Oh teh noes you guys oh teh noes.

 

High school is a [bleep]ing joke lol.

So is life :rolleyes:

Not on the HSS.

High school scale

o_o

I had the worst test thrown at me last night at a pub. I was flirting with a bartender, when another female barkeep comes up and tells me I look too young to be in a bar. I could handle that, and replied with something like 'yeah I'm 13, gotta love my fake id.' That would have worked most of the time, but she wasn't finished and came back with 'you look 5.' Boom. I had nothing. Came up with I will look 20 when I'm 80 while she will look like a catchers mitt about 10 seconds later. You always think of the best things to say when it's too late :(

 

Girls that get hit on a lot (bartenders for example) will tend to test more often, and more aggressively. They aren't [bleep]es, they just have a '[bleep] shield' to fend off all the low value guys who can't handle it. Once you start passing them they are usually really nice people.

Off Topic: That "The Game" book that Ryan gave me from you, so far is a load of bollocks. it barely teaches anything that supposed to help a guy who's extremely shy. >:(

It was Lent that recommended it.

I blame Lent then. BLAMEEEEE!

BLAAAAMMMEEE

 

Oh teh noes you guys oh teh noes.

 

High school is a [bleep]ing joke lol.

So is life :rolleyes:

 

 

Not on the HSS.

High school scale

o_o

Epic Quote

Not on the HSS.

High school scale

o_o

I'm too stupid to get it :wall:

I blame Lent then. BLAMEEEEE!

It's the best place to start, I believe. I know plenty of places online I could point you to, but I generally don't tell anyone about them until they've read the book. And obviously you haven't read it, because if you had you'd know that the term "shy" is used by average guys scared of rejection who want to find some sort of personality trait that explains their inability to be social. It's like that trend that popped up lately where anyone who isn't social and plays a lot of videogames claims they have Asperger's Syndrome.

 

Not saying there aren't people who are literally scared of social interaction (or have Asperger's Syndrome), but the number of people who claim they have it far outnumbers the people who do.

 

I personally prefer the Cocky Funny method, but I haven't found a personal favorite place to read up on it. You really have to figure a lot of it out on your own with some basic instruction. Could buy some e-books, I think David DeAngelo's is popular and covers Cocky Funny in depth, but I haven't read it. Direct Game isn't bad either if you think you have the stones for it, but I don't even know who coined it, so I can't point towards a book or anything either.

 

My brother has a 16gb USB drive full of stuff like this, but he took it with him to Dallas. Bummer.

Not really looking for advice, just if anyone cares, someone I had a huge crush on for like two years, and then still had some feelings for ever since just asked me to a dance, which I'm really happy about :grin: .

Just make sure not to smother him babe (thumbs up emoticon).

I smothered my first boyfriend,I guess, but then I realized what I was doing wrong, and I've tried to not repeat that mistake. So hopefully this will go well.

I smothered my first boyfriend,I guess, but then I realized what I was doing wrong, and I've tried to not repeat that mistake. So hopefully this will go well.

 

 

Good luck

WELL

im back again, and i seem to have made progress.

Pretty much, we talk, we see each other, and to tell you the truth, i have no [CABBAGE]ing clue where to go from here -.-

Any suggestions on getting that first date? if it can be called that.

Oh, and it seems lenticular has found my fault :oops:

you and your Asperger's syndrome :wall:

Just ask?

Why do people type [cabbage] instead of the actual swear and let the filter do it themselves?

Its kinda annoying and weird.

 

Alex, study your relationship closely. If you think its going well than just throw yourself out there. There is no reason not to. If you get rejected its not a big deal really.

Thats quite a cowardly approach, though, and if I were that girl, I'd probably say no just to be contrary and to punish the guy for being a coward.

 

Then again, not every woman is as difficult as I am, so it might work.

We should go out some time. You going to be in New York anytime soon?

