Go go go go go go go. DO IT!

Generic Introduction here.

 

I'm in drama at my school on light crew, and this month we've been rehearsing for a statewide drama competition. Lighting people haven't had to start coming to rehearsals until last friday though. At the rehearsal on Firday I noticed a couple new people in lighting but I didn't really pay them much mind. At the end of rehearsal, Amy (the girl I went to homecoming with that turned out to be a lesbian and is in charge of lighting) told me that I had to be at the rehearsal that was this monday (MLK day so normally no school).

 

When I got there on monday, there was only one other person from lighting there, a new girl named Stacey (well I had known her before from my English class but never really talked to her or anything) who apparently was the only other one Amy told to come. Naturally I started talking to her early in the rehearsal, and as friday was literally her first day on lighting, she didn't really know all that much about it, so I showed her stuff like where to find things in the light booth, how to run the boards, etc. She was nice enough, and after I finished showing her around the booth we ended up sitting next to each other and watching the rest of the rehearsal (we didn't really have much else to do without Amy being there). We talked for most of the rest of the four hour rehearsal. I mean we did other things in between as well, like went on a little adventure throughout the open music rooms and auditorium to find something for a pit keyboardist and going up to the catwalks for a little while. As she was leaving I got her number and texted her for a little bit later in the night.

 

I didn't really talk to her that much until today, when we had another drama rehearsal (very little opportunity in the one class we have together). Though we didn't really talk much before the rehearsal (i mean we obviously both have other friends xD), She stayed by me for most of the rehearsal today too. We talked a lot again, especially when we were both in the booth running spotlights without anyone else up there, and there are a lot of breaks where we could talk.

 

By now, I want to ask her to the Snowcoming dance . It's coming up on February 6, so basically if I want to take her I'm going to have to act probably tomorrow. Now, here are the possible IOIs, I don't really know if any of them are legitimate.

-She talked to me for most of the rehearsal today even though some of her best friends were also there.

-Snowcoming eventually came up in our conversation on monday (well I sort of led it there xD), and she mentioned that she didn't have anyone to go with and didn't know if she'd even be going even though she was on student council planning it.

-I think i caught her staring at me in the light booth

-Towards the end of the rehearsal, Amy assigned her to do a spotlight and me to run the board in the auditorium. After like a minute she came down and sat next to me and started talking to me.

-Other people's relationships and that kind of stuff has come up multiple times when we talked on both days

-She always seems to follow me around in the auditorium and when Amy gives group instructions she always stands kind of close next to me.

 

Reading over this it seems kind of pathetic, but basically, does it seem like she likes me going off that? Seeing as I waited so late to post this I probably won't get a response before tomorrow when I'll probably ask her, but I just want some opinions.

 

Well, Kalphite, those aren't particularly HUGE IOI's, but I'd say they're strong enough to say she atleast kind of likes you. Enough so that if you pull the trigger, she'll probably say yes. Sounds like you're headed down the right path to me :)

 

Oh...I don't remember if I mentioned it, but Im' now seeing that girl I mentioned earlier with the harbour date and what not. So yes, that means my singledom is over. Oh well. We'll see where the wind blows me :)

Hahaha, rpg's got a giiiiiiiiiiiirlfriend.

Wizz, how far away is she moving?

From south California all the way to Ohio. I was correct all day today, no sign of her. I still don't know what to make of this.

Hahaha, rpg's got a giiiiiiiiiiiirlfriend.

Haha, that reminded me of the Family Guy episode where Lois says to Peter that she loves her family and Peter starts singing "Lois and the family, sitting in a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G."

 

Still, glad to hear it Rpg. :thumbup:

 

Wizz, how far away is she moving?

From south California all the way to Ohio. I was correct all day today, no sign of her. I still don't know what to make of this.

Non-American, give me a figure, kms or miles, I don't mind which.

Hahaha, rpg's got a giiiiiiiiiiiirlfriend.

Haha, that reminded me of the Family Guy episode where Lois says to Peter that she loves her family and Peter starts singing "Lois and the family, sitting in a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G."

 

Still, glad to hear it Rpg. :thumbup:

 

Wizz, how far away is she moving?

From south California all the way to Ohio. I was correct all day today, no sign of her. I still don't know what to make of this.

Non-American, give me a figure, kms or miles, I don't mind which.

