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Oh, another thing, I hate cities. HATE THEM. I don't even want to look at one. If i'm in a car going through the city, I won't look out the window. Unless it's a nice city. But the packed ones with graffiti, "gangstas" and other crap...I hate. I plan on living in an area with a population no greater then 50000. I couldn`t live in the city, i just couldn`t.

 

Cities aren't dangerous. Dangerous mino---

 

Sorry.

..., you creepy 40 year old men pretending to be teenage girls (just kidding, that wouldn't happen on tif!).

Of course not!

 

...uh... actually, I have a confession...

 

I lolled :).

Confession- I have always had the desire to act as a tool or henchman to some organization. The thing is right as they were poised for some sort of huge success I want to be the one who causes it to all fall apart and be the one dancing on the ashes :smile: .

Confession- I have always had the desire to act as a tool or henchman to some organization. The thing is right as they were poised for some sort of huge success I want to be the one who causes it to all fall apart and be the one dancing on the ashes :smile: .

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Serephurus- yes I have been doing that, but thank you anyway. :P

 

Dating a German-American or ...?

 

No, I meant the advise you were giving me. The confidence thing. :P

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Oh, another thing, I hate cities. HATE THEM. I don't even want to look at one. If i'm in a car going through the city, I won't look out the window. Unless it's a nice city. But the packed ones with graffiti, "gangstas" and other crap...I hate. I plan on living in an area with a population no greater then 50000. I couldn`t live in the city, i just couldn`t.

 

Cities aren't dangerous. Dangerous mino---

 

Sorry.

 

It's not that I feel in danger, i just don't like the atomsphere.

 

Well, cities with the things that you just described usually have high crime rates. Who would feel comfortable?

 

Although, there are some pretty nice areas in some cities. I always feel comfortable in those areas. It's just the ghetto regions that I'm afraid of.

Confession: I am very, very afraid of social situations outside of school. I basically have no idea of how to go about them (being homeschooled until eighth grade and also not asking anybody how). I have friends at school, I have Facebook friends (most from school), and I have friends online. I don't hang out with anyone in real life, and if somebody asks if I want to hang out or go to a party I'll tell them that I have a lot to do on the weekend/weekday. People keep wondering why the hell I don't have a girlfriend, and my friends make jokes about me being gay or a virgin (not gay). I keep telling myself that as soon as I can drive, then I'll start having a normal social life -- but now that I can legally drive (just hit sixteen today) that just adds another confusing variable to the social equation. It's pretty shameful, to be honest. >.< I haven't even been kissed before. Also, I'm extremely self-conscious about my body but afraid to go to the gym and bulk up because I think I'll see someone I know there, and that they'll laugh at me because of how little I think I could lift (in reality, it's probably normal, but I'm too afraid to test it and embarrass myself).

 

Also, I don't think of myself as being very interesting compared to other people.

Well, cities with the things that you just described usually have high crime rates. Who would feel comfortable?

 

Although, there are some pretty nice areas in some cities. I always feel comfortable in those areas. It's just the ghetto regions that I'm afraid of.

White folks that are scared of "the ghetto" make me laugh. It's gonna be confusing when I move and I'm not part of the minority in my everyday life.

 

I love big cities, though. I've spent my life in small towns or tiny cities, and I'm tired of them. Everything's sluggish and people are too resistant to change. Nothing ever really happens here. I intend to live in Austin, LA, Seattle, New York, the major players in our world, you know? Those are the places where history will happen.

Well, cities with the things that you just described usually have high crime rates. Who would feel comfortable?

 

Although, there are some pretty nice areas in some cities. I always feel comfortable in those areas. It's just the ghetto regions that I'm afraid of.

White folks that are scared of "the ghetto" make me laugh. It's gonna be confusing when I move and I'm not part of the minority in my everyday life.

 

I love big cities, though. I've spent my life in small towns or tiny cities, and I'm tired of them. Everything's sluggish and people are too resistant to change. Nothing ever really happens here. I intend to live in Austin, LA, Seattle, New York, the major players in our world, you know? Those are the places where history will happen.

 

The DFW area might be nice as well. I used to live there as a child. I'm not sure what it's like now.... I just remember it being like one continuous city. You could see the skylines of both Dallas AND Fort Worth from Oil Derrick.

Confession: I am very, very afraid of social situations outside of school. I basically have no idea of how to go about them (being homeschooled until eighth grade and also not asking anybody how). I have friends at school, I have Facebook friends (most from school), and I have friends online. I don't hang out with anyone in real life, and if somebody asks if I want to hang out or go to a party I'll tell them that I have a lot to do on the weekend/weekday. People keep wondering why the hell I don't have a girlfriend, and my friends make jokes about me being gay or a virgin (not gay). I keep telling myself that as soon as I can drive, then I'll start having a normal social life -- but now that I can legally drive (just hit sixteen today) that just adds another confusing variable to the social equation. It's pretty shameful, to be honest. >.< I haven't even been kissed before. Also, I'm extremely self-conscious about my body but afraid to go to the gym and bulk up because I think I'll see someone I know there, and that they'll laugh at me because of how little I think I could lift (in reality, it's probably normal, but I'm too afraid to test it and embarrass myself).

