bolded for relevance. I'm not out for sex with this girl, but I told myself I wouldn't chase any more virgins after what happened last time [hence super crazy ex]. I'd like to see sex with her in the future as an option, and I'll be mature and whatnot about it, but I'm really not looking for anymore insane breakups later down the line. But I feel like I met a unicorn. 19 year old virgin pretty girl? WUT.

 

I know a few, but yes it does get increasingly rarer. I suppose that's what has led me to dating younger girls, provided I can find ones with an adequate personality to meet my needs, as well as a maturity level to match.

[bleep] sake is all I can say at the moment. I think I'm almost ready to throw the towel in with this one.

 

Well that's over now. We/she decided to split up, she's going away for the summer for like 3 months so... I'm kinda gutted, I knew this was happening, but I hoped we'd be able to pick up off where we left next year....doesn't look like that's going to be the case. :|

So, i'm interested in a new girl. Been hanging around with her and her friend a lot more, even took some portraits for her. Been talking a lot to her on Facebook chat recently - she's even told me "woah, Sam, you're really hot". Met up with her this morning and chilled for a while - should be seeing eachother at carnival tonight too. Wondering what the next move should be. I want to take it slow, but at the same time, I want to let her know i'm interested.

So, i'm interested in a new girl. Been hanging around with her and her friend a lot more, even took some portraits for her. Been talking a lot to her on Facebook chat recently - she's even told me "woah, Sam, you're really hot". Met up with her this morning and chilled for a while - should be seeing eachother at carnival tonight too. Wondering what the next move should be. I want to take it slow, but at the same time, I want to let her know i'm interested.

 

If you want to let her know you're interested, simply plan some events where it's just you and her going out. I don't mean wining and dining her right off the bat; just something casual. This shows her that you want to spend time with her, but at the same time can be simple enough that she doesn't feel it's forcing her into a relationship. If you feel it went well, and she expresses some feelings back (more than you're hot), you know it's definitely within reason to be spending more one on one time with her, and in a more intimate manner (doesn't always mean physical). If she turns down your attempts, you know it can't really be due to a lack of interest in you (since she already plainly expressed some), but is likely rather something personal such as her not being ready for a relationship, or her feeling that she has short-comings. Regardless, I believe it's best to always let a girl/boy know how you feel, and that honesty is the best policy. The trick is explaining your feelings in an appropriate manner, allowing them to be accepted in the most positive way. Hope things turn out great for you.

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Last night, I told the girl I like that I have feelings for her. She said she liked me like a best-friend or a brother. Hooray for the friend zone.

Now how do I get out?

 

I wouldn't call myself an expert, but I was in the same situation. I got out of it successfully by telling her I'd always wanted to eat her out and it worked.

 

 

Now that I think about it, was that even a good idea or was she just [bleep]ty?

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Last night, I told the girl I like that I have feelings for her. She said she liked me like a best-friend or a brother. Hooray for the friend zone.

Now how do I get out?

 

 

 

 

 

more seriously, stop talking to her while simultaneously show off all your most attractive traits like it was your job to everyone else. Eventually people will start talking about it, get the word back to her, she'll feel mighty dumb for missing her chance, then you can swoop in and relieve her of her stupidity.

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Last night, I told the girl I like that I have feelings for her. She said she liked me like a best-friend or a brother. Hooray for the friend zone.

Now how do I get out?

 

I wouldn't call myself an expert, but I was in the same situation. I got out of it successfully by telling her I'd always wanted to eat her out and it worked.

 

 

Now that I think about it, was that even a good idea or was she just [bleep]ty?

That is possibly the worst advice I've ever seen. Congratulations, you're great at making up stories.

Last night, I told the girl I like that I have feelings for her. She said she liked me like a best-friend or a brother. Hooray for the friend zone.

Now how do I get out?

 

I wouldn't call myself an expert, but I was in the same situation. I got out of it successfully by telling her I'd always wanted to eat her out and it worked.

