I hate women. ):

eh, all I know is the "let nature take its course" way of getting women will lead to very few relationships [GOOD ONES] but it takes a LOT of time, and a LOT of patience. Something I lack these days.

 

Letting nature takes its course leads to few relationships... but not necessarily good ones. The more experience you gain from relationships and the more girls you get to know on a personal level, the more successful your future relationships become. And no, [bleep] buddies and one night stands don't count as experience :)

 

In a sense I'm disappointed in myself, in another sense, I don't care because there's women everywhere to make me happy. Does that make me shallow? Does that make me flawed? Does that mean I have some sort of deep underlying issue?

 

You don't sound very happy >_> Judging by your recent posts I'd say yes, you do have a deep underlying issue. But that's up to you to fix on your own. Do you wanna be flawed for the rest of your life? Do you want to be normal? Or do you want to learn to make the best out of each and every experience-- good and bad?

 

Probably.

 

But as long as my life's a mess, I might as well have fun, right?

 

Doesn't sound like you're having much fun right now. . . if you were I don't think you'd be coming to this forum for reassurance :P

 

 

 

Just my two cents

I hate women. ):

*hugs*

Don't worry too much, are so young, and they're so emotional. :roll:

eh, all I know is the "let nature take its course" way of getting women will lead to very few relationships [GOOD ONES] but it takes a LOT of time, and a LOT of patience. Something I lack these days.

 

Letting nature takes its course leads to few relationships... but not necessarily good ones. The more experience you gain from relationships and the more girls you get to know on a personal level, the more successful your future relationships become. And no, [bleep] buddies and one night stands don't count as experience

 

In a sense I'm disappointed in myself, in another sense, I don't care because there's women everywhere to make me happy. Does that make me shallow? Does that make me flawed? Does that mean I have some sort of deep underlying issue?

 

You don't sound very happy >_> Judging by your recent posts I'd say yes, you do have a deep underlying issue. But that's up to you to fix on your own. Do you wanna be flawed for the rest of your life? Do you want to be normal? Or do you want to learn to make the best out of each and every experience-- good and bad?

 

Probably.

 

But as long as my life's a mess, I might as well have fun, right?

 

Doesn't sound like you're having much fun right now. . . if you were I don't think you'd be coming to this forum for reassurance

 

 

 

Just my two cents

 

 

2 cents ackknowledged :thumbup:.

You're right. I'm not happy. But my ironic sarcasm makes me feel better.

But as long as my life's a mess, I might as well have fun, right?

That's exactly what I thought when I was trying to get out of my depression (which lasted about... two years?). I actually got to the point where I pretended I was someone else, watching my own misery, and doing what I would do to someone else going through that: laugh at it. Yeah, I laughed at myself. It was fun.

 

I hate women. ):

But they're so puuuurdy...

 

Any chance you can tell us why so we (meaning someone who actually knows what they're doing) can somehow help?

 

But really. I know you're doing good (we've talked about it), but getting out there and doing it is the best way to fill yourself up with confidence from your head to your other head toes.

Trust me, I'm working on it. ;)

 

Don't take life too seriously, no one gets out alive anyway.

Nice one. Someone needs to tell that to 99% of my school.

Ok, so I want to call a girl I like but am scared out of my mind and have no idea what I'll say. She likes me as well so I feel like there's even more pressure......Help?

Go blow your nose, brush and floss your teeth (it gets stuff out of your teeth so you won't play with it when you talk). Clear your throat. Lay down on your bed or something. Call her.

 

"Hey, we should hang out (day). Maybe we could (whatever)."

 

That's a pretty good basic thing.

or just text her

That too. The best part about our generation is that it's totally cool to flirt through texts. And it can be easy. Just make sure your ego doesn't write any checks your body can't cash....

Lent, I find myself agreeing with you more and more. Text flirting is not only easy, but its pretty fun. But you don't wan tto put yourself in shoes you can't fill. You can be as flirty as you want in text (or even IM) but if you can't meet that standard in person, it's just not gonna work out.