 

Also, I don't think of myself as being very interesting compared to other people.

 

I know the feeling, and since I do, I'm also pretty sure you wouldn't take my advice until a few years from now. If you wish to prove otherwise, I'd be very happy :).

 

The thing is, no one really judges you other than you. I haven't seen your body, yet I'm certain there's nothing wrong with it. I'm also certain that even if there was something wrong with it, no one would laugh at your at the gym or at all, unless their aim is to hurt your personally, which they'd do even if you had an "amazing" body.

 

The fact that you've never been kissed is something I'm pretty sure you keep telling yourself every once in a while, and you should stop that habit. What you do here, is convince yourself, unwillingly, that you're not as good as others, that you're not equal to them, and that you probably shouldn't hang out with them so not to further embarrass yourself . You should instead make a habit of telling yourself the things you do like about yourself, and if you do so properly, you'll probably end up more confident and not need these reassurances.

 

If (and as a guy, I'm pretty sure you are) you're thinking of the kissing and losing your virginity part as sorts of... ceremonies in the way to manhood, you should stop that aswell. I assure you that with enough confidence and a bit sociallizing, these things will come naturally, without you even thinking about them. Just try to lose the pressure around that area, no one else other than you cares for these things (not even your friends, they're just having fun, albeit in a cruel sort of way).

 

 

The most practical advice I can give you, is to try to really go to one of these parties or hangouts your friends invite you to. You'll probably be a bit anxious before actually going out, as you're not used to it, and some fears will pay a visit, but you'll probably end up having a good time and wishing you would have done that earlier.

To lose some more pressure, I'd advise you to put on your best clothes, so as to feel more confident. And remember, they're your friends, not your enemies, they're there to have fun just as much as you are.

 

 

I hope this helps :), at all.

The DFW area might be nice as well. I used to live there as a child. I'm not sure what it's like now.... I just remember it being like one continuous city. You could see the skylines of both Dallas AND Fort Worth from Oil Derrick.

To be honest, unless you're really downtown, every city in Texas (excluding Austin) is the same. Generally nasty suburbs. I don't like suburbs - they're fake cities. Downtown DFW is fantastic, same with Houston. Haven't been to San Antonio. Austin says "[bleep] U" to the rest of us and does their own thang.

Confession: I am very, very afraid of social situations outside of school. I basically have no idea of how to go about them (being homeschooled until eighth grade and also not asking anybody how). I have friends at school, I have Facebook friends (most from school), and I have friends online. I don't hang out with anyone in real life, and if somebody asks if I want to hang out or go to a party I'll tell them that I have a lot to do on the weekend/weekday. People keep wondering why the hell I don't have a girlfriend, and my friends make jokes about me being gay or a virgin (not gay). I keep telling myself that as soon as I can drive, then I'll start having a normal social life -- but now that I can legally drive (just hit sixteen today) that just adds another confusing variable to the social equation. It's pretty shameful, to be honest. >.< I haven't even been kissed before. Also, I'm extremely self-conscious about my body but afraid to go to the gym and bulk up because I think I'll see someone I know there, and that they'll laugh at me because of how little I think I could lift (in reality, it's probably normal, but I'm too afraid to test it and embarrass myself).

 

Also, I don't think of myself as being very interesting compared to other people.

 

You almost perfectly explained me there :P

we have a lot in common.....

Earthysun, I can't say I know how you feel because I thrive around people, so much so that when I'm alone, my phone never stops vibrating because I have to text someone. lol but I've got a lot of friends that have told me the same thing, and what I did to help them get out there was show up at their house, and harass them until they would come with me, and we'd have a great time. At first I wouldn't take them to hotspots, I'd just hang out with them, get them used to getting out, and then I'd go to the local coffee shop where everyone in this small town hangs out now because of directly or indirectly, yours truly :P but seriously, take a friend up on those offers too hang out. Just the fact that they are inviting you means they want to hang out with you and won't judge you for anything you think might be wrong with you.

 

As for the body thing, I'm sure you're fine, but working out is a fun thing to do and it really helps your confidence. A good way to get started is simply waking up, stretching, and do as many push ups as possible, then stretch your arms, and then do as many crunches as possible. then stretch your stomach, and repeat. Then before you go to sleep do the same thing but only once through. After about a week you might want to throw in some cardio to burn whatever fat you might have so your nice and toned and every girl will want a piece of you ;)

Others may have already covered this issue, but hey, never hurts to throw an extra bit of help around, does it?

