How would you raise your children?

[Lordjake]

I'd let him name himself and wear scuba flippers if he wanted to.

[Deiophobus]

I would try to raise them so they would not turn out like myself.

[Piscis_Rex]

I won't use myself or other people as an example of why my kids are wrong, if that doesn't make any sense, the examples below should help explain:

 

 

 

"well, you should be good a [X], I was always good at [X]"

 

OR

 

"why can you never hand your work in, your [Friend/Brother/Sister] always could" (this one's even worse if the person being referred to is dead)

 

 

 

This doesn't help, if anything, it just makes the child resent the person being used as an example, well, it did for me anyway

[Zierro]

I won't use myself or other people as an example of why my kids are wrong, if that doesn't make any sense, the examples below should help explain:

 

 

 

"well, you should be good a [X], I was always good at [X]"

 

OR

 

"why can you never hand your work in, your [Friend/Brother/Sister] always could" (this one's even worse if the person being referred to is dead)

 

 

 

This doesn't help, if anything, it just makes the child resent the person being used as an example, well, it did for me anyway

 

 

 

Good point. Everyone is different so it just seems futile to compare. However, if it was something important like school then I would try to figure out the differences myself and make my son/daughter try to have the same mentality as the one who turns in their work - just for that particular aspect.

 

 

 

For example, if my son doesn't turn in his work because he is on RS too much and my daughter does because she doesn't play RS then I'd tell him that he can only play after his work is done.

[dorcus1]

The first thing I'd teach my child(ren) would be to THINK. Creatively. Differently. Quickly. Passionately, if that works. I hope the day never comes that one of my kids would not care about learning. Even if it's learning ancient history... or gaming.

 

 

 

Then I'd use logical consequences (not punishments. Especially not corporal punishment) to let them learn. So you're gonna throw a tantrum in public? That's futile, but OK, I have plenty of time. Don't do your homework? Fine. Get bad grades because of that? I'm disappointed, but fine. Have to stay behind a grade? Okay. Hope you've learned something from this.

 

I know this would seem to be too much hands-off parenting. I'd be like a big brother, while my wife would probably do most of the "real" parenting. My only worry is that I'd be so relaxed about discipline that I wouldn't bail my kids out of a problem before it becomes a full-blown crisis. But life's a learning experience. Live and learn.

 

 

 

Yeah, I'd be the parent to just let his kids run loose. And my wife would be the relatively strict one to compensate. Although I haven't thought too much about being a parent. All my schoolwork and college applications and gaming keep me grounded in the present.

[Boris5000]

I would hope to be that laid-back dad... The super cool Uncle... and the interesting grand father...

 

 

 

But if a woman would only see that I am a good man... :roll:

[Racheya]

I wouldn't preferably since I hate kids :thumbsup:

 

 

 

But I'd not get drunk and annoy the kid about how much I love them when I come in at 2 in the morning puking on the floor like my parents do -.-

 

I'd feed the kid, give it good internet access, games ect that it needs. Some money to get by but not so much that it becomes a spoiled brat. Brand label trainers so it doesn't get picked on by people but cheap clothes for everything else :thumbsup: I'd teach it tolerance for everybody of all backgrounds, cultures, ages, religions, sexualities ect but wouldn't try to say you have to like everybody. I'd try to get my child to become intellectual and interested in learning but sometimes it just won't work.

 

 

 

I'll let the kid have whatever hobbies he/she wants as long as it doesn't hurt anybody else. I'd show the child that there's more to life than what some of their friends might think. That reality television, football & celebrities are not the be all and end all of life.

 

 

 

I'd also raise my child under the church of Googleism and the ways of lulz :twss:

 

 

 

I'd want to be the sort of parent that can be told anything. I'd talk to my children about sex and relationships but I wouldn't expect them to be open to me. A lot of people think that if you're open with a child they'll be open with you. Children will still lie when they get their first boyfriend/girlfriend and when they start having sex... it's just what kids and teenagers do.

 

 

 

I won't stand a chav child though - oh no no no. Anything but a chav :ohnoes:

 

 

 

 

 

Yeah that wasn't a very fluent post but it was the first stuff that came to mind :P

[purfishx]

[epic post]

 

 

 

will you marry me?

[IGoddessI]

Thinking that your son would behave to an external stimuli the same way your daughter does is just ignorance. Come to think of it, thinking that any personality would react in the same way comes down to ignorance. Never compare your son and daughter to each other. They are both different people, with different personalities and are unique in their own way. Comparing sisters to brothers and brothers to sisters only creates hatred. Hatred directed at YOU and hatred directed at the percieved favourite child. Doing this can really screw up your family and damage any potential build of relationship.

 

 

 

But if a woman would only see that I am a good man...

 

 

 

Maybe that's just it. You need a real woman and not just a girl. :thumbup: :thumbup:

[dsavi]

Goddess is an even new level of awesome.

 

 

 

We need to make a motorcycle gang on Tip.It.

 

Oh my, that just made me imagine a motercycle gang made of the people that most of us are... No, I don't think so. :ohnoes:

[brunokiller]

I don't have a father, so I wouldn't know how to do it lol.