 

New York, huh... No. Next time I'm crossing the pond, it's to go to Vancouver. But yeah, we'd instantly hit it off, or fly at each others throats in about 5 minutes. Could easily go either way.

 

this is a bit off-topic but Rebdragon What is this! You've basically left Rs but your posting on TIF Off Topic?! GET ON SODB NAOW!

 

and Sumpta, I wouldn't always say thats the case. I've played it like that before and when he asked that I said something like.... I don't know, maybe you should ask sometime in person :)

 

But anyway, women play it how we want it, we control you all! :D

 

Like I said, it might work with other girls. Just offering a different perspective, to explain if the approach doesn't work. I get really annoyed by dithering guys who are obviously interested but then try to push me into an acknowledgment they don't dare to make themselves. I don't mind flirting, I don't mind the whole "will we/they, won't we/they" and I'm freaked out by guys who lay it all out in the open on the first date, but this kind of "I don't mind that she scratches her nose if it helps me save my own face" kind of behaviour makes me look for the nearest exit.

Ok guys, it isn't me who needs help, it's my friend. At the moment I don't care if this is in the right or wrong thread so yeah.

 

I've known this guy for quite some time, (Online, never met him irl.) He's very unconfident and suffers from heavy depression. He's been suicidal in the past, having self harmed multiple times after bad events happened in his life. I've done my best speaking with him to calm him down, but now I'm really worried. Here is out latest msn conversation. Right now I don't care if it breaks his privacy, seeing as I'm freakin' worried as hell.

 

[hide]Ryan says:

Hai buddy

George says:

Ohai.

Ryan says:

how are you?

George says:

Not bad thanks, yourself?

Ryan says:

ok, this random stunning fit goth girl came up to me today and just hugged me

first hug in 3 years

George says:

 

Why'd she hug you??

Ryan says:

I dunno man

she just smiled and hugged me

felt really happy made my day

George says:

Epic.

Ryan says:

^^ her boobs pressed up agaisnt me ^^

George says:

=[]

*Jealousy level rises*

Ryan says:

^^

swear she felt my but as well lol dont have a clue who she is

George says:

You're [bleep]ing luckyyyyy.

Ryan says:

dont know her name

or what she looked like, she had her head down

George says:

 

Ryan says:

love gothy looking girls

George says:

Yeah, they're cute.

Ryan says:

dark hair <3 for me the hair either has to be really dark, or white, dont like blonde girls dunno why just dont like that colour of hair on girls lol

George says:

WHITE HAIR! <3<3

Ryan says:

yeah man <3

George says:

I saw about three or four white haired girls at college today.

Ryan says:

oh yeah, : )

hows your course going for you btw dude

George says:

I was like since I'll never meet them.

Not bad thanks.

Ryan says:

i just dont have the confidence

if i did id try to make conversation

George says:

Mmmm.

It's not really the idea of rejection that scares me. It's the knowledge they'd think "Who the [bleep] is this and why is he speaking to me?"

Ryan says:

same

 

i just find gothy/emo girlies alot more well nicer personalitys, cant stand chavy girls

on my bus its like me my mate, and the rest are chavs

pisses me off cause i get so many comments, like goth dude, fat guy etc

George says:

Chavs suck.

Ryan says:

yup

now if an emo girl sucked well thats a different story

George says:

Plus what's bad with being goth or emo or anything? NOTHING.

 

Ryan says:

exactly ^^

id say im more goth than emo lol

George says:

Stereotype = Fail.

Tbh, I'm probably classed as nerd. Though I'm probably more emo.

Ryan says:

hmm outcast alot for me.

proberly.

George says:

I don't seem emo, I just have motional issue.s

That nobody knows of. >.>

emotional.

*

Ryan says:

 

dude..i forgot what it was like to be hugged

George says:

I've NEVER been hugged.

Ryan says:

*man hug*

George says:

*man hug*

NO HOMO!

