How would you raise your children?

[Zierro]

Or if you already have children, how do you try raising them?

 

 

 

I would be the nice dad - I'd let my wife do all the disciplining. :D But if they ever got into any serious trouble then I'd set them straight. I'd try to let them live pretty independent lives but I would want the family to eat dinner together because I think casual conversation is very important for a healthy family.

[deathdrow]

i can't imagine myself being a father. im too..i don't know what the word is. to have kids. I'd be an awful parent.

[EdgedThesis]

I would read to him or her so much.

 

 

 

I'd buy a ton of books.

 

 

 

I'd let the kid know that I have absolute trust in him, but that if he/she ever broke that trust then our bond would be severely wounded.

 

 

 

I wouldn't force family dinners, but I'd suggest them, while faking sadness XD

 

 

 

 

I bet someone's going to reference the Adolf Hitler guy

[Lenin64]

I'd probably be a bad father. The disciplinarian, iron-fisted and harsh, constant as the Northern Star and unwavering in judgement. I might not have kids anyway, so perhaps it doesn't matter.

 

 

 

And points if you know where the quote is, and what it's from.

[Th3_Crusader]

If I only had one kid, I could spoil him/her to death. Not literally to death;; but you know.

 

 

 

One thing is for sure;; When I'm out in public with them, they better not be whining because that is what I hate about taking children in public. No one wants to hear a child scream like they're going to die if they don't get a cookie.

[deathdrow]

If I only had one kid, I could spoil him/her to death. Not literally to death;; but you know.

 

 

 

One thing is for sure;; When I'm out in public with them, they better not be whining because that is what I hate about taking children in public. No one wants to hear a child scream like they're going to die if they don't get a cookie.

 

then why would you spoil your kid? spoiling your kids is what makes kids act like that, if you give them everything they want, and don't punish them, they think they can get away with acting like that.

[ElkNight]

I would put him out in the forest and have him survive on his own.

[Zierro]

If I only had one kid, I could spoil him/her to death. Not literally to death;; but you know.

 

 

 

One thing is for sure;; When I'm out in public with them, they better not be whining because that is what I hate about taking children in public. No one wants to hear a child scream like they're going to die if they don't get a cookie.

 

 

 

Yeah being respectful in public is a biggie. I would double the punishment if they pulled a shenanigan in front of strangers. They dare not disgrace the family's name! :evil:

[doomy]

I'd be nice, but as I do now, I hate it when people really piss me off just to piss me off, so ya, definately disipline them if they do something wrong though, especially something direspectful in public.

 

 

 

I'd hit them if they constantly did something that deserves it, but of course thats against the law now :roll:

 

 

 

Uh yeah, I'd get them into sports early as well.

[IGoddessI]

I raise my son with a combination of knowledge that I've found useful and experiences that I've found to be pleasant. A lot of love and a lot of laughter. Positive reinforcement and encouragement to try new things. I'm proud of him no matter what he does in life and I will always be here for him. He is my definition of true happiness in life. You will never know how much love you can have for another person until you hold your newborn son or daughter in your arms for the first time. I can't wait to build our first sand castle together and hang his first drawing on the fridge. I know I will cry tears of happiness the first time he says "I love you too mummy". Of all my achievements through life, he is definitely my best and will forever hold that title.

 

 

 

My soul mate and my son:

 

 

 

 

 

 

By the way if you punish your child in public differently from how you punish them at home they will learn that you handle misbehaves differently and are more likely to repeat the performance again at a later date. Especially if you're a lot more quieter because you're worried about everyone else in the mall judging you.

 

 

 

A calm parent has control, an angry parent will always lose because you are encouraging a fight and a challenge.

 

 

 

Punishing your child for a temper tantrum can send the wrong message. They are learning to explore their feelings. Not only that they can associate your attention to negative behaviour and act this way in the future because they know it causes a reaction in you. If you tell your child not to do something, at least replace it with a new behaviour that is acceptable or they won't know what to do instead of the negative behaviour.

 

 

 

If you want to "double" the punishment then you're only teaching your child to fear you. Sit on the floor and look up to your tallest friend standing. Add screaming and yelling, this is what your child sees. A wise man once said if you have to demand respect, then it was never deserved to begin with.

 

 

 

Some of you are still kids. I think many opinions here will change when they decide to actually have kids. It is fun to think about though.

 

 

 

Things will never work exactly like you pictured it. An example, I wanted to fully breastfeed my son for a minimum of 6 months. My expectations were never met because he has a severe lactose intolerance. Although it didn't prevent me from breastfeeding all together, the duration that I had to put him on formula was sadly enough time to cease my milk supply.

 

 

 

Be open for change. Thank you for this thread.

[Lenticular_J]

An elevator or escalator. Get it? Raise? HA.

 

 

 

I dunno, I'm not even sure if I want kids. I'd want to be the most awesome dad ever, though. Like, THE MOST AWESOME.

 

 

 

Most awesome.