[purfishx]

I don't have a father, so I wouldn't know how to do it lol.

 

 

 

Improvise!

[Da_Latios]

I don't have a father, so I wouldn't know how to do it lol.

 

I'll be your son for a week. If I'm still alive, you've done a good job.

[pureprayer]

I don't have a father, so I wouldn't know how to do it lol.

 

 

 

Improvise!

 

Lets not joke about now having a dad.

[RpgGamer]

I want my kids to be raised exactly like me. Except, with a more prominent father figure. The way I plan on raising my kids, they'll be smart, disciplined, and probably lacking creativity. It's a fair trade off though. I'm going to be very conservitive about everything though. As libereal as I am, I want my kid nothing like that. My kid will certainly have an open mind, but (s)he certainly won't love everything. I'll also spit out life lessons like a damn fortune cookie like my dad did for me. It's what made me what i am today. And I think I'm a pretty good person.

 

Here's some main points I'll enforce:

 

Fairness

 

Justice

 

Unbias

 

Judgement

 

Open minded

 

perception is reality

 

keep your eyes open and your head up, there more to this world than you can see

 

athletic

 

musical talent

 

jewish morals and ethics

 

jewish traditions

 

reading lessons at 4

 

math lessons at 3

 

logical thinking at 5

 

minimal videogames until 12

 

how to address people

 

respect

 

more respect (its that important)

 

how to meet people

 

drugs/drinking = bad

 

 

 

Everything else I'll let him/her decide. Of course, I'll vote whether or not it's for the greater good or not.

 

It does seem a bit tight and hard, but it's how I was rasied. And so will my kid. And I'll be damned if (s)he isn't.

[purfishx]

I don't have a father, so I wouldn't know how to do it lol.

 

 

 

Improvise!

 

Lets not joke about now having a dad.

 

 

 

I had a dad for about a week. :roll:

[IGoddessI]

I don't have a father, so I wouldn't know how to do it lol.

 

 

 

When you hold your little girl or boy for the first time, it will all come naturally for you. It's something you learn along the way *hugs* and you can use some role models or life experiences that have helped you to lean back on if you're feeling stuck.

[Ginger_Warrior]

I don't have a father, so I wouldn't know how to do it lol.

 

I've not had a mother for 9 years. I went on holiday with my family and another couple with an 18 month old baby. I fed her, give her her bottle and took care of her no problem.

 

 

 

It's instinctive, trust me.

[brunokiller]

O then it's all good \

 

 

 

ps: if you are wondering, it was all that sperm donor stuff.

[Nero]

Never really thought about it. I'd probably be pretty strict when it came to misbehaving and mouthing off and stuff like that, but I'd be fine with them going off and doing their own thing (like staying out late with friends and whatnot).

 

I'd definitely send him/her to french immersion school through grade school though, possibly high school as well.

[IGoddessI]

O then it's all good \

 

 

 

ps: if you are wondering, it was all that sperm donor stuff.

 

 

 

This is probably a little too personal but are you going to meet the donor one day? You don't need to answer that if you don't want to.

 

 

 

I was watching something on tv the other day about kids meeting their donor parents so figured I would ask.

[Lateralus]

O then it's all good \

 

 

 

ps: if you are wondering, it was all that sperm donor stuff.

 

 

 

This is probably a little too personal but are you going to meet the donor one day? You don't need to answer that if you don't want to.

 

 

 

I was watching something on tv the other day about kids meeting their donor parents so figured I would ask.

 

 

 

I was told something about how children born from sperm donors have the legal right to see the records kept by the donor clinic if they want to meet their biological father. I have to say I don't understand this at all. Firstly, if you donate to a sperm clinic you shouldn't have to have anything to do with any children that might come from your donation, even if it only amounts to hanging up the phone or slamming a door in their face. Your records should be kept private. Secondly, I don't understand the impulse to want to meet your biological father in scenarios like these.

[tripsis]

The most important thing for me would not be someone my children fear. I don't want them to see me as someone who just disciplines or gets mad all the time. I want them to be able to come to me for everything and not be afraid to do so.

[Zierro]

Be open for change. Thank you for this thread.

 

 

 

Oh you are very welcome. :

 

 

 

The most important thing for me would not be someone my children fear. I don't want them to see me as someone who just disciplines or gets mad all the time. I want them to be able to come to me for everything and not be afraid to do so.

 

 

 

I think it's possible to both fear and love your parents. My folks can get pretty scary sometimes but I still respect them and it that scare tactic is probably one of the main reasons I never get into any trouble.

[RpgGamer]

The most important thing for me would not be someone my children fear. I don't want them to see me as someone who just disciplines or gets mad all the time. I want them to be able to come to me for everything and not be afraid to do so.

 

 

 

The flaw in that logic is there comes a point where your forgiving, "i won't get mad, it's okay" attitude is...the kid will start believing it. The things they do would get worse and worse (in theory) because they have the belief that as long as they come to you, it's still okay. Atleast that's a pattern I've noticed.