I feel stupid.

 

I've hesitated for months about really getting to know this one girl just because I was REALLY attracted to her in that freak-myself-out way. Why the hesitation?

She has a girlfriend.

 

And I'm 99% she still does.

 

 

Err... what?

 

He's saying she's either lesbian, or bi-sexual. (He doesn't know which one)

 

And the not-knowing has been eating at me since like May of this year >.<

Why don't you just er... find out?

I feel stupid.

 

I've hesitated for months about really getting to know this one girl just because I was REALLY attracted to her in that freak-myself-out way. Why the hesitation?

She has a girlfriend.

 

And I'm 99% she still does.

 

 

Err... what?

 

He's saying she's either lesbian, or bi-sexual. (He doesn't know which one)

 

And the not-knowing has been eating at me since like May of this year >.<

Why don't you just er... find out?

And while you're at it, find out if she's still dating the girl. Bisexual people don't have a relationship with one person of each gender, you know. You've got twice as much competition here.

<edit by Sam - please don't post that here>

 

On a more serious note, even if she is lesbian, there is a possible chance she might turn for you, though it depends how flirtatious she is with you in the first place. Though I wish you good luck with your relationship problem.

Put him on david deangelo's mailing list. All his emails are drumming 1 basic idea: stop being such a vagina because x (along with 'buy my products' at the end)

 

It helped me, and it should help him too because of the way the brain learns things. Then maybe get him to read my blog.

 

I wouldn't advise buying david d's products though. Imo the half assed 20k in notes I wrote along with my blog posts are better than his stuff. He is amazing at marketing however.

I sent him Double your Dating a while ago, last time we talked about it he was halfway through, but that's not fresh news. And yeah I stopped reading DD's emails, they're all the same :lol: but I'll tell him to subscribe.

Guys what do you do when your ex is set on attacking you?

 

The simple way of saying why are some guys from the lower school start spurting [cabbage] which apparently i've said which has really pissed her off...

 

Yay for mad psychopathic ex girlfriends.

You tell her that you never said those things. As long as you never lied to her during the relationship and are trustworthy in her eyes, she should believe you.

"OK, here's the situation. My friend (from here on in named A) is a fairly awkward guy, he's not dumb or mean but like everyone sometimes he messes up. He had a crush on my other friend (a girl, two years older than him (he's 15, she's 17) and she's the usual popular girl type. He was reaaaally awkward with her, ended up declaring his "love" for her, I had to push her to answer him. This was about 2 weeks ago.

Yesterday, A and B were at a party. A was too drunk, B was tipsy and so was I. B and some guy started flirting, A felt rejected and wanted to hook up with a girl, any girl just as long as someone wanted him. He just went in for a kiss on my friend, C. C was not happy but she understood. A spent the evening crying on the loo.

Now clearly, A wants some girls. And he's not getting them with this needy/insecure/awkward behaviour. I really want to help him to up his self-esteem and confidence, but I don't know what to say. I'm a guy, one year older than him, I've managed to push myself out of his situation but i didn't have nearly as bad as him.

Also, it's worth mentioning that A has style, he's pretty good looking, and girls say he's going to be a hottie later on.

So, yeah, what do I tell him? "

I posted this on /adv/, didn't get any useful help (you are a A and this a sad reflection of your social awkwardness). Care to help?

OK, great, A doesn't even remember the night. In vino veritas, though.

Guys what do you do when your ex is set on attacking you?

 

The simple way of saying why are some guys from the lower school start spurting [cabbage] which apparently i've said which has really pissed her off...

 

Yay for mad psychopathic ex girlfriends.

 

You need to sit her down when shes calm and talk to her seriously. If you didnt say any of that stuff, tell it like it is. If you did, lie. Shes not with you anymore. Something didnt work out. Why should she be bothered with you anymore?

 

If shes getting violent, its perfectly OK to speak to your principle / security / teachers. Theyre there to help.

 

If things do start getting violent for real, she attempts to assault you, sabotage, or harass, I suggest legal action.

Guys what do you do when your ex is set on attacking you?

 

The simple way of saying why are some guys from the lower school start spurting [cabbage] which apparently i've said which has really pissed her off...

 

Yay for mad psychopathic ex girlfriends.

