Bullies!?

[nomadmike]

8-) Being the biggest has given me peace and quite.

 

 

 

At 6' 2'' in 8th grade it was great :lol:

[ThurinEthir]

I get bullied sometimes (Eh, more like rather often) but I admit I'm somewhat of a bully myself.

 

 

 

No serious bullying went on in elementary school...Just stupid "You're stupid" comments back and forth. Except maybe fifth grade...This kid picked on me a little...Nothing big though.

 

But middle school...

 

I was a perfect target for bullying. Unpopular, small, has a reputation as a nice and peaceful person. One of the biggest bullying case I've encountered was in sixth grade...

 

This already established bully wanted to look in my locker - I have no idea why, he just did. I refused. I kicked him in the leg. He told me to kick him again. I did. He shoved me, I shoved him back. Ends up we have a decent-sized fight in the hallway. Luckily, no teacher sees us.

 

From then on, he bullies me every chance possible. He gets racial. I make him pay...Got him square in the face with a chicken nugget, then a punch in the stomach. Owned. Once again, no teacher sees, but he learns his lesson. Don't mess with me. At least I hope he did.

 

 

 

[hide=Yankees Suck!]And then, in seventh grade, I was asking for it. Wearing a Yankees shirt to school near Boston (I have no idea why I did...) is pretty much suicide. Starts in homeroom...Which is full of jocks. Then band...A guy that's bullied me quite a lot (This one completely due to size...He's humongous) pretty much destroys me. With his French horn. Then on to lunch...The bully I talked about above comes back...Has a few choice words...Then on the way home, every person that sees me has something to say.[/hide]

 

 

 

[hide=War]But anyways, I guess I have to save some space for the biggest bullying I've encountered. If you even call it bullying...

 

I've posted about it before...Anyways...My best friend in elementary school was a kid named Will. He's a dork, always been a dork. I'm a geek, and just as unpopular, so that's probably why we were friends. Anyways, sixth grade nearly killed our friendship. He got bullied a lot...And I had to decide between him, and my other friends. I did my best to pick both...But it didn't work out so well. I threw some playful insults at him and eventually he threw some less playful ones back. By the end of the year, we were neutral. Then seventh grade...The fall continues. My friends and I form "the Asian Mafia"...Basically, a group of Asians who are best friends and play a bunch of online games, mainly MMORPGs. When we made our first clan/guild together, that was the name we decided on. We stuck with it. Anyways...Our little group had a kid from NYC. Dirty mouth. Only nice to his friends. Everyone else, beware. Somehow, he became our "leader". He started to playfully take Will's stuff, and we all eventually did as well. Then one day...While was trying to grab his backpack back from another kid, he thought I was going for his lunchbox. His reaction...Grab his lunch box strap, swing it around, hit me in the face. My reaction...Grab his shirt, shove him onto the ground, kick him, then punch him. Somehow, the principal only punishes him, and not me. Ever since that day, he's seeked revenge...There's been way too many "battles" for me to go into detail, but basically, we're virtual enemies. We stab at each other every chance we get. I personally think he's getting a little desperate, and is starting to make up lies about me to "get cooler". (While it does the opposite.) Anyways, whatever the case is, it's intense bullying. Physical and verbal. I just hope he doesn't go after me the first minute of the upcoming school year...[/hide]

 

 

 

Anyways...That's one case of me bullying someone, although it included me getting bullied as well. I actually don't think there's been a case in which I've bullied without being bullied first...

 

And to those people saying to stick with your friends, I do. Those saying don't fight back...Even though it's probably what I should do, nah. We're like an army...Attack one of us, we'll attack you back. And we'll destroy you. :

 

(By the way, about my reputation as nice and peaceful. Not really. I'm now nice and violent. Yay.)

[Kevin_]

I never get bullied, if you do, stand up for yourself :). Most of the 'bullying' is for laughter anyways, allthough some people take it very serious, just make jokes about the kid who bullies you :).