 

Earthy, I turn seventeen in a month, and I have never kissed a girl. But quite honestly, I don't care. I believe my body isn't the greatest thing in the world as well, but I'm proud of it all the same. Friends make fun of each other by dubbing one another gay or virgins, I should know, for I do it at times as well. Though I am a virgin to all kinds of dating I am still proud of myself for not caring what other people think. Most don't care about these things in the first place, so try and get into a better mindframe.

 

Oh, and I'm not social at all outside of college. I hate parties, alcohol, and all those things 'regular' teenagers do. But once again, I don't care. I enjoy my life, and I'm not changing it just because someone may think I'm wasting my time. This is just me though, and others here have given much better advice than me. Still, like I said, never hurts to know what other people think.

White folks that are scared of "the ghetto" make me laugh. It's gonna be confusing when I move and I'm not part of the minority in my everyday life.

When people confuse poorer areas as ghettos make me laugh tick me off. Just because it's older and has a few "pimped out" cars doesn't mean it's a cesspool of crime and blacks (or in my case, Mexicans).

 

And white as the minority? Move to Wyoming. Kid you not, every Taco Bell worker there was white. TACO BELL. Jesus Christ you don't see that EVER! :mrgreen: (least not in California)

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On-Topic with Earthy: I'm almost in the same position as you. I'm not a social person, I don't feel the need to talk with everybody I see. People mock me for it but [bleep] them. [bleep] them, because, I have something they don't and that's what you should have. Find something that you do, like a hobby, and make it your own. An example would be this guy's skill with computers. Can set up networks, write code, fix PCs, I don't care but he's skillful of computers. Eventually, he would get a pretty good job with it. There's only one job you can do with flirting and that's not the most deseriable jobs around... especially if you're male. :razz: Either way, find something that is purely YOURS and live life with the knowledge of being unique, with your purpose on this world so you don't have to rely on being socially popular to achieve a place when you already have one.

 

Because, ultimately, the success of life is personal satisfaction in your job or money standing or family. I've never heard someone dying proud because he/she had x-amounts of friends or girl/boyfriends or whatever. Live life with your own position in the world doing something YOU can do damn well at.

I'll make it in six. And I will make my marks two steps ahead of wherever you go. AHAHAHAHAHAHA

I am going to jump on the bandwagon and give Earthy some advice. If I sound rude, I'm sorry.

 

Quit feeling sorry for yourself. If you get up in front of a crowd of people to recite a poem, and as you're walking up to the stage, you're thinking, "Oh [cabbage] this was a terrible idea, I'm gonna mess up, everybody will laugh", then you will mess up. Likewise, you shouldn't go around thinking "I'm a socially awkward freak who spends all his time on an online video game and asks for help from strangers on the internet", because you make yourself that person. As for being uncomfortable about your body, first of all, who cares? Nobody's perfect, and the people who seem perfect are made imperfect by their perfection. If the people around you seriously think the way you claim they do, then you have every right to be antisocial; but I doubt they do.

 

People aren't naturally mean to each other, and if you meet someone who is, the people around him or her probably think he/she's obnoxious. Don't worry too much about what other people think, just be yourself. And by the way, last time I was given a percentage, about 40% of 18 year olds are virgins.

 

 

That was a bit incoherent. In short,

-the first step in learning to swim is jumping into the water. If you're worried you don't know how to party, go to a party.

-forget about the virgin thing. Most of my 16-year-old friends are virgins

-People won't judge you for being yourself, and if they do, don't worry, they're [wagon].

 

Oh, and go buy some 10-pound dumbells. Or whatever the things are called that you hold one in each hand. A few bicep curls a day and some sit-ups will have you feeling great in no time.

 

 

If the self-criticism didn't completely destroy your confidence, the endless stream of advice will.

I look younger than I actually am, so people often mistake me for being 11 or 10 years old. When I am really 13 almost 14.

 

I get really, really bothered when people call me "Buddy".

Not quite. Few months off (four, I think. wait, five). So, nonetheless. Ha.

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I look younger than I actually am, so people often mistake me for being 11 or 10 years old. When I am really 13 almost 14.

 

I get really, really bothered when people call me "Buddy".

 

I'm 14, and people always think I'm 17.

It's only annoying when they keep mentioning it like it is so freakin' amazing. That's wen you know that there is nothing to talk about.

My fetish is people with glasses.

I look younger than I actually am, so people often mistake me for being 11 or 10 years old. When I am really 13 almost 14.

 

I get really, really bothered when people call me "Buddy".

 

I have the same problem really. I'm 21 but I probably look more like 17 or so. Hah, at least it's not my sister -- she's been called a 12-13 year old even though she is 19 years old. :D