 

You need to sit her down when shes calm and talk to her seriously. If you didnt say any of that stuff, tell it like it is. If you did, lie. Shes not with you anymore. Something didnt work out. Why should she be bothered with you anymore?

 

If shes getting violent, its perfectly OK to speak to your principle / security / teachers. Theyre there to help.

 

If things do start getting violent for real, she attempts to assault you, sabotage, or harass, I suggest legal action.

 

She seems to be hiding something, as soon as she heard what I "apparently" said she instantly jumped to her defensive which would usually suggest something e.g. cheating.

 

I only see her in a public area so I hope she has more sense than stupidity.

 

Edit: Standard [bleep] attack, turning my friends against me.

I met a girl, I'm sort of into her, I guess. It's something I'd definitely try. She's a year older and I've never heard of someone in our school dating a girl in the above grade, so I get to be first. She's quite cocky, but so far I've been able to deal with that pretty well. Crossing my fingers.

Guys what do you do when your ex is set on attacking you?

 

The simple way of saying why are some guys from the lower school start spurting [cabbage] which apparently i've said which has really pissed her off...

 

Yay for mad psychopathic ex girlfriends.

 

You need to sit her down when shes calm and talk to her seriously. If you didnt say any of that stuff, tell it like it is. If you did, lie. Shes not with you anymore. Something didnt work out. Why should she be bothered with you anymore?

 

If shes getting violent, its perfectly OK to speak to your principle / security / teachers. Theyre there to help.

 

If things do start getting violent for real, she attempts to assault you, sabotage, or harass, I suggest legal action.

 

She seems to be hiding something, as soon as she heard what I "apparently" said she instantly jumped to her defensive which would usually suggest something e.g. cheating.

 

I only see her in a public area so I hope she has more sense than stupidity.

 

Edit: Standard [bleep] attack, turning my friends against me.

 

 

Sounds really like shes playing the whole "make you feel guilty" thing.

So, today has been weird. Remember that girl that's a lot like me that I liked a long time ago? Well, I was kind of turned off from her because she'd spent too much time with her friend, who is a chore of a girl. She'd also completely lost her sense of style and ... Grace? Grace.

 

Today, we experienced the most (sexual would probably be the right word, but I'd prefer to call it romantic) tension I've ever experienced. You know when you have your arms low around each other and then you lean back and look into each others' eyes? And it's about to go down? Well, that kind of freaked me out. So I jumped on one of my friends instead. Oh, and I think she was about to kiss me when we first hugged or whatevs. So I dig her again. Just wondering how she feels. I don't think she has her phone, and I rarely see her. The weirdest part was, she wasn't dressed particularly well today. The effortless chic I so admired once.

 

Anyway, after that today was kind of downhill. People I don't like in classes I don't much care for. I almost left during third period. As in, left high school. I realized what kind of people were in high school. High school teenagers. They're awful people so much of the time. But, I need to look at the good things. No, not attractiveness, there is little of that. Very little. It was kind of a bad day at school, you know?

 

Then, I went to my friend Travis'. Well, first we drove around with his dad for a bit, got him some food (his dad is one of the funniest men I know), then he fought with his parents (rare). The day was bad, definitely. But then we went to this college place called Fuzzy's Tacos. Oh, Fuzzy's Tacos.

 

You see, we find places. Places that are ... Good. This is the most recent one. Something terrible always has to force us out of our prior good place. Fun, often attractive (I mean this in all areas, it's my way of saying someone is wholly remarkable) young people. Plenty are smart. Just a good place, you know? Good, cheap food. Amazing food, really. Like I was saying: this was a good place. We went outside, because there were more pretty girls and live music. The guy wasn't playing what he should have. His guitar style is very simplistic, and he has a pretty low, jazzy voice. But he was singing songs like Tiny Dancer. Uh-uh, bad. My friend Travis is an amazing guitarist and singer, and I'm good with my harmonica and a fair singer, too (I have such a low voice that my talking voice is man-harmonizing to most other guys).

 

So, we eat, we talk to people, have some shenanigans. This is going to be our new place. We decided that Travis (and me, to an extent) needs a gig here sometime, seeing as it isn't quite open-mic but they still take anyone that brings their own equipment. We talk to the manager, he says he would love new folks. We go to talk to the guy that was doing the music. Turns out he's a really cool guy, and he desperately wants someone else to do it with him. He plays almost constantly for hours and hours on every Tuesday and some Thursdays, apparently.