[purfishx]

I'm going to spoil my daughter and do everything with my son.

 

 

 

I'm going to beat their [wagon] too.. if they do something bad, don't get the wrong ideas here. :D

[Hawks]

Encourage them in whatever they want to do, unless it's illegal.

 

Read to them A LOT.

 

Try to do stuff that they want to do. Fun outings, go to the zoo, go ice skating, whatever.

 

Follow the 'Love and Logic' disipline model. Basically it's appearing to care while not caring. i.e. The kid wants to wear stripes and plaid and you say you can wear one today, and the other tomorrow. etc.

[IGoddessI]

Encourage them in whatever they want to do, unless it's illegal.

 

Read to them A LOT.

 

Try to do stuff that they want to do. Fun outings, go to the zoo, go ice skating, whatever.

 

Follow the 'Love and Logic' disipline model. Basically it's appearing to care while not caring. i.e. The kid wants to wear stripes and plaid and you say you can wear one today, and the other tomorrow. etc.

 

 

 

That made me smile I think you will make a great parent one day :D

[Returned3]

I'd definitely introduce my son to wrestling.

[rangeor]

The "cool" dad, as Lenticular said. I'll be pretty lenient with most stuff, but I won't be scared to punish him if he acts out of line. And i'll make sure he's got his basic manners and social tact learned at an early age, considering my brother severely lacks both and is already 11 years rold :wall:

[Nenga]

Wait till they are old enough (4 or 5 should be good), then i'd give them a bottle of whisky, a 19. handgun, $350, and tell them to hit the road and be free. I should be nominated for man of the year. :twss:

[oreocookie987]

My son is going to be the kid your son wishes he was and I'm going to be the dad your kid wishes he had.

[RussianFed55]

I'd raise them bilingually (probably Spanish, though Vulgar Latin or Esperanto would be awesome), or possibly French or German. I would raise them Christian (ECLA Lutheran). I would raise them with all of the traditions I grew up with. I would raise them to be geographically aware, to be responsible, and to be respectful and close to their family, and to be tolerant, and set a good example. And most importantly, to aim to do good in school and go to college.

 

 

 

I would name them Isabella, Emma, Felix, or Landon.

[Da_Latios]

I'd be a very strict parent. Probably make them learn 4 languages by the time they're 15, but I'm very likely to give them alot of spending money, as my parents are this way to me.

[dsavi]

An elevator or escalator. Get it? Raise? HA.

 

You stole my joke. As soon as I saw the thread title I thought, "With a forklift".

 

 

 

Really, I don't know. I haven't thought about it that much.

[pureprayer]

An elevator or escalator. Get it? Raise? HA.

 

You stole my joke. As soon as I saw the thread title I thought, "With a forklift".

 

 

 

Really, I don't know. I haven't thought about it that much.

 

You got some scary big kids.

 

 

 

Either that or you need to pump your lats.

[megakiller32]

They would be born with a controller in thier hands, so they kick thier friends [wagon] at all video games when they're older.

 

 

 

However I raise my kids, my wife would have a significant input into it, and there's one thing i've learned for how to raise kids.

 

However I do it, I know how NOT to do it from my own father.

[Rainy_Day]

I'd be nice to any children I have. I wouldn't annoy them with the rubbish saying "Do as I do not as I tell you", which is very annoying. I'd never smack them or anything, but I doubt I'd get to the stage that I would scream at them. I would probably spoil them however. And I'd use my own dad as an example as what not to do. :P

[IGoddessI]

However I raise my kids, my wife would have a significant input into it, and there's one thing i've learned for how to raise kids.

 

However I do it, I know how NOT to do it from my own father.

 

 

 

And I'd use my own dad as an example as what not to do.

 

 

 

I was waiting for the first couple of people to say this line. One thing every child will do is learn from their own parents strengths and weaknesses and apply them to raising their own child, the best way they know how. It is my only hope that my own son too learns this lesson and raises his son or daughter better than I raise him. That to me, is the best lesson in life. Even the best parent in the world isn't perfect. And to those who had negative childhood experiences it is my only hope that it has given you great inner strength to be it's polar opposite. The first five years of your child's life is what mounds and shapes years of solid foundation. Use your time wisely.

 

 

 

Mega you sound like the type of son who looks after his mum and sisters. You will make a great husband and father one day. Be careful not to be possessive of females you have a close bond with as it could cause you trouble. Please use your physical strength for inner healing and not physical challenge.

 

 

 

Rainy you will do an excellent job at teaching your children the very important life skill of calmness. Screaming never gets anyone anywhere, other than an added extra distance behind the starting line. The more someone displays this behaviour, the further behind the starting line they begin. It takes a lot of acts of kindness and understanding to get back to where they once began and can move forward. Due to this, a lot of people are given up on before they even begin to proceed forward. You will probably find happiness with a life partner who is the complete opposite of this. Someone who does not judge you nor take advantage of your forgiving nature.