 

 

Now that I think about it, was that even a good idea or was she just [bleep]ty?

That is possibly the worst advice I've ever seen. Congratulations, you're great at making up stories.

 

Nom, aren't you 14?

Last night, I told the girl I like that I have feelings for her. She said she liked me like a best-friend or a brother. Hooray for the friend zone.

Now how do I get out?

 

I wouldn't call myself an expert, but I was in the same situation. I got out of it successfully by telling her I'd always wanted to eat her out and it worked.

 

 

Now that I think about it, was that even a good idea or was she just [bleep]ty?

That is possibly the worst advice I've ever seen. Congratulations, you're great at making up stories.

 

Nom, aren't you 14?

In a way I wouldn't be surprised (sadly not for Nom, thats a lie) but teens are getting more sexually active at younger ages, before it was usually 17 was the norm people are having sex, now its 13-14.

That's besides the point. If a guy told me that, I'd break his jaw. It's bad advice. Very bad. Unless the girl is highly promiscuous or something.

Had Ellen messaging me on Facebook, ragingly drunk after being out at carnival - it probably doesn't mean anything, but she sent this to me on chat, after asking what my name was and me replying with "Sam" -

 

awh my ex lover has that name, i really [bleep]ed him over im such an undecicive [bleep]. he was my forever, theres no one that i ever met like him. he hade my heart boom boom really fast and now he is gone

 

not going to bother reading too much into it though.. if anything, she's just made a grand fool of herself..

Last night, I told the girl I like that I have feelings for her. She said she liked me like a best-friend or a brother. Hooray for the friend zone.

Now how do I get out?

 

I wouldn't call myself an expert, but I was in the same situation. I got out of it successfully by telling her I'd always wanted to eat her out and it worked.

 

 

Now that I think about it, was that even a good idea or was she just [bleep]ty?

That is possibly the worst advice I've ever seen. Congratulations, you're great at making up stories.

Oh Boros, you teller of myriad truths, you took the words straight from my mouth. :thumbup:

 

@Sam: by the look of it, yes, she's made a complete fool of herself.

FYI, the story is true. I'm pretty sure she just slept around though, she herself told me she did the same with like 3 other guys. So disregard the advice, but I'm not lying.

You're lying.

I'm not :thumbup:

Once upon a time we were your age, and we know the sort of stories 14-ish year olds come up with. :roll:

Last night, I told the girl I like that I have feelings for her. She said she liked me like a best-friend or a brother. Hooray for the friend zone.

Now how do I get out?

 

By asking yourself, "Now how do I get out?" you're already screwed. If, by some miracle, you manage to escape the friend-zone, you must understand that you're still very needy, and therefore very unattractive to her. Thus, understand the following:

 

YOU CAN'T HAVE HER.

 

Don't ask yourself, "How do I get out [of the friend zone]?"

 

Instead, ask yourself, "How do I stop caring about what she thinks of me?" Once you don't care about what she thinks about you, then all your anxieties/fears/insecurities about her not being attracted to you will no longer matter, and you will quit feeling like crap over this. Additionally, you should NOT be trying to get over her with the hope that in the distant future you'll some day manage to end up with her. This is a very bad thought cycle to get caught up in. If you want to be happy, you must understand and accept the fact that YOU CAN'T HAVE HER.

 

I'd appreciate if you reply to this-- I worry that, like many others, you'll ignore this advice and instead take the easy way out (see below) by clinging to the hope that you still "have a chance" with her, and ultimately remain upset/disappointed until time and/or another girl fixes this emotional wound... and that can take years to happen.

 

more seriously, stop talking to her while simultaneously show off all your most attractive traits like it was your job to everyone else. Eventually people will start talking about it, get the word back to her, she'll feel mighty dumb for missing her chance, then you can swoop in and relieve her of her stupidity.