 

Travis and him are gonna jam on Sunday or Monday, because the Tech-UT game is Saturday, you know how it is. I might join them, just to see how it goes, and because it might be fun. I already know this is going to be very good. Very, very good.

 

Oh, and I've proved to my friends that I know more about people than they do. But that's irrelevant. Hope you guys are having fun.

I met a girl, I'm sort of into her, I guess. It's something I'd definitely try. She's a year older and I've never heard of someone in our school dating a girl in the above grade, so I get to be first. She's quite cocky, but so far I've been able to deal with that pretty well. Crossing my fingers.

 

If she's cocky then push pull works so much better. Flirt with her and then ignore her etc.

Need advice gurus/bad[wagon]s :s

 

Two things. One trivial yet urgent, and one that's very mental and emotional that I could really care less if only my first thing is solved. </runon> I'll ask the first one first.

 

1.) How the [bleep] do you dance? Homecoming is right around the corner, and I'm taking my girlfriend. I plan to have a good time, but my good time has always been with friends, and all I really did was party-boy awkwardly with my friends and then stand around.

 

And I know that saying this goes against all of the stuff I've learned in the past several months (perhaps that stresses the sincerity), but my girlfriend really is amazing. She's one of those really rare girls... that is social, popular, into games, sweet, sincere, also a lil' spicy... (tl;dr)has everything, and I'm not going to leave her unsatisfied because I'm just standing around and only dancing on the slow songs (pretty much all I can dance too.

 

So, I've got a little more than a week. I know there are tons of dance lessons on YouTube, I just need to know how and what and where to learn. I don't know how to dance to hip-hop and what else there really is to do.

 

Please enlighten.

Need advice gurus/bad[wagon]s :s

 

Two things. One trivial yet urgent, and one that's very mental and emotional that I could really care less if only my first thing is solved. </runon> I'll ask the first one first.

 

1.) How the [bleep] do you dance? Homecoming is right around the corner, and I'm taking my girlfriend. I plan to have a good time, but my good time has always been with friends, and all I really did was party-boy awkwardly with my friends and then stand around.

 

And I know that saying this goes against all of the stuff I've learned in the past several months (perhaps that stresses the sincerity), but my girlfriend really is amazing. She's one of those really rare girls... that is social, popular, into games, sweet, sincere, also a lil' spicy... (tl;dr)has everything, and I'm not going to leave her unsatisfied because I'm just standing around and only dancing on the slow songs (pretty much all I can dance too.

 

So, I've got a little more than a week. I know there are tons of dance lessons on YouTube, I just need to know how and what and where to learn. I don't know how to dance to hip-hop and what else there really is to do.

 

Please enlighten.

If your school is anything like my school then all you will be doing is grinding....

Need advice gurus/bad[wagon]s :s

 

Two things. One trivial yet urgent, and one that's very mental and emotional that I could really care less if only my first thing is solved. </runon> I'll ask the first one first.

 

1.) How the [bleep] do you dance? Homecoming is right around the corner, and I'm taking my girlfriend. I plan to have a good time, but my good time has always been with friends, and all I really did was party-boy awkwardly with my friends and then stand around.

 

And I know that saying this goes against all of the stuff I've learned in the past several months (perhaps that stresses the sincerity), but my girlfriend really is amazing. She's one of those really rare girls... that is social, popular, into games, sweet, sincere, also a lil' spicy... (tl;dr)has everything, and I'm not going to leave her unsatisfied because I'm just standing around and only dancing on the slow songs (pretty much all I can dance too.

 

So, I've got a little more than a week. I know there are tons of dance lessons on YouTube, I just need to know how and what and where to learn. I don't know how to dance to hip-hop and what else there really is to do.

 

Please enlighten.

Move to the music. If you look stupid, it will be fun. I mean, if you're awkward and uncomfortably bad, but don't make it obvious that you don't care, you're better off staying seated. But, yeah, dance.

