BreatheIntoMe Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 I really don't get it. I'm a boy/man (13 years old) and I tend to cry alot. But why is a man showing his emotions and crying considered weak in some societies? The last week of school, i cried every single day for 2 hours. My ex-girlfriend told me I was weak [cabbage] for crying in front of her, and other people are telling me this too. I don't think it should be considered weak if a man cries. After all, we have emotions too. Not all of us are emotionally stong. The shortest verse in the bible is "Jesus wept." If he can, why can't we? (I'm an athiest though lol) What do you think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deathdrow Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Mainly because men are seen as being manly, and manliness doesn't involve crying. plus women are more open to their emotions, men aren't, mostly becuase they're homophobes, and think it's gay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Millard Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Out of curiosity, what were you crying about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
All_Is_Great Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 I'm not a homophobe :? And I don't think crying has anything to do with being weak, I cry when I'm REALLY REALLY sad, but doesn't mean I'm weak. But if you cried when someone punched you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justcallmedaddy Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 what do you think? I think its funny you cry all day and your name is Breatheinto me. So sensitive, shhh...goodnight my sweet angel. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BreatheIntoMe Posted August 16, 2009 Author Share Posted August 16, 2009 Out of curiosity, what were you crying about? Didn't want to lose so many friends that are going to high school. Girlfriend [now ex] was one higher grade than me, and she was going to high school too. I didn't her but I was VERY strongly attracted to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lenin64 Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Men can cry, just not over small things. Like school ending. If you're at a funeral, go for it. Men, you see, are the guys that are typically in control of the situation, and have to keep cool. Emotion can't cloud judgement. And since the women typically not in control of a situation, it's alright if they lose their [cabbage]. Over time, this has become part of society as a whole, and so, except for extreme cases, men can't cry. Wow, did that sound legitimate? Because I totally just made that up. Command the Murderous Chalices! Drink ye harpooners! drink and swear, ye men that man the deathful whaleboat's bow- Death to Moby Dick!BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD! SKULLS FOR THE SKULL THRONE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jemathonical Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 People assume men cry less because we do cry less than woman. I've got no problems with showing emotions every now and then but crying everyday for 2 hours is a bit much I think. ^Sir Jem 05-The Bunny Drinking Blog?^ Click it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wisp Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Men can cry, just not over small things. Like school ending. If you're at a funeral, go for it. Men, you see, are the guys that are typically in control of the situation, and have to keep cool. Emotion can't cloud judgement. And since the women typically not in control of a situation, it's alright if they lose their [cabbage]. Over time, this has become part of society as a whole, and so, except for extreme cases, men can't cry. Wow, did that sound legitimate? Because I totally just made that up. That's actually more accurate than you might think. Back in the earlier days, women would choice mates based on power and strength. That's still true today, to a point, but back then power and strength meant surviving, which it doesn't know. Crying shows sadness, which shows weakness over something, and thus shows your not as powerful. Atleast, that's how it was back in caveman times, presumably. It's just another one of societies unspoken rules. Why are girls expected to take care of the kids? Why are men "supposed" to be the one with a job in the family. It all goes back hundreds or more years, even if the original meaning holds almost no value in our society today. Hegemony-Spain Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
All_Is_Great Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Out of curiosity, what were you crying about? Didn't want to lose so many friends that are going to high school. Girlfriend [now ex] was one higher grade than me, and she was going to high school too. I didn't her but I was VERY strongly attracted to her. But you're going to high school next year too right? So you will still see all your friends and have a great time! No big deal. I had to switch schools all the time when I was little, and I had to leave behind my friends every single time (moving from China to Us to Canada, then to China AGAIN, then to canada, where I plan to finally stay put and finish high school), it was quite hard because I was young. Now I find it hard to fit in with groups that have know each other since Gr 1. :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueLancer Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 I don't think there's anything wrong with it, some girls might think it though. Even if they don't say it as rudely as your previous girlfriend, they can unconsciously label crying men as 'weak'. Societal bias will definitely allow girls and women of any age to cry, but today even a 12 year old boy crying is labeled as a 'sissy' or 'weak'. As you age though, if you're male, you will naturally cry less because of increased hormone levels. I noted the same, actually can't recall more than maybe a single situation from age 16+ upwards that I'd seen any of my male friends crying. It's not just hearsay, it's biological fact. Good thing is she's your ex, so you can find a girl who actually prefers you for who you are, instead of judging you over things like that. It's not permanent either, if you think crying could ruin your future relationships (which totally depends on how the other party reacts as well), that's likely not true either because it will 'phase out' the older you get. Doesn't mean it'll stop, you will just have more control over it and it will naturally come less often. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BreatheIntoMe Posted August 16, 2009 Author Share Posted August 16, 2009 Men can cry, just not over small things. Like school ending. If you're at a funeral, go for it. Men, you see, are the guys that are typically in control of the situation, and have to keep cool. Emotion can't cloud judgement. And since the women typically not in control of a situation, it's alright if they lose their [cabbage]. Over time, this has become part of society as a whole, and so, except for extreme cases, men can't cry. Wow, did that sound legitimate? Because I totally just made that up. That's actually more accurate than you might think. Back in the earlier days, women would choice mates based on power and strength. That's still true today, to a point, but back then power and strength meant surviving, which it doesn't know. Crying shows sadness, which shows weakness over something, and thus shows your not as powerful. Atleast, that's how it was back in caveman times, presumably. It's just another one of societies unspoken rules. Why are girls expected to take care of the kids? Why are men "supposed" to be the one with a job in the family. It all goes back hundreds or more years, even if the original meaning holds almost no value in our society today. Oh trust me I'm quite physically powerful. I've gotten into a couple of fights and I've won every one of them. Crying can be in your hormones can't it? I cry alot when I don't want to, [e.g in front of friends, teachers, girls]. You can't control the tears coming out if somethings bothering you terribly So basically your saying it's all because of past tribes and such? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zygimantas Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Out of curiosity, what were you crying about? Didn't want to lose so many friends that are going to high school. Girlfriend [now ex] was one higher grade than me, and she was going to high school too. I didn't her but I was VERY strongly attracted to her. Our middle school gets split in half, half go to one high school and half to the other. Lots of friends were seperated, but not even the girls cried as much as you claim to have. Even if you were a girl, you cried too much. 99 Hunter - November 1st, 200899 Cooking -July 22nd, 200999 Firemaking - July 29th, 201099 Fletching - December 30th, 2010 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omar Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 I really don't get it. I'm a boy/man (13 years old) and I tend to cry alot. But why is a man showing his emotions and crying considered weak in some societies? The last week of school, i cried every single day for 2 hours. My ex-girlfriend told me I was weak [cabbage] for crying in front of her, and other people are telling me this too. I don't think it should be considered weak if a man cries. After all, we have emotions too. Not all of us are emotionally stong. The shortest verse in the bible is "Jesus wept." If he can, why can't we? (I'm an athiest though lol) What do you think? They thought you were weak because girls don't cry that much either. Matt: You want that eh? You want everything good for you. You want everything that's--falls off garbage can Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude? Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you? Camera guy: still laughing Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy Camera guy: runs away still laughing Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down Camera guy: Hoooholy [bleep]! Matt: FUNNY ISN'T REAL! FUNNY ISN'T REAL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kriegsmier Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 I think its weak, especially crying over that and that much. To me it sounds like you missed out on the Y chromosome. Strength isn't all about winning fights. Strength is being able to hold back those emotions and hold back those tears to accomplish a task no matter what your feeling. So yes its weak. You cry at a funeral not everyday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nero Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 [schwarzenegger voice]Because we are not girlie men![/schwarzenegger voice] Vienna Raszyn Warsaw Klushino Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lenin64 Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Crying can be in your hormones can't it? Yea, if it's estrogen. Command the Murderous Chalices! Drink ye harpooners! drink and swear, ye men that man the deathful whaleboat's bow- Death to Moby Dick!BLOOD FOR THE BLOOD GOD! SKULLS FOR THE SKULL THRONE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DerekZoolandah Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Out of curiosity, what were you crying about? Didn't want to lose so many friends that are going to high school. Girlfriend [now ex] was one higher grade than me, and she was going to high school too. I didn't her but I was VERY strongly attracted to her. Our middle school gets split in half, half go to one high school and half to the other. Lots of friends were seperated, but not even the girls cried as much as you claim to have. Even if you were a girl, you cried too much. Some people cry more than others. Besides, take into it that he's around the start of puberty (7th or 8th grade, I think?) where there are a lot of emotions going on that can make things seem five times worse than they really are. And then when a lot of your friends you'll barely be seeing, along with starting a new part of your life, along with losing a girlfriend. I mean it sounds like it got to