I've been massaged by a male friend (masseuse in training). Incredibly awkward, but it felt so good. It literally made my entire week better.

Has anyone ever tried meditation? does it work at all for stress? I cant exactly afford to go to somewhere like a masseuse/massage therapist to de-stress and lately I've been under ALOT of stress.

 

self massage

 

/thread

...Masturbation?

 

this.

 

or find a friend in a physical therapist major at uni

Then she can do it for you!

Fixed that for you.

I've been massaged by a male friend (masseuse in training). Incredibly awkward, but it felt so good. It literally made my entire week better.

 

which was pretty much my suggestion, though it'd be nice to find a way for it not to be awkward [talk about sports...or something...beer...i dunno haha]

destressing guide:

 

1. identify that which is stressing you

2. can you do anything about it? if no, stop worrying about it. it is out of your hands.

3. if you can do something about it, do that, and then stop worrying, because you've already done all you can.

 

:thumbup:

 

Thats a terrible chart. besides, Learning to cope with stress from unemployment isnt easy when no one is or will hire.

I went from being a skinny gamer with social anxiety who couldn't hold a conversation to making massive progresses in my success with women, got an amazing job and career for life, amazing girl and I'm making gains in the gym I'm really happy with and I'm nobody special. I'm basically stress free, I've got big plans and only going up from here.

 

Why can't you? Instead of stressing, figure out how to solve your issues. If you had timed your stay in Brisbane to the free fork ticket you would be in brissy on $1000 a week by now. If you didn't like the job you would be finding a better one while you worked.

 

You can't find a job? I could barely put a sentence together. If you deal with.[cabbage] effectively it gets easier.

 

It's all out there, all you need to do is work for it.

Booked my Plane-ticket today. Leaving on the 23rd of October. I'm pretty excited. Doha - Heathrow - Miami - Orlando. Going to be a long flight :\ I think Miami to Orlando might be 1st class. Excited about that because i've never traveled 1st class. Most airlines don't offer 1st class anymore.

Only sucky part is that i'll be spending my 21st in the USA, either with people i've only known for a week or alone.

Derp.

Today I realisd how useful friends are when weeding out the [cabbage] girls from the good girls and thus, because of it, going from 2 possibles to 0.

I went from being a skinny gamer with social anxiety who couldn't hold a conversation to making massive progresses in my success with women, got an amazing job and career for life, amazing girl and I'm making gains in the gym I'm really happy with and I'm nobody special. I'm basically stress free, I've got big plans and only going up from here.

 

Why can't you? Instead of stressing, figure out how to solve your issues. If you had timed your stay in Brisbane to the free fork ticket you would be in brissy on $1000 a week by now. If you didn't like the job you would be finding a better one while you worked.

 

You can't find a job? I could barely put a sentence together. If you deal with.[cabbage] effectively it gets easier.

 

It's all out there, all you need to do is work for it.

Pretty sure you had all your anxiety problems etc fixed BEFORE you hit 18 :(

 

Im almost 21 and still struggling because my friends aren't ever around to help.

@halo: When I first saw it it was a flash animation. Back in my day, before YouTube existed ;)

...Team Fortress 2 came out in 2007.

Wow, the jokes are flying right over your head today lmao :D

There's a joke in there?

 

Okay.

 

 

Well, a bad joke...but still :(

 

Today, I have two classes. And I need to drive for half an hour to pick up a package, since purolator only tries to deliver it once :(

Bat your eyes girl, seduce a stranger.

destressing guide:

 

1. identify that which is stressing you

2. can you do anything about it? if no, stop worrying about it. it is out of your hands.

3. if you can do something about it, do that, and then stop worrying, because you've already done all you can.

 

FAR easier said than done. FAR. I mean it's right, but just really hard to actually do.

I went from being a skinny gamer with social anxiety who couldn't hold a conversation to making massive progresses in my success with women, got an amazing job and career for life, amazing girl and I'm making gains in the gym I'm really happy with and I'm nobody special. I'm basically stress free, I've got big plans and only going up from here.

 

Why can't you? Instead of stressing, figure out how to solve your issues. If you had timed your stay in Brisbane to the free fork ticket you would be in brissy on $1000 a week by now. If you didn't like the job you would be finding a better one while you worked.