[Lenin64]

I am never bullied, never have been, probably never will be. I just kinda blend in with my surroundings, and I like it that way. Though somehow, and i really have no idea how it happened, I kinda sorta, somewhat fell in with a small group of "cooler" kids, not "cool" just about average really. Its not a "meet-after-school-and-do-things" kind of thing just a talk about random stuff every once in a while during class. I seem to inexplicably make friends despite my not wanting to, like in another class I met some guys just as sadistic as I am (you dont see it much on these forums, but its there in the real world). I think it might be the way I carry myself, very dignified and superior... And for those of you who say bullies cover their own insecurities, thats a load of bull (for me at least). a lot of them just like causing pain.

[unkn0wnwarrior]

Where I live, nobody bullies anymore... When I was in kindergarten, though, a grade 1 kept picking on me and pushing me around... My solution was my sister. The bullying lasted no more than a week before she stepped in. She threw him into a snowbank and he left me alone from then on.

[Evil_Sabre]

You just have to learn to be more open, people respect confidence and openess. Go up to people and just start up a conversation, who cares if you think you look stupid doing it? it could make you a new friend or just another aquaintence. Try finding a hobby your interested in and find other people who share that hobby or interest.

 

 

 

luckily i went to a jr. high school that had an extremely broad range of people in it and i was friends with all of them through high school as well (jocks, nerds, punks, and even bullies beleive it or not)

[Rebdragon]

Okay, everyone, please understand this statement before you try and tell him to do a 180 on his personality:

 

 

 

Some people are introverts. Some people are extroverts. Sure, each has it's advantages, and sometimes it's better to be what you aren't, but it's not exactly a walk in the park switching from the former mode to the latter mode, or vice-versa. It's just the way people are, you can't expect a human being to turn their personality around on a whim.

 

 

 

Also, as Goddess would say, just telling him to be more outgoing doesn't really help at all. He knows that; it's not like stating the obvious is going to help or change anything (unless you're going into detail, such as bobbington's post).

 

 

 

No offense of course :| . It's just bugging me that telling him to "spontaneously make friends" and "stand up for himself" doesn't get him (or anyone reading) anywhere, at all.

[The Dark Lord]

I used to be bullied a lot when I was younger. I am the quiet, sensitive, feminine-type boy. I would be ridiculed a lot. People would make fun of my clothes, my behavior, etc. It's nothing short of psychological torture.

 

 

 

I would be physically tormented, ignored like I didn't exist, stereotyped. I can remember in the 5th grade when I was playing during recess on the merry-go-round. I had a few friends with me, and we were spinning it around and getting on it and were having fun. Then, a crowd of kids come toward us and say "Hey, want us to spin you guys around?" and we were like "Okay." They start to spin us around, but kept going faster and faster. My friends managed to get off because it was starting to go too fast, but I was unable to. I was nearly hurled off of the merry-go-round. Of course, I went to a teacher about it.

 

 

 

There were many other incidents. My parents would move me across the country a lot and I would lose the friends that I met previously. I grew up without the kind of friends that you could hang out with at any time. I didn't get very much social interaction and affection from others.

 

 

 

I would also try to imitate other guys and become "more like them," or masculine. This didn't work out well because I came across as even weirder. It also felt wrong and I was confused because I didn't know why I was different. (Until I read some articles regarding "brain gender" on the internet and confirmed my suspicions that I thought more like a girl and behaved feminine.)

 

 

 

I eventually developed a severe social phobia. I would be afraid to hug people, talk to people, etc. I finally broke the phobia during my Freshman year.

 

 

 

Now, I am a Sophomore in high school. I am more talkative and am no longer afraid to express my true personal identity. People know that I am effeminate, and some have even asked me if I was gay. I'm heterosexual though. I even walk from class to class with my books held across my chest and prop my left leg over my right leg feminine-style. lol. I don't care. I have a tremendously happier school life and lots of popular friends.

 

 

 

So yes, bullies suck.