Ryan says:

lol

you know whats happened to alex?

havnt seen or heard from the dude in ages

George says:

No clue. =/

Ryan says:

you reackon hes ok?

George says:

I hope so.

Ryan says:

wuu2

George says:

Typing up a roleplay for my clans forums.

Ryan says:

kool

havnt been on rs in an age

George says:

Name changing is out.

Ryan says:

yeah, my dad said

George says:

 

Ryan says:

you changed your name?

George says:

Yup. I'm now "Icylic"

Ryan says:

cool

could change mine i guess

to ..

pie of fruit

George says:

 

Ryan says:

or

zezima1231231

George says:

 

Ryan says:

or sell my rs accounts 0_0

George says:

 

Ryan says:

still cant write man.. miss her so much

George says:

That's alright.

Take as long as you need, like I said.

Ryan says:

think my writing style is going to change dramitcly..

she was kept me going writing and livin

George says:

=/

Ryan says:

... know she was in americas but..loved her

.. pafetic i am

George says:

No, you're not pathetic.

Ryan says:

my fualt shes dead..

George says:

No it isn't!!

Ryan says:

it is ! we were arugeing and i shouted! she left to go outside for a walk! ..and now shes dead..

George says:

NOT YOUR FAULT GODAMNIT!!!

SHE WOULDN'T WANT YOU TO THINK IT'S YOUR FAULT EITHER!!

Ryan says:

.. stped infrnt of a truck today.. to kill myself.. thought i could be with her that way..

.. a teacher pulled me out of the way

George says:

Godamnit Ryan! Stop it now!!

You have a [bleep]ing great life! You shouldn't try and throw it all away because you lost someone dear to you!!

By all means mourn for her, but don't try and kill yourself, nor should you blame yourself!

IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!!!

Ryan says:

but if i kill myself ill be with her!

George says:

WOULD SHE REALLY [bleep]ING WANT THAT?!?!

YOU THROW AWAY YOUR OWN LIFE BECAUSE OF HER?!

HOW WOULD SHE [bleep]ING FEEL UPON YOU SEEING HER AGAIN?!

Ryan says:

... i dunno.. just want to see her again.. i know we only saw each other on cam, and talked through mic and text... just ..id be with her..

George says:

(Damnit this next thing sounds cheesy)

 

She's always with you. You have your memories with her, which are priceless.

Throwing away your life so young is a complete waste, and I want to punch you just for thinking about it. Loss is a [bleep]ing horrible thing to go through, I know, but killing yourself is both cowardly and stupid.

Killing yourself because you lost someone is no excuse.

If you ever saw them again in the afterlife (If it exists... Im an atheist) how would it make them feel? Like [cabbage], that;s what. You wasted your lfie so young just cause you wanted to see her.

Ryan says:

i dunno what to do man.. i dunno what to do..how to cope..

George says:

I'm telling you this as a concerned friend. Mourn, then move on. Never completly. Always keep your memories in your mind, but move on all the same.

Dwelling on the loss of her won't help. She would want you to mvoe on.

Ryan says:

alexy..

George says:

Always remember her, but don't ever blame yourself for what happened. Perhaps once a year should you mourn again, just a day to remember her by. But don't dwell on the past. Just move on, enjoy life, and don't throw it away.

Ryan says:

i dunno if i know how too

George says:

It's hard, I know. But take it in baby steps.

Ryan says:

dont tell anyone man but..been crying most nights..

George says:

That's normal when grieving.

Ryan says:

.. been self harming too..

George says:

Now that's where I say to stop. Now.

Ryan says:

*looks up*

George says:

SELF HARMING DOESN'T [bleep]ING HELP!!!!!

If anything it makes you feel worse!

Ryan says:

if youc ould see me now man.. you would proberly punch me in the face

George says:

... Put on your webcam...

 

You stopped sharing photos

 

Starting a Video Call with Ryan ...

