Randox, that was disgusting. You should really account for people's imaginations more.

Ralph, let me put it this way: if you run into a problem with one of your girlfriends or whatever you call them, what do you do?

Randox, that was disgusting. You should really account for people's imaginations more.

Ralph, let me put it this way: if you run into a problem with one of your girlfriends or whatever you call them, what do you do?

 

Read this and this.

I found that despite whatever I'm feeling, in my opinion, the word love shouldn't be used. I think it's much more practical and safe to say, 'like you a lot,' 'like you a ton,' etc.

 

Unless the relationship is heading towards engagement/marriage, I won't be using the word love. The last time I did it, it got me in a pretty big mess.

The English language really needs more words for love. If I say I like my best friend I sound gay. Am I supposed to dislike my best friend then?

 

In response to other stuff... yeah, people com here for relationship advice. If a person is coming seeking relationship advice for their relationship, chances are it means it's failing. Plus, a lot of the time people aren't actually asking for advice, they're asking for people to basically like back them up. Confirm that, yeah, you're making the right decision.

 

As for people ignoring advice, well, change is hard. It's easier to stick to that same old routine of dating someone who you aren't really happy with, who you should probably break up with, as opposed to start the (probably messy) breakup and change your life a lot. Plus, suddenly you've got to go out and meet new people to form relationships with. Isn't easy and people like taking the easy way out.

 

Blarg. Tired. Sorry if this doesn't make sense.

I have to agree with Muggi on this one. If the other person does not behave like a reasonable adult and discuss the issues, how are TIF'ers excepted to change anything? Sure it sucks to realize they're not going to change and it seems harsh to call it quits, but a good skill to have is know when to bail and cut down on your losses (as we do look at relationships like an "investment").

 

If the couple can sit down and talk about problems then go ahead try your best to solve them. But if one (or both) remains silent and tries to quietly wish it away or something, it's never going to change. So if you stay you're just going to spent most of your time tolerating their attitudes (passive aggressiveness is a big one I see), which relationships shouldn't be about.

I think we've pretty much come to an agreement (sorry that I don't remember posts you made 31 pages ago Ralph :P). I don't see how "no relationship can be saved" and "I don't head for the hills immediately" are compatible statements though.

"No relationship can be saved"-- I was discussing monogamous relationships here

 

"I don't head for the hills immediately"-- I was discussing poly relationships here

 

Hope that clears things up :thumbup:

 

yeah, people com here for relationship advice. If a person is coming seeking relationship advice for their relationship, chances are it means it's failing.

 

 

"I've been with my new girlfriend for a few weeks, and I'm struggling to find a way to break it to her that I want to ___. How can I bring this up in the least awkward manner?"

 

Doesn't sound like a failing relationship to me.

 

 

 

also, LOL muggi's name is Ralph. I can only picture this: http://imgur.com/gallery/YVXKE

Just to be clear, you guys realize that muggiwhplar spelled backwards is Ralph Wiggum, right? >_> My name isn't Ralph irl, lol

Just to be clear, you guys realize that muggiwhplar spelled backwards is Ralph Wiggum, right? >_> My name isn't Ralph irl, lol

 

I.

 

am stupid.

 

[almost 6 years of looking at that name, and I never noticed that? Seriously?]

Quick! Someone find a suitable fail meme for RPG! :D

http://knowyourmeme.com/photos/263610-sudden-clarity-clarence

 

*updates signature*

Damn, that was a bombshell...

yeah, people com here for relationship advice. If a person is coming seeking relationship advice for their relationship, chances are it means it's failing.

 

 

"I've been with my new girlfriend for a few weeks, and I'm struggling to find a way to break it to her that I want to ___. How can I bring this up in the least awkward manner?"

 

Doesn't sound like a failing relationship to me.

 

I wasn't trying to imply that all questions about a current relationship come from a falling relationship. I was saying most probably are.

 

Also, I did not ever realize that muggi. Holy shit.

That was supposed to be our secret muggi :(

Oops >_>

I heard this is a good place to ask for advice, and boy do I need it.

 

So, I broke up with my last boyfriend about a month or so ago, maybe a little more, and since then, he has been driving me mad. He keeps saying little things that hurt, or keeps talking to me about subjects when he can see I am clearly upset. But the worst of it is, he keeps saying if he moves here to England (as he's not English) in the future, there could be a chance for us. He's making me feel like I should keep myself from finding another, so that he can have me whenever he feels he has time to bother.

 

I care about him a lot, still. Its hard to get over him. So, what do I do? Do I delete him, to keep him from stringing me along or do I try to talk this out and make him stop? Or is there some mystery option that you guys can think of?

Best option is to cut off all contact... For now, at least. You won't be able to reason with him in an emotionally-charged situation like this.

 

It sucks, but it's the best thing to do unfortunately.

Did he break up with you, or did you break up with him, or was it a mutual thing?

He broke up with me. He'd come over to visit for the first time (it was a long distance relationship) and before he even came out he decided we would just be friends, but he didn't tell me this until the middle of the week when I flat out asked him what was going on.

Well from your first post it sounds like you don't want to date him anymore. If that's what you want, then just tell him that and if he keeps trying to get back together then block him.

Well from your first post it sounds like you don't want to date him anymore. If that's what you want, then just tell him that and if he keeps trying to get back together then block him.

 

Its not that he is trying, its more that he is mentioning it as an in the future thing, like he doesn't want me to date anyone else and just save myself for him.

That's really inconsiderate on his part... What hurts you about what he says, and what is it specifically he insists on talking about despite the fact that it's making you upset?

That's really inconsiderate on his part... What hurts you about what he says, and what is it specifically he insists on talking about despite the fact that it's making you upset?

 

He tries to get me to talk about things which bother me, but then takes them to an extreme and then acts like I'm a patient and he's the psychologist. I guess he's trying to be a friend to me, but he is going about it the total wrong way.

wait so this all happened the first time you ever saw each other?