[sa121]

I got bullied a bit, but I have a lot of friends who will actually stand up for me, so I'm pretty good. And I can hold my own physically, seeing as my reflexs are pretty good, and for some reason, when I'm stressed, time actually seems to slow down for me. It's a bit wierd. I can do something in what I think is how I normally would, but then someone will be like, holy s*** that was fast, or the like. I took karate for a few years till I got my black belt too, so that probably helped. But yeah, I have always been a shy kid with lots of friends in both the socially popular and un-popular sections, so I'm not really picked on, just there, a normal kid that no one cares about. But yeah, just throw an insult back at the person or go along with it and most people will move on to someone else.

 

 

 

Meh, that seems a bit wierdly worded and scrambled to me, but oh well. Best I can put it together.

[Guest]

 

 

 

1. stop caring "I dont care what you think" it is amazingly powerfull, you dont act with it, you dont say it.... you just do it. Block off the emotion.... no longer care about their opinion. As far as I am conserned the bullies opinion about anything is worth nothing. It is hard to do, and you have to make an effort to it, but it is very possible to stop caring.

 

 

 

2. Make a joke!

 

Q. "Is that skelaton your only friend?"

 

A. "no I am also friends with a toilet brush!"

 

You may think you may now look like an idiot..... but who cares! the bully tried to make a joke, and you went along with it! again it comes back to point one, their joke is nothing more than that...... a Joke..... you can take it in a few ways, either let it effect you, and possibly become upset about it, or think...... "ooo! a joke! how can I join in!"

 

 

 

Bullys think they are funny! dont let them have the last word.... you will nearly always find you can make a better joke than they can!

 

 

 

 

I couldn't agree more with those wise words of yours Bobbington. I've had the piss paid out of me for the last 2 years or so (before this year) but this year I've stopped caring and giving reactions to people who pay me out about my appearance. I seriously just stopped caring and not reacting and even made a joke about myself about what their saying, and it seriously back fires on them. They've got to think of more crap to bully you about after that. So taking it as a joke or even making a joke back at yourself, showing that you don't care in the slightest what they say really helps.

 

 

 

Saying that though, If I saw them outside of school after I finish in a years time, I'd have to control myself not to go up to the bullies and kick their [wagon] (which I am more than capable of doing). I wouldn't do it at school since it'd back fire on me and the risk of being kicked out of the school for fighting.

 

 

 

By the way Striker you're back?! :shock:

 

 

 

Welcome back anyway. :)

[assassin_696]

I can be a complete introvert at times, and I've never been bullied in my life.

 

 

 

I suppose i'm kinda lucky because people at my school recognise me as someone who's quite smart and will probably help them out with their homework if they ask, so I guess it would be a bigger loss for them than me. :P

 

 

 

There's no point pretending that i'm super tough so I've never been physcially bullied, but i'm not an easy target. I'm not especially large but I can handle myself, and going to a school where how you play rugby means a lot, i'm lucky that I can get well into a rugby match and I play for the school team, so i've never had to put up with physical bullying. It's the verbal stuff which I'd find harder to deal with, I find it's best to just laugh it off. The more you get wound up the more you let them win. Give 'em the silent treatment and they'll find it harder to react.

[Intriguing]

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Now, I am a Sophomore in high school. I am more talkative and am no longer afraid to express my true personal identity. People know that I am effeminate, and some have even asked me if I was gay. I'm heterosexual though. I even walk from class to class with my books held across my chest and prop my left leg over my right leg feminine-style. lol. I don't care. I have a tremendously happier school life and lots of popular friends.

 

I get asked that way too much. :)

[forsaken]

I don't think I've ever been bullied. Either that or I just haven't cared/noticed it.

 

 

 

I'm told I have an acerbic wit and an unnerving 'stare'. Those might be possible contributors.

 

 

 

edit: Actually I remember an occasion now! In my younger years my parents forced me to go to saturday school to learn their native language. During this period there were a brother-sister pair who thought they were the epitome of hilarity by picking on someone several years younger than them.