Bout 2500 miles, as the car drives.

Y'know why I love highschool?

 

I broke up with my now ex girlfriend [the one that cheated on me like 14 times in 2.4 years] about 2 months ago. She meets a new guy within 2 weeks and is all over him. 2 months later, I get a girlfriend, and within 3 days she[my ex] goes into beserker hormone mode and becomes the harbinger of death. First she cuts herself. Then she says drugs are lookin' mighty fine. Then she tells the world over facebook she's contimplating suicide over jealousy. Then she tells me she's trying to break up with her boyfriend. Then she tells me she's still in love with me.

...

Literally 6 hours later she tells me that she's deided to stay with said boyfriend and get help for her depression issues that I never helped her with. Then she says that she loves him, and she feels like she should give him her whole heart, not just half of it, and that means getting over me. So now she's talking to my new girlfriend who's practically been having panic attacks of fear over what she [my ex] might do to her.

 

Oh yeah. Highschool?

Fun freakin' times

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And that, my friends, is why I didn't date in high school.

Assuming your 15 (which I think is correct), shes just being what we call an "Attention [bleep]". She's frustrated she missed a good opportunity and try's to get you to feel sorry, then when it doesn't work uses jealousy on you. next will Probably be sabotage assuming she isn't insane. Just keep your girl calm about it and nothing bad will happen. Exact thing happened to me in Year 10 but my Girlfriend then knew it was because this girl hated me and always tried destroying my relationships (She USED to be a friend but now I tell her politely to "[bleep] off".) Long story short, GF understood, Crazy never succeeded and 2 weeks later after yr10 formal left me for a 28 year old and is on her 4th child at 19 with 3 others from his ex wife. Oh High School... </3

Assuming your 15 (which I think is correct), shes just being what we call an "Attention [bleep]". She's frustrated she missed a good opportunity and try's to get you to feel sorry, then when it doesn't work uses jealousy on you. next will Probably be sabotage assuming she isn't insane. Just keep your girl calm about it and nothing bad will happen. Exact thing happened to me in Year 10 but my Girlfriend then knew it was because this girl hated me and always tried destroying my relationships (She USED to be a friend but now I tell her politely to "[bleep] off".) Long story short, GF understood, Crazy never succeeded and 2 weeks later after yr10 formal left me for a 28 year old and is on her 4th child at 19 with 3 others from his ex wife. Oh High School... </3

 

 

I'm curious to know what makes you think I'm 15 :lol:

 

I'm going to be 18 in a month, although I try to avoid posting that, because age is irrelevant. Sounds like you're crazy ex trumps mine though. See, I'm just worried though. I'm not exactly cool with the idea that my ex is talking to my new girlfriend. Surely nothing good can come of this [not that I have anything to hide, but it makes me nervous none the less]

I thought you were 13... Nah haha, that's pretty nutty tbh. This makes me wish I'd gone out with a crazy chick so i too had afunny story to tell.

I've been out with crazy chicks. It's really not hard to drop them. Push them on one of your friends.

My first ex got a bit insane. One day she just randomly starts saying gibberish stuff on MSN and then goes berserk when I say "huh?" So glad she had moved, she seemed serious when she said she wanted to kill me. :ohnoes:

I've been out with crazy chicks. It's really not hard to drop them. Push them on one of your friends.

 

 

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I went to bed late last night, like 3am looking at my posts. And I got woken up today by my ex calling me at about 10am. She calls to say that she's in the hospital getting evaluated. I've been woken up by her to some scary stuff but...I think this one takes the cake.

 

I'm proud of her for finially getting the help she needs, but...wow. I guess I'm still in a bit of shock.

Why is she telling you everything that's happening? What a guilt tripper.. She sounds like an average drama queen to me - I wouldn't be surprised if she was just making this all up to make you feel bad.

Why is she telling you everything that's happening? What a guilt tripper.. She sounds like an average drama queen to me - I wouldn't be surprised if she was just making this all up to make you feel bad.

 

 

typical drama queen or not, she has a family history of clinic depression. I know for a fact that everything she tells me is true. I a bit freaked out about all of it. I almost feel like I sparked her insanity, cause she seemed close to normal until I started dating someone else. And I feel extra stupid because for over 2 years I battled with her over these problems, and never once did I ask anyone on the outside for help. I tried taking the problem on myself and I failed miserably. Her new boyfriend was smarter than that and that's how she ended up at the hospital to get ACTUAL help. This whole situation is all very confusing and upsetting. I know logically it isn't my fault that she's like this, but I feel like I had the chance to do something about it and blew it...

