How would you raise your children?

[Peronix]

When I have kids, most importantly, when they're throwing a tantrum or angry at me I'll let them be, but while they are in that state I'm going to ignore them. When they misbehave, I won't hesitate to discipline them, but I'll do it without showing any signs of anger or frustration. When they're in a calm, happy, or otherwise balanced state of mind I'll shower them with love and attention. This way they learn, not to be afraid of their emotions or me, but that that kind of negative energy isn't going to get them what they want. And by calmly disciplining them where due, I'm not being a hypocrite because I'm showing them that I'm not using anger to get them to do what I want, either.

 

 

 

It's my hope that by doing this they'll be a lot better off than I have been. My own father was always so defensive and took everything personally, and told us we had no right to be mad at him, and demanded our respect. Me and both of my siblings have been very shy as a result, and have had a very hard time making friends. It's been very difficult for me to overcome... I'm learning things right now that I feel I should have learned a LONG time ago. I don't want my kids to have to go through that.

[IGoddessI]

Peronix I don't think you need to hope that your kids will be better off than you have been. You have an extremely intelligent understanding of childhood behaviour. Something you have shown us all is how to be very courageous. It takes an extremely strong person to admit they have flaws, have made mistakes and are not afraid to be vulnerable. People like your father who come across verbally dominant and so defensive are only defending insecurities. People who seem to have no flaws are actually pretty weak natured when it comes to self control. I'm positive your children will have lots of friends and confidence, just like their courageous father. I'm sorry that you sometimes feel lonely but you are silently making a difference which can sometimes be better than someone making a loud entrance. I guarantee that on the inside your dad is silently, a lonely, lonely man. Who wants to talk to an angry person? Or someone who thinks they have no faults? Not I. Do you?

 

 

 

As I mentioned earlier... People who demand respect never deserved it to begin with.

 

 

 

By the way being shy isn't necessarily a bad thing. It teaches you the art of listening skills. Sometimes that's all someone needs, someone who will stop talking so much and not say anything at all.

[RichieMcD]

I'd be a dad which has respectful kids, I'd make sure of that. I'd allow them to live a pretty independent life but I'd help lead it subtly. I'd let them discover the negative side effects of things like Alcohol or Marijuana through their own trial and error as saying "alcohol is bad" will never make them aware of how much they can handle when the time comes to them finally breaking away from their parents.

 

 

 

I'd make sure I'm nothing like my dad, a hypocritical workaholic who has extremely unrealistic goals for all his children and compares them to any kid he knows who's good at something one of his children isn't.

[Furah]

Being the computer person I am, my children will be using computers before they can walk. I will introduce them to gaming from a very early age, trying to bring them upto my level asap, while keeping them active aswell so they do not become obese. If the kid wants to get into dancing, I'll take them to a dance studio, if they want to hack I won't stop them I'll just tell them to keep it to their computer(s) and the guest one, if they want to join the military I will get a gun licence so they can get a minor licence and learn how to safely use a firearm. I will also base the relationship on trust, keep within my boundries I won't care, step one inch over the line and they won't again.

[deathdrow]

An elevator or escalator. Get it? Raise? HA.

 

You stole my joke. As soon as I saw the thread title I thought, "With a forklift".

 

 

 

Really, I don't know. I haven't thought about it that much.

 

I just got that joke. cause. raise your children. and elevators and escalators take you up places. ha.

[meol]

I don't even know if I'll ever have children. :lol: I'd teach by example and not be hypocritical. I would try to become a friend of my children, having them feel I'll be there for them when they have troubles -a distant and cold father is worse than an authoritarian father. I'd teach them the ways of respect and compassion to others, but let build their own moral code. I wouldn't spoil them with toys or money, but I'd always support their interests, be it the piano or marine biology.

 

 

 

Most importantly, I'd always try to explain my actions to them. If I punish my kid, I'll be sure explain him why his actions were wrong, and why I'm punishing him. Answer all their questions with honesty and never be arbitrary.

[dragoonson]

they will be thought to hate stupid people,and be punished when performing acts of stupidity.

[Quoi_Tu]

Same way I was raised, in an independent lenient manner. I will also gladly meet boyfriends at the door with a shot gun or blunt object. As for when they are younger, I'll most likely try to enable hobbies, sports, and activities as much as I can.

[deathdrow]

they will be thought to hate stupid people,and be punished when performing acts of stupidity.

 

what would if you did something stupid?

 

would you punish yourself?

