I will break my pledge for the first time ever [insinuated, but who cares] to post here.

 

 

 

Iamdan - you scare the [bleep] out of me. Arousing as it may be, your partner needs to share the same "special interests" and have a long, established relationship, of well --

 

 

 

Nothing major nor should be done unless you've been in a relationship for a while.

 

 

 

That right there.

 

 

 

Do that the first time, I swear even if its some crazy hot, horny chick - I [cabbage] you not, I will piss myself.

 

 

 

I've done it a bunch of times with girls I have never kissed before. I've said it to girls I've known for like 4 hours. (some were drunk, but still..) There is no relationship required and no certain kind of girl it works on. If you have the stronger frame, she will go along with it and enjoy it. I've never had a negative reaction.

 

 

 

I'm just trying to say it really does work, but probably not consistently for younger girls.

 

 

 

Just like with the awkwardness issue, if you have the stronger frame and are not awkward, then it will not be awkward for either of you.

 

 

 

I bet you're into that kinky stuff, eh' Dan ?

 

 

If neck biting is considered kinky on this forum then sure why not... ;)

Hey guys, I have a question for you.

 

 

 

Im an aspiring tennis player and Im one of the best at the club I play at. Theres this girl ironically the head pros daughter who I play with about once a week so we can both improve our games. I always have a good time playing and since its helping me get better at tennis Im happy enough doing that, but given that Im single andhow shall we put it? looking for some female company, Ive been trying to gauge her interest. She is by nature a very shy and reserved person. When I try to get some conversation going, I usually get a three-word answer or less. How do I know if this is because shes just shy or if its because she really doesnt give a rip about me?

 

 

 

Thanks for any ideas you might have.

Hey guys, I have a question for you.

 

 

 

Im an aspiring tennis player and Im one of the best at the club I play at. Theres this girl ironically the head pros daughter who I play with about once a week so we can both improve our games. I always have a good time playing and since its helping me get better at tennis Im happy enough doing that, but given that Im single andhow shall we put it? looking for some female company, Ive been trying to gauge her interest. She is by nature a very shy and reserved person. When I try to get some conversation going, I usually get a three-word answer or less. How do I know if this is because shes just shy or if its because she really doesnt give a rip about me?

 

 

 

Thanks for any ideas you might have.

 

Do you often ask her open-ended questions? Such as how her week has been, or how the weather has been like. I'd go for questions that find out about her. Another thing is when you ask her. During a match she might be too focused on playing, after she might be thinking of her next game or wanting to relax. I'd talk before she prepares for the first match, it should be when she is most likely to give you the attention to talk and if things go nowhere you can just say you better start to prepare for the first match.

Hey guys, I have a question for you.

 

 

 

Im an aspiring tennis player and Im one of the best at the club I play at. Theres this girl ironically the head pros daughter who I play with about once a week so we can both improve our games. I always have a good time playing and since its helping me get better at tennis Im happy enough doing that, but given that Im single andhow shall we put it? looking for some female company, Ive been trying to gauge her interest. She is by nature a very shy and reserved person. When I try to get some conversation going, I usually get a three-word answer or less. How do I know if this is because shes just shy or if its because she really doesnt give a rip about me?

 

 

 

Thanks for any ideas you might have.

 

Shy people are all the same. Find their interests and make them feel comfortable talking about it. Bam, you're done.

I brokeup with my gf. I told my friend i liked her. She feels the same way. I kissed her bye. And i realized i still like my ex... and i don't want to hurt my friend. Help...

 

pspftl. :(

Hey guys, I have a question for you.

 

 

 

Im an aspiring tennis player and Im one of the best at the club I play at. Theres this girl ironically the head pros daughter who I play with about once a week so we can both improve our games. I always have a good time playing and since its helping me get better at tennis Im happy enough doing that, but given that Im single andhow shall we put it? looking for some female company, Ive been trying to gauge her interest. She is by nature a very shy and reserved person. When I try to get some conversation going, I usually get a three-word answer or less. How do I know if this is because shes just shy or if its because she really doesnt give a rip about me?

 

 

 

Thanks for any ideas you might have.

 

 

 

Getting 3 word answers is normal, I explained why a few pages back. I suggest building attraction by triggering the attraction switches I mentioned earlier, wait until you know she is interested and then move onto the open ended questions to build comfort.

Has anyone ever heard of honestybox on facebook? If not its a thing where you can tell someone something without revealing your identity. I got a message from a boy saying my girlfriend is cheating on me with him. Why would he say this? Is he just trying to break us up?

