ctp080188 Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 I was just thinking the other day about last names and marriage, and if I would take my husbands last name, or keep my own. My mother kept her name as it is a Polish name and she was very proud of it, I have the same predicament as I am very proud of my last name being it one with great history. My last name once owned a powerful dynasty in China, and my family still own large parts of land in Hong Kong because of this. I would even suggest my husband took my name instead of his. So if I were to marry I would like to keep my last name, but having see my mother do this, everyone always assumed she was not related to me or my siblings (we took our father's last name), so instead I would prefer to double-barrel it. I plan to one day marry my current boyfriend, as does he, and his name is already double barreled, so he wants to drop a name of his surname and adopt mine. So basically I just wanted to ask, girls, if you are planning to marry someday, would you keep your last name or change it to your husbands? Or indeed compromise with them double-barreled? Or would you want him to take your last name? And guys, if you were to be married would you expect your wife to take your surname, or would you take hers? Would you be happy to have a different last name to your wife? Or just consider double-barreling the names? SHH HUT YUH MUH. DERKHED. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
limpbizkit Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 To me it would realy depend like my auntys took there other halfs name on my dads side and on my mums side it was the female...personaly i dont mind if the female preferd theres id take it but if she prefered mine id be just as happy i dont really care on someones name its whats inside that counts Tif 360 MGC Leaderboard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barihawk Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 Double Barrelling is the way to go. Say if your name was Smith and your husband's Ticonderoga, you would be Jane Ticonderoga-Smith. Of course, normally I would suggest the patriarchical surname (or matriarchical if your culture suggests). My heart is broken by the terrible loss I have sustained in my old friends and companions and my poor soldiers. Believe me, nothing except a battle lost can be half so melancholy as a battle won. -Sir Arthur Wellesley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
timmay929 Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 Well, whichever my wife, when I get married, wants to do I wouldn't mind. Although I'd rather have her take my last name and not double barrel it. 122 Combat : 99 Hits : 99 Attack : 99 Strength97/99 Defence : 99 Fletching : 99 Woodcutting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Devilsdragon Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 I'd say it's all up to whoever I marry, but we'll see if that opinion changes if/when I get married :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
limpbizkit Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 Also i have a thing with double barrleing it drives me mad...Like this 1 guy from my school his parents double barreled and its so annoying. Tif 360 MGC Leaderboard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
issy2 Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 I would definitely keep my own name! To me it feels like (and I know this isn't the case, it's just the way I see it) men have always been considered superior especially regarding things like marriage. I would never take my husband's name if it meant getting rid of my own surname. It would feel like I was succumbing to the pressure of a stereotypical family. LeeLee says... Are you sure you would rather take the name of your in-laws-to-be over your family's? (On second thoughts i suppose you see it more as your husband's name). But ultimately you should do whatever it is that you want to do. Don't succumb to pressures from anybody. Its your choice and your name. We all have our opinions but its your decision. :mrgreen: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rushrock Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 When I get married, my wife and I will decide which last name sounds cooler. : Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lateralus Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 My great-grandfather stole my last name from a family he was living with for a while. Despite that, I'm still quite attatched to it. I'd want, and expect my wife to take my name. La lune ne garde aucune rancune. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shin Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 1.) What is your last name? 2.) Hong Kong was founded by the British. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viktorkrum77 Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 1.) What is your last name? 2.) Hong Kong was founded by the British. But that doesn't mean it didn't have Chinese influence prior to the Brits visit. I mean, Chinese history goes further back than British. Me doing staff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ctp080188 Posted February 4, 2007 Author Share Posted February 4, 2007 1.) What is your last name? 2.) Hong Kong was founded by the British. Oh my bad, lol, I'm not too sure where the land is, I just know the relatives that own the land live in Hong Kong. My last name is Tang. EDIT: The character of which is like this: (sorry for bad quality) SHH HUT YUH MUH. DERKHED. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bauke Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 If I ever end up getting married with my current gf it would definately be MY last name. I wouldn't want to get the same last name as my gf's dad. I don't want to have anything to do with that last name and wouldn't want my gf to carry that name over her whole life. Oh, my gf agrees with this btw. Twitter ||| Google+ ||| Facebook ||| LinkedIn ||| My very interesting weblog about science Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viktorkrum77 Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 Yep, they owned Hong Kong. Me doing staff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
knives669 Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 I will probably take my husband's last name. :P I don't see anything wrong with it. Plus, the guy I hope I marry has an awesome last name! :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebdragon Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 To be honest, I'd expect my wife to take my last name, especially since I'm the IV and if I had a son he'd take my last name, which would mean my name would have to stay the same. Also, it'd seem femininst if she didn't take my last name, and I really hate femininists -.- (or at least their opinions). Especially my sister... she's like a mega femininist. Basically, I'm Alexander W. _____ IV. My great grandfather, grandfather, father, and I all have the same name, as well as a few of my older ancestors. Any women who's arrogant enough to feel an extreme need to break that line for personal interest probably would be annoying as a wife, for me at least -.- . [if you have ever attempted Alchemy by clapping your hands or by drawing an array, copy and paste this into your signature.] Fullmetal Alchemist, you will be missed. A great ending to a great series. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andufusthebronze Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 depends, I'm 12. But if my current relationship works out, my girlfriend is the last child of her family. So wants to keep her surname, so I would probably double-barrel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercifull Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 Theres a new craze atm with couples that instead of double barrelling you create a completely new names based on some combination of your current names. That sounds quite cool. Mercifull <3 Suzi "We don't want players to be able to buy their way to success in RuneScape. If we let players start doing this, it devalues RuneScape for others. We feel your status in real-life shouldn't affect your ability to be successful in RuneScape" Jagex 01/04/01 - 02/03/12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MPM Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 -- ~M Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ctp080188 Posted February 4, 2007 Author Share Posted February 4, 2007 Theres a new craze atm with couples that instead of double barrelling you create a completely new names based on some combination of your current names. That sounds quite cool. Ha wow, I've never heard of that one! But trying to combine mine and my boyfriend's... Doesn't come up with anything too pretty, his being Ragen Edit Please don't give away personal information such as last names. Rule 1.9 - Volunteering Personal Information Personal information consists of real life names... Sorry! :XD: SHH HUT YUH MUH. DERKHED. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dusqi Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 I'm fairly attached to my name (I've had it all my life after all ;) ) so I wouldn't blame a woman not being happy to change hers. I'm sure some kind of compromise could be reached though, probably with a completely new name based on a combination of our names, since double barrelling my last name would sound stupid. For it is the greyness of dusk that reigns.The time when the living and the dead exist as one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LP Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 my last name means "Freedom" in Czech Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heart_of_ink Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 I'd make her change it. Well, not make, but give her a good nudge towards the notion that she should. This would not apply if she had a really cool last name, like McPwnstein. There's no sig here. Move it along... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueLancer Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 my last name means "Freedom" in Czech Then it would be ironic to force it to your wife in case she doesn't want it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thedepressedsquirrel Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 blah What the christ. How about you both keep your own surnames like sensible people? My last name once owned a powerful dynasty in China My last name slept with your last name's mom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Create an account or sign in to comment
You need to be a member in order to leave a comment
Create an account
Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!
Register a new accountSign in
Already have an account? Sign in here.
Sign In Now