 

Let's see. How old are you? High school, okay. There'll probably be grinding. I can't help you there, never done it, never had any desire to. Simple concept, though. You can slow dance? Good, that's very good. I hope you mean ballroom dance, not hold her waist and move to the music. There's a time for that, but you're just as much showing off as you are enjoying each others' company. Girls love to show off how good their boyfriends are at whatever. Sounds like a good girl, by the way.

 

Start out with learning how to move your hips to music. Circular motion. Guys do it much, much slower than girls. Work up to your shoulders, and your arms soon follow. Lose yourself in the good time, but not completely (don't want to do anything too weird, aye?). Just don't make it a big deal if you think it's stupid. Don't stop until the song's over. Good dancing is tiring - if there are a bunch of songs one after another, don't do more than three if they're all fast.

 

Those group dances that everyone seems to know except for you? Learn them! It is fun. You can usually learn them by the time the first verse is done.

 

Above all, wear comfortable shoes and an undershirt ...

Need advice gurus/bad[wagon]s :s

 

Two things. One trivial yet urgent, and one that's very mental and emotional that I could really care less if only my first thing is solved. </runon> I'll ask the first one first.

 

1.) How the [bleep] do you dance? Homecoming is right around the corner, and I'm taking my girlfriend. I plan to have a good time, but my good time has always been with friends, and all I really did was party-boy awkwardly with my friends and then stand around.

 

And I know that saying this goes against all of the stuff I've learned in the past several months (perhaps that stresses the sincerity), but my girlfriend really is amazing. She's one of those really rare girls... that is social, popular, into games, sweet, sincere, also a lil' spicy... (tl;dr)has everything, and I'm not going to leave her unsatisfied because I'm just standing around and only dancing on the slow songs (pretty much all I can dance too.

 

So, I've got a little more than a week. I know there are tons of dance lessons on YouTube, I just need to know how and what and where to learn. I don't know how to dance to hip-hop and what else there really is to do.

 

Please enlighten.

Move to the music. If you look stupid, it will be fun. I mean, if you're awkward and uncomfortably bad, but don't make it obvious that you don't care, you're better off staying seated. But, yeah, dance.

 

Let's see. How old are you? High school, okay. There'll probably be grinding. I can't help you there, never done it, never had any desire to. Simple concept, though. You can slow dance? Good, that's very good. I hope you mean ballroom dance, not hold her waist and move to the music. There's a time for that, but you're just as much showing off as you are enjoying each others' company. Girls love to show off how good their boyfriends are at whatever. Sounds like a good girl, by the way.

 

Start out with learning how to move your hips to music. Circular motion. Guys do it much, much slower than girls. Work up to your shoulders, and your arms soon follow. Lose yourself in the good time, but not completely (don't want to do anything too weird, aye?). Just don't make it a big deal if you think it's stupid. Don't stop until the song's over. Good dancing is tiring - if there are a bunch of songs one after another, don't do more than three if they're all fast.

 

Those group dances that everyone seems to know except for you? Learn them! It is fun. You can usually learn them by the time the first verse is done.

 

Above all, wear comfortable shoes and an undershirt ...

 

Ah, Lent, I was really hoping you'd post, and you delivered... addressing your comments:

 

You can slow dance? Good, that's very good. I hope you mean ballroom dance, not hold her waist and move to the music.

 

[cabbage]. That, and the only extent I know, which is a very strict box-step, but that's swing dancing.

 

Uh. Yeah. That's really all I was thinking when I read that. That's the thing, right now, no idea how to dance. I'll 'practice' the techniques that you mentioned, and try to find a friend who can teach me in private in under 14 days, I suppose... I'd love to show off... Summer was supposed to be my time when I addressed all this stuff during this transformation, but I wasted it...now I'm trying to act like it's all up my sleeve.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wumzvY0b9yg

 

You don't have to be a great dancer, as long as you aren't bad while overdoing iit. Focus on the beat, do what feels natural and watch other people. That's basically how I dance, I feel like I'm not that great of a dancer but I've had compliments from girls on it, and I was checked out while dancing at a gay club once so I must be doing something right.

 

As long as you aren't awkward, you keep to the beat and you don't overdo it you should be fine.

 

As for the 'my girlfriend is amazing' thing, sorry to burst your bubble but that's just evolution talking. It's to keep 2 people together to take care of their child.