the point of being overwhelming and it should really be a problem if you keep it up for a while longer. Strength isn't all about winning fights. Strength is being able to hold back those emotions and hold back those tears to accomplish a task no matter what your feeling. So yes its weak. You cry at a funeral not everyday. How can you blame someone for something they can hardly control? I know I can't ever control when I cry, as much as I want. It just comes to you and it's really hard to control it. I present to you men, His Imperial Majesty Emperor Norton I. What a guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThurinEthir Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Strength isn't all about winning fights. Strength is being able to hold back those emotions and hold back those tears to accomplish a task no matter what your feeling. So yes its weak. You cry at a funeral not everyday. How can you blame someone for something they can hardly control? I know I can't ever control when I cry, as much as I want. It just comes to you and it's really hard to control it. And why? Why hide your emotions? You say because it brings you shame? Why should it? Cenin pân nîd, istan pân nîd, dan nin ú-cenich, nin ú-istach.Ithil luin eria vi menel caran...Tîn dan delu. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Star_Fox Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 i cry around 3 times a year at most. i don't tend to cry because i miss my friends, sad movies, or in situations where most girls will cry. men don't cry as often as women because of the testosterone level. and its not acceptable for men to cry a lot because its just part of society's expectations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Albel Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 I tend to cry more then most men. I don't know why, I just do. It can be about something very small, and I shead a tear. Actualy now that I think of it. Today, I found out that a good friend(My best friend actually) of mine moved away to a college about... 45 mins were I live from. No big deal. I call him up to see how is doing, and for some reason, I started crying over the phone. I talked for a second, and he had to get off to take care of something. I was just crying, and It hit me that I was crying because him and I was taking a big step for our lives. And all my memories of me and him, going all the way back to second grade hit me in the face. So yeah, it was just a rush of emotions that overcame me at that point in time. [hide=Quotes]Albel/JustinAlbel doesn't say anything anymore, just comes in, leaves an arrow and vanishes into the night :(Probablypractising some euphoniumYou nearly had me fooled, you fooler youEuphonium/10.9/10. To me, always associate Albel with musical stuff in OT.Everyone with a goatee and glasses is Albel now.lmfao albel m8 wat r u doin, hi though. [/hide][hide=Runescape Achievements]99 firemaking(2007), 99 woodcutting(2008), 99 fletching(2009), 99 magic(2010), 99 cooking(2010), 99 farming(2011), 99 construction(2011), 99 runecrafting(2012), 99 Hunter (2014), 99 ranged (2015), 99 HP (2015), 99 Slayer (2015), 99 attack (2015) 99 Defense (2015) 99 Prayer (2015) 99 Summoning (2015) 99 Strength(2015) 99 Herblore (2015) 99 Dungeoneering (2017) 99 Mining (2017) 99 Crafting (2017) 99 Smithing (2017) 99 Thieving (2017) 99 invention (2017) 99 Fishing (2018), 99 Divination (2018), 99 Agility (2018), MAXED (05/17/2018)[/hide] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giordano Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 It depends why you're crying. Crying over a death or saying good-bye for a very long times are alright. Crying because you think life is bad just mommy didn't give you your allowance for that black shirt isn't alright. "The cry of the poor is not always just, but if you never hear it you'll never know what justice is." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Earth_Poet Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 You're in the military, and you're approaching the enemy lines. Then you look over and see the guy who will be watching your back crying... I get uncomfortable with women crying around me, let alone men. It really depends on what you are crying about. Children often cry to get attention. It's one of the first forms of communication you learn. For adults, it can sometimes be perceived as "crocodile tears". Imagine if adults cried like babies, uncontrollably and with their entire bodies. ARRRRRRRGGGGG!!!!!! WAAAAAAAHHHHHHGGGGG!!!!! It can make women uncomfortable as men are often seen as a role of security. Men who cry can portray a lack of confidence in themselves, which can be very unattractive. It's no so much about holding in your emotions, but not letting them get the better of you. You don't look in control of yourself while you are crying, and usually you aren't at that moment. Of course, everybody cries sometimes. If I feel I might cry about something I try to do it privately. And that's how I view it: a private moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Craiglowery Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 I really don't get it. I'm a boy/man (13 years old) and I tend to cry alot. But why is a man showing his emotions and crying considered weak in some societies? The last week of school, i cried every single day for 2 hours. My ex-girlfriend told me I was weak [cabbage] for crying in front of her, and other people are telling me this too. I don't think it should be considered weak if a man cries. After all, we have emotions too. Not all of us are emotionally stong. The shortest verse in the bible is "Jesus wept." If he can, why can't we? (I'm an athiest though lol) What do you think? It's perfectly normal to cry, but every day for 2 hours? Isn't that overkill? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zierro Posted August 16, 2009 Share Posted August 16, 2009 Crying doesn't achieve anything. Anger is a much more useful emotion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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