Why is she telling you everything that's happening? What a guilt tripper.. She sounds like an average drama queen to me - I wouldn't be surprised if she was just making this all up to make you feel bad.

 

 

typical drama queen or not, she has a family history of clinic depression. I know for a fact that everything she tells me is true. I a bit freaked out about all of it. I almost feel like I sparked her insanity, cause she seemed close to normal until I started dating someone else. And I feel extra stupid because for over 2 years I battled with her over these problems, and never once did I ask anyone on the outside for help. I tried taking the problem on myself and I failed miserably. Her new boyfriend was smarter than that and that's how she ended up at the hospital to get ACTUAL help. This whole situation is all very confusing and upsetting. I know logically it isn't my fault that she's like this, but I feel like I had the chance to do something about it and blew it...

Dude, it is not in anyway your fault she didn't get help sooner. Anyone else could have noticed it and done nothing, she's gotten help now and will be fine. This 'insanity' is jealousy, because she realised she wants you. Be supportive, as a friend, but also remember to not neglect your girlfriend. That's the dumbest move you can make right now. Better to have to rebuild the friendship with psycho [bleep] than to lose your girlfriend because she feels neglected and that you love your ex and not her.

Just spending a few hours in a park seems like a good date to me. As long as it's nice out. And if it's windy, you know what to bring.

 

So anyway, this girl (still Olives) seems a little upset with me for some reason. I think I might know why though. Today one of my friends came back to school and I hadn't seen him in two months, so instead of talking to Olives, I was catching up with him. So it might be a jealousy thing (which is good for me). Or, maybe just a one-day thing. Or something completely different.

 

Ah, whatever. I'll figure this out.

It was a one-day thing. I thought so.

I'm on David D's mail list, though i don't know how. I occasionally go through one of his emails, they are mostly advertisements for his products but occasionally he sends out something useful. Thought some of you would be interested in this particular one, I couldn't put it better myself.

 

[hide] Ya know, this really is a great question.

 

One of the most important things to understand

as a man, is what to do when things are WORKING...

so you don't SCREW IT UP!

 

If you use the materials that you're learning

from me, you will start to have a magical thing

happen more and more often... women will start to

do and say things that clearly indicate that they

LIKE you.

 

Sometimes is will be a touch, sometimes a

compliment, and sometimes a smile. But these

things WILL happen more and more as you get better

and better.

 

I always laugh to myself when I bust a woman's

chops really hard, and she laughs and says "You're

so funny!" or "You really are good!" etc.

 

I still shake my head and wonder why the hell

it took me so long to figure all this stuff out.

 

But I digress... you know, while I'm

digressing, what's with you ending your email

with:

 

">From new hampshire, where men are men, women

are few, and sheep are nervous."

 

...?!

 

This is probably the third or fourth time that

I've seen this at the end of an email.

 

Tell me the truth... do chicks dig this?

 

You're making me nervous, man. Keep the sheep

talk on the DL, OK?

 

Uncool.

 

Now, when a woman does something that signals

"I like you," it is VITALLY important that you:

 

1) Know how to recognize it

 

2) DON'T do what MOST guy do

 

3) DO the right thing, and AMPLIFY it

 

So how can you tell if a woman is doing

something that says "I like you?"

 

Well, it's VERY important to remember that

women are far more "subtle" than men (most of the

time, that is).

 

If a man is interested in a woman, you can see

it all over his face. It's usually very obvious.

 

But women are different.

 

Women do SMALL things.

 

A little touch. A sly smile. Sometimes a

comment like "You're so cute" (as in your example

above).

 

But then IT'S GONE.

 

Women always seem to act like they're not quite

sure.

 

They don't send consistent signals that most

men can "read."

 

And when they DO send signals that are easy to

see, most guys respond in a way that makes those

signals stop... which makes things even MORE

confusing.

 

Again, women aren't as CONSISTENT as men.

 

A woman can seem like she's interested one

minute, then stand-offish the next.