End call (Alt+Q)

 

Your computer does not have a sound card, or a sound card is not selected.

 

Ryan says:

one sec

 

Ryan accepted your Video Call.

End call (Alt+Q).

 

Ryan says:

your cam on?

George says:

Yes.

 

Your Video Call has ended.

 

Starting a Video Call with Ryan ...

End call (Alt+Q)

 

Your computer does not have a sound card, or a sound card is not selected.

 

Ryan is inviting you to start viewing webcam. Do you want to Accept (Alt+C) or Decline (Alt+D) the invitation?

 

You have accepted the invitation to start viewing webcam.

 

Ryan is not answering.

 

Ryan is inviting you to start sending webcam. Do you want to Accept (Alt+C) or Decline (Alt+D) the invitation?

 

You have accepted the invitation to start sending webcam.

 

George says:

Put it down. NOW.

Christ man.

Ryan says:

dude..what do i do

George says:

First of all, put it down, and put it somewhere away form yourself.

Ryan says:

what abpot this 1..

George says:

All of them.

Ryan says:

done..

George says:

Good. Now, you need to start thinking clearly.

Ryan says:

i ..cant

George says:

Yes you can.

I understand how bad you must feel, but you can't sink so low.

Not long ago you were telling me you were feeling good after a cute goth girl hugged you.

Hold onto happy thoughts, happy memories, happy times.

Ryan says:

i want alexy.. in my memories..want to be with her

George says:

I know what you want, but we can't have what we want all of the time. Whose to say you'll see her upon killing yourself?

 

The webcam session has ended.

 

The webcam session has ended.

 

Ryan says:

i dunno... we were going to meet in a year...and jump together..

George says:

Godamnit man...

Ryan says:

im gonna go..

George says:

I had BETTER see you again.

Ryan says:

necks really hurting.. tried strangling myself

on cam..

George says:

Goddamnit Ryan...

Ryan says:

just want to be with her! feels like my hearts been ripped out and stabed.. all i can think of his her! ...and now shes gone because of me..

George says:

IT'S NOT [bleep]ING YOUR FAULT!!!!!!

Ryan says:

it is!

if we didnt of aruged

she woudnt of gone out

got raped

and then died in hospital!

its all my [bleep]ing fualt!

George says:

No, it really isn't. I;m no professional but I say you're blaming yourself as a way of coping.

IT'S. NOT. YOUR. FAULT.

Look, in all truth I have no idea what you're going through. I've

never been in your position before.

Ryan says:

it is! [bleep] this! im gonna end it!

George says:

NO YOU [bleep]ING DON'T!!!

DON'T [bleep]ING RUN OUT ON EVERYONE WHEN THE GOING GETS TOGUH!!!!!

HOW IS IT [bleep]ING FAIR TO EVERYONE YOU KNOW?! HUH?!

WHAT IF THEY START FEELING IT'S THEIR FAULT?!

THE PAIN OF LOSS IS HORRIBLE! BUT THIS DOESN'T [bleep]IGN HELP!!!

[bleep]ING ANSWER ME!!!!!

RYAN!@!@[/hide]

 

 

I apologize for the page stretching but I couldn't find the hide tag thing. If someone could point me to it for future purposes that'd be good.

 

Yeah, read for yourself. I'm worried to hell and back. (I'm George, he's Ryan.) On webcam he was holding a knife, he was crying, and I saw fresh cuts. Goddamnit... I'm lost as to what I should do.

There's no hide button, you have to type in

 [hide](text)[/hide]

 

Cutting oneself doesn't mean they're suicidal. Sometimes it's just a way to let pain out. I wouldn't do it, but I know it's not the worst thing possible. I hate to say it, but there's really not much you can do. I really can't give you much advise, but I wish you the best of luck.

Sure seems like an attention seeker to me. Teacher pulling him out of the way of a truck sounds like an outright lie - like anyone could react quickly enough, even if it wasn't a middle aged woman.

