it's juicy pisses me off. I'm not sure why but it annoys me so much :lol: :x

 

Well either the Russian chick is "Juicy!" :D or "Juicy..." :?

yeh i think pics of this mail order bride are required

Yes, she could of got a free cup of water. The point is she is trying to feel better than us in my opinion.

 

... :?

 

 

Let me give another story. Let's say 3 weeks ago my neighbor who is actually fat and my dad wouldn't look at in that kind of way

 

Yes, but it is the very first thing you look at, isn't it? It seems as though you yourself have some subconscious prejudices against people that aren't like you: foreigners, overweight people, your step-mother. I know this is cliché, but really try to be more perceptive and don't see someone for their label or judge people because of their exteriors or by their ability to please and agree with you. In your current mindset, I think if you were to meet yourself, you wouldn't find yourself very agreeable and would probably end up fighting over some french-fries.

 

"Oh omg, you're probably going to date her. Omg.. Etc..." For 5 minutes she just went crazy thinking my dad was going to cheat on her with my neighbor. So, 5 minutes later, me, my dad, and my brother walked next door and come back with a box of pizza. "Do you want a slice?" "No" this is just an example of how petty she is about my dad talking to ANY other woman. Don't say she's looking out since men cheat etc. My dad wouldn't cheat on her in the first place. My dad would be allowed to talk to another woman but this girl is just so jealous. I can't even talk about MY OWN mom in front of this girl without her going crazy and my dad having to say change the subject.

 

Okay, this is definitely an emotional weakness on her part, but it may just be because she is still getting to know your dad. Although you may know he would be faithful to marriage, she might not know him well enough to be certain. Regardless, this is her issue, and I don't see how it should make you upset. People have weaknesses, she might have had a boyfriend or husband that cheated on her, or she might just be an overprotective partner.

Learn how to swear in Russian? Also, turn off the webcam feature on your computer and tell your dad that his mail order bride is sexting other men. (sexting is sending people naked pictures of yourself.)

 

 

Let me give another story. Let's say 3 weeks ago my neighbor who is actually fat and my dad wouldn't look at in that kind of way

 

Yes, but it is the very first thing you look at, isn't it? It seems as though you yourself have some subconscious prejudices against people that aren't like you: foreigners, overweight people, your step-mother. I know this is cliché, but really try to be more perceptive and don't see someone for their label or judge people because of their exteriors or by their ability to please and agree with you. In your current mindset, I think if you were to meet yourself, you wouldn't find yourself very agreeable and would probably end up fighting over some french-fries.

 

I think he is trying to point out that she isn't some drop-dead gorgeous chick who all the guys look at when she walks past. By "my dad wouldn't look at in that kind of way" I am assuming he means that the person is just a friend of his dad's and not someone he has thoughts of dating/marrying.

Lol. My dad won't agree with the last one.