[Giordano]

Just as my parents raised me but a little bit more connective with my child. My parents gave me independence in essence; never told me what to wear, believe, do, etc. But they just seem distant from me...I wanna fix that with my kids.

 

 

 

But one thing I would do: I won't let them be [bleep]s/manwhores. :shame:

[Sam]

If they piss me off, I stay calm :P

 

 

 

Encourage them to do stuff they like, as long as it isn't illegal and whatnot.

 

 

 

I would want them to set an example, and be tolerant of other skin colours/religion etc.

 

 

 

And encourage them to try hard in school, because they'll be the ones that grow up and get all the brilliant job opportunites and sweet pay.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That's the psychology that have my parents have used on me, and I full believe in it too.

[dragoonson]

they will be thought to hate stupid people,and be punished when performing acts of stupidity.

 

what would if you did something stupid?

 

would you punish yourself?

 

 

 

How many faceplants did it take to come up with stupidity like that?I can do stupid things because I make it funny,fool.

[Lenticular_J]

Same way I was raised, in an independent lenient manner. I will also gladly meet boyfriends at the door with a shot gun or blunt object. As for when they are younger, I'll most likely try to enable hobbies, sports, and activities as much as I can.

 

Mmm, this is probably going to be me. I'll make damn sure my son(s) get into sports or something when they're young. I didn't, so I'm kinda behind right now. I'll make 'em be smart muscley-arms.

 

 

 

I'll also inspire them to be adventurers and heroes.

[Quoi_Tu]

Same way I was raised, in an independent lenient manner. I will also gladly meet boyfriends at the door with a shot gun or blunt object. As for when they are younger, I'll most likely try to enable hobbies, sports, and activities as much as I can.

 

Mmm, this is probably going to be me. I'll make damn sure my son(s) get into sports or something when they're young. I didn't, so I'm kinda behind right now. I'll make 'em be smart muscley-arms.

 

 

 

I'll also inspire them to be adventurers and heroes.

 

And motorcyclists? :thumbsup:

[ThurinEthir]

I'm Asian, so *whip whip*, do your math!

 

 

 

Seriously though? My parents never did that to me. And I don't think I would ever do that to any kid I might have. The only things I might drive into their mind are good morals. Discipline wouldn't be too harsh, but I'd take it a step past "Don't do that again!" I'd definitely try to find them a sport they enjoy early on, as well as whatever else they may like. If they end up like me and don't really enjoy any sports when they're young, that would be fine. As long as they're doing more than staying home and playing video games all day.

[rangeor]

Oh, and if I catch my kids doing any illegal stuff, i'll make sure that they'll be wishing they were never born.

[Lenin64]

Oh, and if I catch my kids doing any illegal stuff, i'll make sure that they'll be wishing they were never born.

 

Depending on the super dee duper power you choose, you can make that actually happen.

[Lenticular_J]

Oh, and if I catch my kids doing any illegal stuff, i'll make sure that they'll be wishing they were never born.

 

I'll give 'em a high-five.

[dragoonson]

I'd raise them up so they can stand on mountains.I'd raise them up to walk on stormy seas.They'd be strong standing on my shoulders.I'd raise them up to be slightly less than I could be.

[blushenka]

Not the first time I think about this, and I think I have no idea how to raise a kid. I don't like baby-talking to small children and I'm not particularly fond of them either :P I think I'd also have problems with imposing my will and expressing authority. I'd probably be like my mother was to me, like sort of a big sister, and give advice, but in the end let them make their own decisions. Which is sort of cool, except now I think parents should tell their children what to do, even if at the time their children disagree with them. So yeah, it's tricky. Also I wouldn't want to hear my kids telling me at some point 'oh it's your fault I'm like this or like that', or even implying it. So yeah I think that in the off-chance that I do have kids, their father will have to deal with their education :P

[IGoddessI]

And motorcyclists? :thumbsup:

 

 

 

Sure son, eat my dirt :lol: 8-)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[hiimben]

I'd raise them up so they can stand on mountains.I'd raise them up to walk on stormy seas.They'd be strong standing on my shoulders.I'd raise them up to be slightly less than I could be.

 

 

 

You sly dog. You awesome, sly dog.

[deathdrow]

uh oh.

[Lenticular_J]

Goddess is an even new level of awesome.

 

 

 

We need to make a motorcycle gang on Tip.It.

[deathdrow]

Goddess is an even new level of awesome.

 

 

 

We need to make a motorcycle gang on Tip.It.

 

if that happened would you beat up the kids with big wheels?