 

So rule #1 is:

 

JUST BECAUSE SHE'S DOING SOMETHING THAT SAYS "I

LIKE YOU", DON'T THINK THAT IT MEANS "I LIKE YOU

NO MATTER WHAT."

 

Much better to interpret subtle "I like you"

cues as "I like you for a second, but if you start

acting like a Wuss Bag or a Dumb [wagon], it will all

be over in an instant."

 

Unfortunately for most guys, they take "I like

you" signals to mean "You've won my approval, now

you can do whatever you want".

 

And what do they do? Of course...

 

They turn into dorks, say or do a few stupid

things, and destroy it all.

 

Oh, how many times I've watched guys (myself

included) screw up perfectly good situations

because they just didn't get this concept.

 

Let me give you an example.

 

Let's say that you're out with a woman, and

you've been teasing her, and she smiles and says,

"I like you."

 

A typical "male" response is for a guy to think

to himself "OK, I'm in... she digs me" and to get

that rush in the head and chest.

 

Next thing you know, he's acting different.

 

He's talking about different things.

 

He's giving compliments.

 

He's being "nicer."

 

And what's the woman thinking while this is all

going on? Of course... she's thinking, "Uh oh, his

cool, calm, interesting personality was just a

cover for the secret inner-Wuss that was hiding

out, waiting for a little bit of approval from

me... AHHHHHH!"

 

Women KNOW that they're in control of the

situation. Or at least MOST of the time they

are... and they THINK that they are even during

the times when they're not.

 

They're constantly using different kinds of

communication to test and "feel out" the

situation.

 

Remember, MOST of the time when you're saying

something that you think is nice, charming, and

original, it's something that a woman has heard

about 47 times that week from other guys.

 

We guys act VERY predictably most of the time.

 

And women know how to tell if you're just

another loser who's pretending to be cool... who

will turn into an average Wuss at the first sign

of attraction from a cute woman.

 

Think about what I just said.

 

This is hard for a lot of guys to swallow...

but it's the reality of the situation.

 

There's something that women call "Sexual

Tension." It's also known as "Chemistry" or

"Attraction" as well. But only WOMEN know it this

way. I've got an entire program that can teach you

about this amazing skill, if you want to learn how

to use it... by the way:

 

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/SexualCommunication

 

When you tease a woman, make her laugh, play

hard to get with her, act unpredictably, etc. in

the right way, you will create this tension. This

is what usually leads to a woman saying something

like "You're cute" or "I like you."

 

It's the TENSION that makes her FEEL it and SAY

it.

 

THE TENSION!

 

In these very special moments, you need to turn

the tension UP. Dial it up. AMPLIFY it.

 

Don't diffuse it all by saying "You're cute

yourself" or "I like you, too". Or by smiling like

a jackass wussy dork who has just seen his first

rainbow.

 

This kind of thing RELEASES the tension, and it

usually takes that wonderful electric attraction

feeling that the woman is feeling and INSTANTLY

kills it.

 

Does this make logical sense?

 

Hell no.

 

But it IS what happens.

 

OK, so let's talk about the RIGHT way to handle

this type of situation.

 

Remember when I said that it's the TENSION that

makes a woman feel the feelings and make the

comments?

 

And that you need to AMPLIFY it when you're

getting a positive response?

 

Nice.

 

Once upon a time, there was a scene in a movie

that illustrated this concept PERFECTLY.

 

In fact, it might be the all-time greatest

example of this principle that has ever been

recorded on film.

 

Remember the end of "The Empire Strikes Back,"

when they were about to put Han Solo into the deep

freeze?

 

Remember when Leia said, "I love you"...?

 

Remember what Han said?

 

Right, he said... "I know."

 

Perfect.

 

All of the sexual tension that built up in Star

Wars and Empire culminated in Leia confessing her

love.

 

And Han says, "I know."

 

Awesome!

 

Imagine being Leia. What could be going through

her mind at this point?

 

An answer like this isn't easy to understand.

It has all kinds of implications.

 

It's confusing.

 

It says, "I know you love me, because it's been

obvious for a long time...." But, it doesn't let

HER know how he feels exactly. It requires

consideration. It dials up the tension. It's

amazing.

 

By the way, I read that when they were filming

that scene, Han was supposed to answer, "I love

you too," but the director didn't like it. They

tried all kinds of things, and in the end Harrison

Ford made up that line on the spot in one of the

takes... and they kept it. Nice.