 

And be sure that you're calm when takling to girls. It helps alot. It helps me to pretend like the girl means less to me. Less pressure that way. It gets easier, especially as the relationship progresses

And be sure that you're calm when takling to girls. It helps alot. It helps me to pretend like the girl means less to me. Less pressure that way. It gets easier, especially as the relationship progresses

I do that. Except in the form of sexist thoughts. Don't really know why.

or just text her

 

Except that's what we've been doing exclusively for about the past week. I just don't know what I'll say to honestly keep a conversation going for more than a couple minutes without it sounding like random giberrish.

or just text her

 

Except that's what we've been doing exclusively for about the past week. I just don't know what I'll say to honestly keep a conversation going for more than a couple minutes without it sounding like random giberrish.

Just relax. Don't think about it too much, you'll psych yourself out. Just do it.

or just text her

 

Except that's what we've been doing exclusively for about the past week. I just don't know what I'll say to honestly keep a conversation going for more than a couple minutes without it sounding like random giberrish.

Interesting [cabbage]. Be loud and obnoxious and flirtatious. If you ever start a conversation with a simple hey and involve absolutely no physical contact, I'll [bleep]ing pistol whip you.

calling > texting

in person > call > text > IM

in person > call > text > IM

In person=Call>IM>Texting

texts are less commitment and easier to terminate for her than phone calls, which is why you definitely text a while before calling

texts are less commitment and easier to terminate for her than phone calls, which is why you definitely text a while before calling

I'd say that it would be better to just talk to her in person. Some people can't talk naturally when they're on the phone, me being one of them. Some people I'm able to pretty much talk non-stop with in person, but won't have much of a conversation with them if I ever call them.

Texting certainly worked well for me with my current girlfriend. We were both in a situation where alone time and even free time were in short supply, so texting was a perfect alternative.

There is also the fact that I am probably better at talking via text where I can think about my replies for a minute than I am at actually talking. I had text-flirted with her a lot more than I had actually talked to her face-to-face before I made a move in person.

Texting certainly worked well for me with my current girlfriend. We were both in a situation where alone time and even free time were in short supply, so texting was a perfect alternative.

There is also the fact that I am probably better at talking via text where I can think about my replies for a minute than I am at actually talking. I had text-flirted with her a lot more than I had actually talked to her face-to-face before I made a move in person.

Seems like a bad habit to get into.

 

I'm really glad I took Lent's advice and learned boner control. Saved my [wagon] today.

IMO talking to a girl in any way shouldn't be a problem, unless you're attempting to go over the final hurdle in actually asking her out. Even that can be easy with the right situation.

 

If it is difficult, it just seems silly to pursue the relationship if you have to force yourself to talk to her in the first place. I mean seriously, just ignore all thoughts of anything you want to pursue her for besides a conversation, and it is just like talking to anyone else in the world. If you mess up, it's highly unlikely she'll laugh in your face.

IMO talking to a girl in any way shouldn't be a problem, unless you're attempting to go over the final hurdle in actually asking her out.

Even in those cases it's not a problem, just grow a pair and straight up ask the girl out. If she's into you she'll say yes, if not she'll come up with some excuse so as not to let you down too harshly. But in the end there's only 2 results, yes or no, and quite honestly most girls will say yes to someone who's confident - ie someone who straight up asks - versus someone who's not.

IMO talking to a girl in any way shouldn't be a problem, unless you're attempting to go over the final hurdle in actually asking her out.

Even in those cases it's not a problem, just grow a pair and straight up ask the girl out. If she's into you she'll say yes, if not she'll come up with some excuse so as not to let you down too harshly. But in the end there's only 2 results, yes or no, and quite honestly most girls will say yes to someone who's confident - ie someone who straight up asks - versus someone who's not.

 

This really only works in school/low value social group.

 

 

I'm really glad I took Lent's advice and learned boner control. Saved my [wagon] today.

 

 

Say what?

Did I miss something?

 

I'd like to hear this piece of advice...