Has anyone ever heard of honestybox on facebook? If not its a thing where you can tell someone something without revealing your identity. I got a message from a boy saying my girlfriend is cheating on me with him. Why would he say this? Is he just trying to break us up?

 

You obviously don't want to hurt your girl, but honestly, I feel the best thing to do would be to sit her down and have a very serious, very gentle, very caring chat. Tell her how you are feeling. There is no point hiding anything from her. If it's true, shee already knows. If not, she will appreciate your honesty.

Has anyone ever heard of honestybox on facebook? If not its a thing where you can tell someone something without revealing your identity. I got a message from a boy saying my girlfriend is cheating on me with him. Why would he say this? Is he just trying to break us up?

 

You obviously don't want to hurt your girl, but honestly, I feel the best thing to do would be to sit her down and have a very serious, very gentle, very caring chat. Tell her how you are feeling. There is no point hiding anything from her. If it's true, she already knows. If not, she will appreciate your honesty.

 

 

 

Good advice but make sure you don't sound like you're accusing her of anything, after all it could just be a guy trying to stir up trouble or something.

I brokeup with my gf. I told my friend i liked her. She feels the same way. I kissed her bye. And i realized i still like my ex... and i don't want to hurt my friend. Help...

 

pspftl. :(

 

I hate to say it, but you probably won't be getting back together with your ex. You should try to move on, and I'm sure someone else on this forum can tell you how to do that a lot better than I can.

 

 

 

Be careful with the situation with your friend. If you don't really like her, tell her as nicely as you can and don't hurt her feelings. If you do, then best of luck with the relationship, just make sure that you actually like her and aren't using her to get over your ex.

pspftl

 

PSP...? It better not mean what it means here... :lol:

I brokeup with my gf. I told my friend i liked her. She feels the same way. I kissed her bye. And i realized i still like my ex... and i don't want to hurt my friend. Help...

 

pspftl. :(

 

I hate to say it, but you probably won't be getting back together with your ex. You should try to move on, and I'm sure someone else on this forum can tell you how to do that a lot better than I can.

 

 

 

Be careful with the situation with your friend. If you don't really like her, tell her as nicely as you can and don't hurt her feelings. If you do, then best of luck with the relationship, just make sure that you actually like her and aren't using her to get over your ex.

 

 

 

No, my ex wants to get back together with me, ftw :D

 

 

 

And at PSP, I meant Playstation Portable, as I was posting from my bed at like 2 am after a cram study session before my finals, and I couldn't post the full details of the situation...

 

 

 

I've told my friend I couldn't commit, and my ex-girlfriend is like, give it two weeks, if you still feel the same way, we'll get back together.

I brokeup with my gf. I told my friend i liked her. She feels the same way. I kissed her bye. And i realized i still like my ex... and i don't want to hurt my friend. Help...

 

pspftl. :(

 

I hate to say it, but you probably won't be getting back together with your ex. You should try to move on, and I'm sure someone else on this forum can tell you how to do that a lot better than I can.

 

 

 

Be careful with the situation with your friend. If you don't really like her, tell her as nicely as you can and don't hurt her feelings. If you do, then best of luck with the relationship, just make sure that you actually like her and aren't using her to get over your ex.

 

 

 

No, my ex wants to get back together with me, ftw :D

 

 

 

And at PSP, I meant Playstation Portable, as I was posting from my bed at like 2 am after a cram study session before my finals, and I couldn't post the full details of the situation...

 

 

 

I've told my friend I couldn't commit, and my ex-girlfriend is like, give it two weeks, if you still feel the same way, we'll get back together.

 

Oh, well good for you :D hopefully everything will turn out for the better.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Guys, I need help in solving a problem with one of my friends. He's a lot of fun to hang out with, and he's pretty cool when he's not around girls (he's the guy who can't get a girl for his life but thinks he's a stud.) The problem is he doesn't seem to get that he isn't god and should learn to keep a secret.

 

 

 

It all started around the Christmas dance. One of the popular girls asked him to dance because another of the popular girls (who's also my neighbor) asked to dance with me. The poor guy thought she liked him, and didn't think she was joking with him at all. For the next week he was acting all high and mighty, and bragging about it. We told him "You know she was just messing with you, right?" and he said "You're just jealous."

 

It wasn't a problem, he got over it eventually. But someone had a sleepover with our group of friends (the 7 of us) and somehow, everything that was said by everyone, except the person in question, was known by the entire school the next Monday. We asked him why he did it and he said he didn't know that we didn't want the entire school to know everything we say :roll:

 

After it seemed like the school was wiretapping our lunch conversations, we asked the guy to stop telling people what we say, and if it happens again we'll just stop hanging out with him. That brings us to today.