 

He then shows you what I gather to be razor blades or something for self harm on webcam.

 

He will do it as long as you give him attention for it.

That's risky though, if he isn't seeking attention then he's in trouble. From what I gather a girl he loved DID get raped and die in a hospital.

Blackdawn, do you have anyway of going to his house?

you see...there's this girl

(isn't that always how it starts?)

 

The difference is that this girl, I've been dating for nearly 2 years. If you've seen me complain on this thread before, yes this is the same girl. Yes she does make me more happy than anything else in the world. Unfortunatly, she simply is terrible at being a girlfriend. I'm not gonna sit here and trash her, but her most recent escapade was sending borderline pornographic pictures of herself to some guy she met on Omegle. We've broken up a few times before, and I've already told her that if we break up again, it's for good.

 

Problem is, even after ALL the crap she's done, I still want to be with her. But if this continues I'll defininetly break up with her, and that will be all she wrote. I'm not dealing with this kind of crap for the rest of my life. It's not happening. I plan on giving her a few months to show improvement, or she's out. My only concerns are Prom and Homecoming, as she's the only girl I've ever really talked to. But random social BS aside....

 

What's a good way of breaking up with a girl you told taht you'd love forever?

I can't give advice on breaking up, but it sounds like you've one-itis and know it but haven't accepted it yet.

Well did she tell you she'd love you forever too? Because it sounds like that's not really working out either so your commitment is lessened I guess.

I can't give advice on breaking up, but it sounds like you've one-itis and know it but haven't accepted it yet.

 

 

I've daetd the asme girl on and off for 2 years.

 

"one-itis" is an understatement.

 

I knew I had it almost immidiatly after meeting her 2.5 years ago. I just figured I could use it to my advantage. And I did. And now it's back to haunt me. But that's really irrelevant.

 

EDIT:

@Harrinator

 

She loves me too. But like i said, she's not good at being a girlfriend. Se definiatly loves me, she just has fidelity issues.

 

 

Sometimes I feel like we just stay together for the "relations". Try as I might, I can't find an appropriate emoticon to end that sentence. Nothing depicts Shameful, greedy happiness with a side of disappointment.

So I'm having a bit of trouble. The other night, I was at a party and one of my best friends told me shes liked me for years. She says she tries to, well, not like me in this way because she never thought I liked her back. Well, after hearing this I responded that I feel the exact same way about her (but mine actually makes sense, because she is one of the most popular and pretty girls in school, so why would she like me?). We ended up making out for the next while until everyone had to leave the hostess' house because her parents had come home. In the next couple hours most of the people from the party met up at a plaza and talked outside, however, this girl and I stayed in the car and held hands. So right now everything is just great - the girl i've liked for years likes me back (and i kissed her!). Now comes the bad part, my best friend also started to like this girl a couple months ago and told me about it. I didnt tell him i liked her aswell because i never thought anything would come of it. I guess the main thing im asking, as stupid as it may sound is how should i tell him what happened?

Jeremy, there really isn't much you can do. Just call him or talk to him and tell him "look man, I know you liked [name] but we were at a party and she told me she really liked me and we ended up making out for a while."

 

Or let him find out from some other person

Jeremy, there really isn't much you can do. Just call him or talk to him and tell him "look man, I know you liked [name] but we were at a party and she told me she really liked me and we ended up making out for a while."

 

Or let him find out from some other person

Do NOT let him find out from somebody else, that's going to be way worse than telling him yourself.

 

Sometimes I feel like we just stay together for the "relations". Try as I might, I can't find an appropriate emoticon to end that sentence. Nothing depicts Shameful, greedy happiness with a side of disappointment.

Sometimes I feel the same way about my relationship, but that's only when I'm thinking about it negatively. It really isn't that way, it just seems like it sometimes.

Thanks for the responses, hopefully I'll talk to him before school in the morning