 

You can't find a job? I could barely put a sentence together. If you deal with.[cabbage] effectively it gets easier.

 

It's all out there, all you need to do is work for it.

Pretty sure you had all your anxiety problems etc fixed BEFORE you hit 18 :(

 

Im almost 21 and still struggling because my friends aren't ever around to help.

 

It seems, Tim, that it is very easy to blame everyone but yourself.

Has anyone ever tried meditation? does it work at all for stress? I cant exactly afford to go to somewhere like a masseuse/massage therapist to de-stress and lately I've been under ALOT of stress.

 

Socialization, drugs (some people prefer religion as their sedative state of mind), and any personal hobby or form of escapism you can find. In some instances, leisure is the most constructive thing you can do.

Has anyone ever tried meditation? does it work at all for stress? I cant exactly afford to go to somewhere like a masseuse/massage therapist to de-stress and lately I've been under ALOT of stress.

 

Socialization, drugs (some people prefer religion as their sedative state of mind), and any personal hobby or form of escapism you can find. In some instances, leisure is the most constructive thing you can do.

I'd go for religion over drugs anyday if I were under lots of pressure. You (Tim) should try meditating and reading some Zen literature (Ryokan is a favourite of mine, see Amazon for some cheap books of his). Meditating does work, but you'll also need to understand the context and ritualism for it to be anything more than pretense and placebo.

 

Edit: If you think you're up for some heavy reading, try Huang Po's teachings on the Transmission of Mind.

Drugs could actually worsen his issues.

Especially if it's anxiety problems.

Drugs could actually worsen his issues.

Especially if it's anxiety problems.

 

Yeah, just one of those things where your mileage may vary. I know of an old guy who used to be a raging alcoholic and would always have some sort of lesson to teach if anybody did so much as stick a toe out of line - he transitioned over to marijuana and now he's the most laid back old guy I know. On the other hand, I've met some who just can't cope with mind-altering effects at all - it would just serve as a catalyst for mischief and drama. My apologies for suggesting such a gamble.

It's okay. Personally I think you should know what affects you and how.

So the option is still a viable one.

Do you smoke weed? If not, try it on a weekend/vacation. I wouldn't do it during the school week in case it affects your brain function too much (you feel pretty stupid, like everything is "thicker" for a little while after smoking).

I've been doing some more events today around Cambridge! Collected my student discount card, dropped some forms in about accommodation and then visited Cambridge University Botanic Gardens with some others as a freshers event. It's seriously beautiful, hundreds of different plants and trees from all around the world. If you have the opportunity to go, don't miss it!

 

Also, I found out today that if I can convince my Personal Tutor that I need to do some extra reading around a particular subject which I need for a module they can give me access to Cambridge University Library. :thumbup:

 

Once I get a camera, I'll post some pictures of Cambridge. :smile:

It seems, Tim, that it is very easy to blame everyone but yourself.

 

Depression is all about finding out what are and what aren't your problems. Once you've found your problems you can deal with them and then you'll be able to ignore all the s*** that isn't your problem.

 

Pretty sure you had all your anxiety problems etc fixed BEFORE you hit

Im almost 21 and still struggling because my friends aren't ever around to help.

Nope, I still have it mildly, and thinking back I did it myself.

Bat your eyes girl, seduce a stranger.

 

Oh hai Bows.

 

where's the pretty girl in your sig?

 

 

@Tim

 

I can't believe these people are telling you to use drugs to compensate with your self-proclaimed less-than-spectacular traits. If you're really determined to change for the better, get yourself out there and through caution to the wind. Talk to strangers, tell stories, eat healthier, exercise, get people together to play sports, start a protest against something...or just make [cabbage] in a workshop [i've learned this is quite fun]

 

Get cultured as long as you're not able to make bank

It's just a choice you know, and it's helped some people as posted before.

 

But go with RPG's suggestion, since it's the healthier and safer way to help your social issues.

 

Oh and another thing, wisely choose your friends. If you can't go to your friends for help with anything, I myself wouldn't regard them as friends.

Ugh. Being sick sucks. I've had it for three days now, too. Usually I'm only sick for a day or two. :(