 

 

 

School ended yesterday for us, so we all slept over at my house last night, and went to an amusement park today. Before we started talking and stuff, we told him not to tell people what we say, and that if he does it were just not gonna hang out with him after the amusement park. I'm usually considered the voice of reason in our group of friends, so I told him. As far as I know he hasn't told anyone, but I got a text from a friend saying:

 

"wtf y were u yelling at [name]? He never did anything to u guys, u dont need to yell at him"

 

"I just told him not to tell everyone what we say at the sleepover and [amusement park] it's really been pissing us off and were over it."

 

"ya but u dont need to say u arent gonna hang out with him. you really hurt his feelings"

 

"How does he think we feel when the entire school knows what we said about people?"

 

"u still have no right to be mean to him"

 

 

 

I just don't know what to do. We really like hanging out with him, and if we stop hanging out with him altogether, he'd probably get our parents involved, but I don't like how he tells everyone everything. What should we do about him?

He sounds like a loser, just stop talking to him. What will your parents do? "You be friends with that boy right now!" Can't see that happening.

 

 

 

Why are you worried about other people knowing your opinions anyway? They are your opinions, let people know about them..

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I brokeup with my gf. I told my friend i liked her. She feels the same way. I kissed her bye. And i realized i still like my ex... and i don't want to hurt my friend. Help...

 

pspftl. :(

 

I hate to say it, but you probably won't be getting back together with your ex. You should try to move on, and I'm sure someone else on this forum can tell you how to do that a lot better than I can.

 

 

 

Be careful with the situation with your friend. If you don't really like her, tell her as nicely as you can and don't hurt her feelings. If you do, then best of luck with the relationship, just make sure that you actually like her and aren't using her to get over your ex.

 

 

 

No, my ex wants to get back together with me, ftw :D

 

 

 

And at PSP, I meant Playstation Portable, as I was posting from my bed at like 2 am after a cram study session before my finals, and I couldn't post the full details of the situation...

 

 

 

I've told my friend I couldn't commit, and my ex-girlfriend is like, give it two weeks, if you still feel the same way, we'll get back together.

 

Oh, well good for you :D hopefully everything will turn out for the better.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Guys, I need help in solving a problem with one of my friends. He's a lot of fun to hang out with, and he's pretty cool when he's not around girls (he's the guy who can't get a girl for his life but thinks he's a stud.) The problem is he doesn't seem to get that he isn't god and should learn to keep a secret.

 

 

 

It all started around the Christmas dance. One of the popular girls asked him to dance because another of the popular girls (who's also my neighbor) asked to dance with me. The poor guy thought she liked him, and didn't think she was joking with him at all. For the next week he was acting all high and mighty, and bragging about it. We told him "You know she was just messing with you, right?" and he said "You're just jealous."

 

It wasn't a problem, he got over it eventually. But someone had a sleepover with our group of friends (the 7 of us) and somehow, everything that was said by everyone, except the person in question, was known by the entire school the next Monday. We asked him why he did it and he said he didn't know that we didn't want the entire school to know everything we say :roll:

 

After it seemed like the school was wiretapping our lunch conversations, we asked the guy to stop telling people what we say, and if it happens again we'll just stop hanging out with him. That brings us to today.

 

 

 

School ended yesterday for us, so we all slept over at my house last night, and went to an amusement park today. Before we started talking and stuff, we told him not to tell people what we say, and that if he does it were just not gonna hang out with him after the amusement park. I'm usually considered the voice of reason in our group of friends, so I told him. As far as I know he hasn't told anyone, but I got a text from a friend saying:

 

"wtf y were u yelling at [name]? He never did anything to u guys, u dont need to yell at him"

 

"I just told him not to tell everyone what we say at the sleepover and [amusement park] it's really been pissing us off and were over it."

 

"ya but u dont need to say u arent gonna hang out with him. you really hurt his feelings"

 

"How does he think we feel when the entire school knows what we said about people?"

 

"u still have no right to be mean to him"

 

 

 

I just don't know what to do. We really like hanging out with him, and if we stop hanging out with him altogether, he'd probably get our parents involved, but I don't like how he tells everyone everything. What should we do about him?

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If he's this ego-tistical idiot (which is hwat it sounds like), you need to use a heavy voice towards him to get it thru his head. Someone when I went to school was the EXACT type of person, no girl would sleep with him and the moment one did, after she told him to keep it secret, he blurts about "I finally got laid before you guys!" (While pointing at other guys). Basically a firm attitude is all you can have towards this guy, if he thinks he "Mr Joe Cool", he wont be upset by it, if he does get upset, he'll realise his mistakes.