 

This is bad advice because by following it, he is very needy. This is extremely unattractive and will nullify all of his attempts to "show off all his most attractive traits." Not only that, but if she doesn't notice him "showing off," he's just gonna remain upset and continue desperately searching for ways to get her. It's easier just to forget about her. Again, I don't mean forget about her so that she'll pop up on the radar again so you can have another chance with her-- I mean forget about her and disregard any hopes you have of ending up with her.

Once upon a time we were your age, and we know the sort of stories 14-ish year olds come up with. :roll:

 

Once upon a time you were my age, and you were annoyed with other people who thought you were lying when you actually weren't.

 

 

And I'm 15.

 

 

more seriously, stop talking to her while simultaneously show off all your most attractive traits like it was your job to everyone else. Eventually people will start talking about it, get the word back to her, she'll feel mighty dumb for missing her chance, then you can swoop in and relieve her of her stupidity.

 

This is bad advice because by following it, he is very needy. This is extremely unattractive and will nullify all of his attempts to "show off all his most attractive traits." Not only that, but if she doesn't notice him "showing off," he's just gonna remain upset and continue desperately searching for ways to get her. It's easier just to forget about her. Again, I don't mean forget about her so that she'll pop up on the radar again so you can have another chance with her-- I mean forget about her and disregard any hopes you have of ending up with her.

 

or maybe it's good advice in giving him the motivation to start trying to appear attractive to a brand new peer set, thus putting his name out to countless others, finding another girl that's better than the one he can't have, and then making a move on her, ideally happily thereafter.

 

but you know. It's crappy advice anyway, right?

 

pshhh

or maybe it's good advice in giving him the motivation to start trying to appear attractive to a brand new peer set, thus putting his name out to countless others, finding another girl that's better than the one he can't have, and then making a move on her, ideally happily thereafter.

 

but you know. It's crappy advice anyway, right?

 

pshhh

 

It's good advice in general (minus the happily thereafter part), but not in his case. You implied that if he followed your advice, he'd get the girl he wants in the long run. But by doing so, it gives him a false hope that will likely never come into fruition and ultimately lead to disappointment. His focus should be on other girls, not this one girl. You put the emphasis on this one girl.

or maybe it's good advice in giving him the motivation to start trying to appear attractive to a brand new peer set, thus putting his name out to countless others, finding another girl that's better than the one he can't have, and then making a move on her, ideally happily thereafter.

 

but you know. It's crappy advice anyway, right?

 

pshhh

 

It's good advice in general (minus the happily thereafter part), but not in his case. You implied that if he followed your advice, he'd get the girl he wants in the long run. But by doing so, it gives him a false hope that will likely never come into fruition and ultimately lead to disappointment. His focus should be on other girls, not this one girl. You put the emphasis on this one girl.

 

Yes, he did, because he was/is trying to get this one girl. If it might work, he might be willing to try it.

or maybe it's good advice in giving him the motivation to start trying to appear attractive to a brand new peer set, thus putting his name out to countless others, finding another girl that's better than the one he can't have, and then making a move on her, ideally happily thereafter.

 

but you know. It's crappy advice anyway, right?

 

pshhh

 

It's good advice in general (minus the happily thereafter part), but not in his case. You implied that if he followed your advice, he'd get the girl he wants in the long run. But by doing so, it gives him a false hope that will likely never come into fruition and ultimately lead to disappointment. His focus should be on other girls, not this one girl. You put the emphasis on this one girl.

 

Yes, he did, because he was/is trying to get this one girl. If it might work, he might be willing to try it.

 

You are missing my point. Regardless of whether or not the advice does work, the fact that he's fixated on this girl is going to spell certain doom for the relationship because even if they do end up together, he's still going to be over-concerned with what she's thinking about. You know how needy men get under these circumstances-- paranoid, territorial, jealous, etc-- all qualities which are a huge turnoff for women. And then when things go south because of this, we're back to where we started-- he's single and needy again.