 

Just sayin' :P

Need advice gurus/bad[wagon]s :s

 

Two things. One trivial yet urgent, and one that's very mental and emotional that I could really care less if only my first thing is solved. </runon> I'll ask the first one first.

 

1.) How the [bleep] do you dance? Homecoming is right around the corner, and I'm taking my girlfriend. I plan to have a good time, but my good time has always been with friends, and all I really did was party-boy awkwardly with my friends and then stand around.

 

And I know that saying this goes against all of the stuff I've learned in the past several months (perhaps that stresses the sincerity), but my girlfriend really is amazing. She's one of those really rare girls... that is social, popular, into games, sweet, sincere, also a lil' spicy... (tl;dr)has everything, and I'm not going to leave her unsatisfied because I'm just standing around and only dancing on the slow songs (pretty much all I can dance too.

 

So, I've got a little more than a week. I know there are tons of dance lessons on YouTube, I just need to know how and what and where to learn. I don't know how to dance to hip-hop and what else there really is to do.

 

Please enlighten.

 

Move to the music. If you look stupid, it will be fun. I mean, if you're awkward and uncomfortably bad, but don't make it obvious that you don't care, you're better off staying seated. But, yeah, dance.

 

Let's see. How old are you? High school, okay. There'll probably be grinding. I can't help you there, never done it, never had any desire to. Simple concept, though. You can slow dance? Good, that's very good. I hope you mean ballroom dance, not hold her waist and move to the music. There's a time for that, but you're just as much showing off as you are enjoying each others' company. Girls love to show off how good their boyfriends are at whatever. Sounds like a good girl, by the way.

 

Start out with learning how to move your hips to music. Circular motion. Guys do it much, much slower than girls. Work up to your shoulders, and your arms soon follow. Lose yourself in the good time, but not completely (don't want to do anything too weird, aye?). Just don't make it a big deal if you think it's stupid. Don't stop until the song's over. Good dancing is tiring - if there are a bunch of songs one after another, don't do more than three if they're all fast.

 

Those group dances that everyone seems to know except for you? Learn them! It is fun. You can usually learn them by the time the first verse is done.

 

Above all, wear comfortable shoes and an undershirt ...

 

Ah, Lent, I was really hoping you'd post, and you delivered... addressing your comments:

 

You can slow dance? Good, that's very good. I hope you mean ballroom dance, not hold her waist and move to the music.

 

[cabbage]. That, and the only extent I know, which is a very strict box-step, but that's swing dancing.

 

Uh. Yeah. That's really all I was thinking when I read that. That's the thing, right now, no idea how to dance. I'll 'practice' the techniques that you mentioned, and try to find a friend who can teach me in private in under 14 days, I suppose... I'd love to show off... Summer was supposed to be my time when I addressed all this stuff during this transformation, but I wasted it...now I'm trying to act like it's all up my sleeve.

 

 

Dude! you can swing dance?

 

That's BA. Tell her you can do that.

 

But yeah, as Lent/Dan said, just be natural, no sudden dramatic movements, just loosen up and realize no one else around you can dance either. Have fun, and make sure your girl has fun. That's what's important

Yeah, just have fun with it, but don't look completely stupid while doing so. That said, if you can, why not show off? I personally can hardstyle, for instance.

Be Confident with your dancing. I enjoy dancing a lot more around guys that are confident and comfortable than awkward guys who kind of move around. Just don't go over the top with it, and try to have fun. It'll be more fun for both of you. And also make contact with her too like grab her arms/hands or something and do a little thing. Maybe even pull her close to you or something.

Yeah, just have fun with it, but don't look completely stupid while doing so. That said, if you can, why not show off? I personally can hardstyle, for instance.

If only they played hardstyle at high-school dances. I must say one of the main reasons I don't go to them is because the music just plain sucks. And how can you have fun dancing to crappy music?

And how can you have fun dancing to crappy music?

 

Getting krunk beforehand.

 

Personally, I detest that whole scene. I am literally offended that other human beings are going to move their bodies in such a buggish fashion. :notalk: It's offensive to mankind. Who agrees?

And how can you have fun dancing to crappy music?

Hardstyle is [cabbage]ty too. It's unoriginal music made by people who use the same presets from the same plugins. I hate most pop and I still have fun at dances.

Yup, music r srs busnss.