 

By the way, one of the BIG reasons why the

newer movies in the Star Wars series suck is

because there is no character like Han... think

about it. It's all boring, predictable stuff.

There's no sexy, arrogant, funny, wildcard

personality messing things up.

 

Like I pointed out after I saw "Attack Of The

Clones," Anakin had to kill an ENTIRE VILLAGE of

Sand People just to convince Princess A. that he

wasn't a complete and total Wuss. Would have been

so much easier and more entertaining if he would

have just had a PERSONALITY.

 

Whatever.

 

Now, where was I...?

 

Oh, yeah... amplifying the sexual tension...

 

If you're out with a woman, and you tease her

because she's wearing four inch heels by saying

"What's the deal, are you four feet tall without

those?", and she opens her mouth with the classic

"Oh no you didn't" look (smiling of course, with

that surprised smile)... and you dial it up to the

next level with "Oh, I'm sorry...Four foot

three?"... and she hits you on the arm...

 

...and then she stops, puts her hand on your

arm, and says, "You know, you're funny"...

 

...what do you do?

 

YOU SAY, "YEAH, I KNOW"... in a serious tone.

 

Or "Don't try to use compliments to make me

like you. It won't work. Go buy me a drink or

something... I prefer gifts and money."

 

Or look down at her hand on your arm, lean back

slightly, turn your head, and put your eyebrows

together as if to say "Just WHAT do you think

you're doing touching me?!"

 

TURN IT UP, my friend!

 

You TURN UP the tension.

 

AMPLIFY it.

 

Keep it going.

 

If you keep amplifying the tension and

attraction at each of these wonderful moments,

good things will happen.

 

Good stuff.[/hide]

@Dan's E-mail: Mixed signals I FROWN UPON! <_<

So, so far....

 

• Movies
  
• Kites
  
• Picnic
  
• Botanical Gardens
  
• Cool Beach
  
• Library (Gotta laugh at this one...)
  
• Mall
  
• Major Outlet Stores
  
• Mini-golf
  
• Ice Skating
  
• Dancing
  
• Home
  
• Park
  
• Concert
  
• Cricket game
  
• Flea Market
  
• Wake boarding/skiing/snowboarding or some other adrenaline sport
  
• Water park
  
• Zoo
  
• Party
  
• Poker game
  
• Surfing
  

 

 

Woo, nice list.

 

Oh, and if you get yourself into a staring contest with a girl, and you always win because she always starts laughing, that's good, right?

 

Jeez, it's kinda funny, 'cause all the time when we catch us eyeing each other, we'd give this "funny look" to each other and stare for a bit. Something in between a " :wink: " and a " :cool: " .

Oh, and if you get yourself into a staring contest with a girl, and you always win because she always starts laughing, that's good, right?

 

Jeez, it's kinda funny, 'cause all the time when we catch us eyeing each other, we'd give this "funny look" to each other and stare for a bit. Something in between a " :wink: " and a " :cool: " .

I laugh when I'm in staring contests regardless of gender or my interest in them. So I unno.

 

Are you speaking about a girlfriend or some girl you like?

 

Oh, and if you get yourself into a staring contest with a girl, and you always win because she always starts laughing, that's good, right?

 

Jeez, it's kinda funny, 'cause all the time when we catch us eyeing each other, we'd give this "funny look" to each other and stare for a bit. Something in between a " :wink: " and a " :cool: " .

 

As far as my experience goes, if a girl wants to initiate staring contests with you on a regular basis, she's looking for an excuse to look at you, which is definitely a good thing.

 

At least, that was the case for me, once.

Oh, and if you get yourself into a staring contest with a girl, and you always win because she always starts laughing, that's good, right?

 

Jeez, it's kinda funny, 'cause all the time when we catch us eyeing each other, we'd give this "funny look" to each other and stare for a bit. Something in between a " :wink: " and a " :cool: " .

I laugh when I'm in staring contests regardless of gender or my interest in them. So I unno.

 

Are you speaking about a girlfriend or some girl you like?

Girl I like, she does have a boyfriend though :? .

Some girls are just really flirty, touchy feely and intense like that. I work with my friend's girlfriend, and she always pokes me, stares me out, pulls faces and steals my stuff when we're at work.