Hey boys and girls.

 

 

 

After some careful period of thinking, I concluded that I don't want any more contact with girls.

 

Constant failure with the normal ones ( say - frequent ones, not very "deep" or with no odd personalities )

 

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Constant failure with the unusual ones ( Artists, shy ones, very "characteristic" )

 

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No more, pls.

 

 

 

Do you have any advice how to avoid being distracted by my hormones? I don't want to turn gay or anything, though! :shock:

 

 

 

Btw: I know it is about natural selection, but I'll find a way to "make" a child ;) I know of several ways already ;)

How old are you?

How old are you?

 

 

 

18

It'd be a bit of a shame to give up on girls just because you're having trouble with them. How many times have you tried to get with someone?

Seven times during my high school time. Nothing before that.

 

 

 

Some of them weren't even fails, but ljbfs and those relationships that you would have to be too foolhardy to keep trying.

7 times? That's a bit early... keep trying IMO.

Hey guys, I have a question for you.

 

 

 

Im an aspiring tennis player and Im one of the best at the club I play at. Theres this girl ironically the head pros daughter who I play with about once a week so we can both improve our games. I always have a good time playing and since its helping me get better at tennis Im happy enough doing that, but given that Im single andhow shall we put it? looking for some female company, Ive been trying to gauge her interest. She is by nature a very shy and reserved person. When I try to get some conversation going, I usually get a three-word answer or less. How do I know if this is because shes just shy or if its because she really doesnt give a rip about me?

 

 

 

Thanks for any ideas you might have.

 

Do you often ask her open-ended questions? Such as how her week has been, or how the weather has been like. I'd go for questions that find out about her. Another thing is when you ask her. During a match she might be too focused on playing, after she might be thinking of her next game or wanting to relax. I'd talk before she prepares for the first match, it should be when she is most likely to give you the attention to talk and if things go nowhere you can just say you better start to prepare for the first match.

 

 

 

Thanks for your input. The problem, Im thinking, is this: I dont want to jeopardize my tennis chances. If I were to escalate it a bit; trying to make her like me, I dont want to risk losing my weekly matches which have really improved my game. Will she find the extra attention good, or will she think its kind of weird and want to stop playing? Honestly, because shes shy, I really dont know. Thoughts?

Seven times during my high school time. Nothing before that.

 

 

 

Some of them weren't even fails, but ljbfs and those relationships that you would have to be too foolhardy to keep trying.

 

 

 

Maybe you just need to change your angle on it? You either need to lighten up about your relationships, or take them more seriously perhaps? I don't know if you get ljbfs because you go in too much for the relationship side of things, or if you act too much like just a good friend (you can get it for either) but if you realise which one it is you can change it. Other than that rather vague advice I don't really know what to say, I don't know you and don't know what's happened in your relationships, but I hope that helps a little.

Hey guys, I have a question for you.

 

 

 

Im an aspiring tennis player and Im one of the best at the club I play at. Theres this girl ironically the head pros daughter who I play with about once a week so we can both improve our games. I always have a good time playing and since its helping me get better at tennis Im happy enough doing that, but given that Im single andhow shall we put it? looking for some female company, Ive been trying to gauge her interest. She is by nature a very shy and reserved person. When I try to get some conversation going, I usually get a three-word answer or less. How do I know if this is because shes just shy or if its because she really doesnt give a rip about me?

 

 

 

Thanks for any ideas you might have.

 

Do you often ask her open-ended questions? Such as how her week has been, or how the weather has been like. I'd go for questions that find out about her. Another thing is when you ask her. During a match she might be too focused on playing, after she might be thinking of her next game or wanting to relax. I'd talk before she prepares for the first match, it should be when she is most likely to give you the attention to talk and if things go nowhere you can just say you better start to prepare for the first match.

 

 

 

Thanks for your input. The problem, Im thinking, is this: I dont want to jeopardize my tennis chances. If I were to escalate it a bit; trying to make her like me, I dont want to risk losing my weekly matches which have really improved my game. Will she find the extra attention good, or will she think its kind of weird and want to stop playing? Honestly, because shes shy, I really dont know. Thoughts?

 

If you really like her you shouldn't be afraid to lose your weekly tennis matches. If it all works out, there's a chance you will play even more, plus you get a girl. If it doesn't, I don't really know what to say, but try to apologize and move on.

What do guys consider 'flirting'? (eg "that girl was tossing her hair, she was flirting with me.")

 

Suppsedly I flirt a lot but I don't do it on purpose so it's subconscious and unwanted; don't want people getting the wrong impression.