 

 

 

Alike to some posters above, I have spent many a reflective moment dreaming of meeting them again and teaching them a lesson or two. [;

[andufusthebronze]

I was bullied in primary school. I hated him, but I got my own back. I told the head teacher, and he was forced to sit alone every break and lunch in the class room.

 

 

 

Year 7, a certain [wagon] tried it, so I just ignored it. I was bullied for most of the year, and it started getting to me. He tried to trip me up, and I hit him in the face. Hard. I think he left the school.

 

 

 

I was bullied in year 8. Twice. But, that I don't want to talk about. Basically, I am generally peaceful. But when something like that happens, I do get angry. Fast.

[mcneilp]

I had never been bullied until about second year of high school, when one of my friends and i were getting bullied, the bully (just a sterotypical fat, shaven head, fists like hams, run-of-the-mill bully) came up to us, with his crew in tow.

 

 

 

It was like a thing out of a film, they litearally made a circle around us and the bully grabbed my friend and tried stuffing yoghurt down his back, i tried pulling the bully off of him (not easy, let me tell ya :shock: ), i then took a sucker punch to the back of the head from one of the bullies henchmen.

 

 

 

To put it straight, i snapped! I turned around and smacked the guy right below the eye. The bully himself saw it and kinda let go of my friend for a moment, i was ready for fighting, what with adrenalin and such and the fact i had seen this guy torment one of my good friends since the start of the year. I really don't know why bullies/hardmen/tools see violence as a challenge but he started on me. To be honest i was happy it was me rather than my friend,to cut a long story short, we had a fight but my smaller stature and quicker fists :thumbsup: stopped this guy bothering me and my friend again.

 

 

 

Thats the only time that has ever happened, i'm usually quite quiet, laid back and never in any big trouble at school so i think bullies make the assumption that just because i didn't speak much i wouldn't stand up for myself.

[Denismage]

6 feet tall, broad shoulders, muscles.

 

 

 

 

 

No one dares :roll:

[tomdavies90]

I used to be sort of bullied by this tosser who used to bully loads of people, I still don't like him now but to be honest if he tried anything now I'd just punch him. See I got to a point where I realised that I probably couldn't win a fight but that when I get angry I get pretty damn enraged, and if someone annoyed me enough I'd beat them up pretty badly. But strangley noone has ever pushed me far enough to make me want to fight them, hence I've never been in a fight, doubt I ever will be. Strange considering some of the things I've said to people as witty comebacks, but which were quite rude.

[jackattack]

I dont get bullied, I bully.

 

 

 

Thats the spirit :twisted:

 

 

 

Anyway i never got bullied my school is so chill the worst anyone gets made fun of is like the kid who never talks when people see him they go liKe "hey its So and so my best friend" and try to give him a high five. thats not even that bad it just annoys the kid.

 

 

 

anyway if someones gonna start stuff karate chop to the throat works on anyone

 

 

 

at least on tv.

[Giordano]

I dont get bullied, I bully.

 

 

 

Thats the spirit :twisted:

 

 

 

Anyway i never got bullied my school is so chill the worst anyone gets made fun of is like the kid who never talks when people see him they go liKe "hey its So and so my best friend" and try to give him a high five. thats not even that bad it just annoys the kid.

 

 

 

anyway if someones gonna start stuff karate chop to the throat works on anyone

 

 

 

at least on tv.

 

The quiet ones are the most dangerous...they plot on those silent hours... :uhh:

[The Dark Lord]

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Now, I am a Sophomore in high school. I am more talkative and am no longer afraid to express my true personal identity. People know that I am effeminate, and some have even asked me if I was gay. I'm heterosexual though. I even walk from class to class with my books held across my chest and prop my left leg over my right leg feminine-style. lol. I don't care. I have a tremendously happier school life and lots of popular friends.

 

I get asked that way too much. :)

 

 

 

Let's start a club.

[Echofish]

I get picked on for being asian.

 

 

 

*starts rant about not being related to Bruce Lee, I'm not a doctor, I'm not that smart, I don't know Kung-Fu etc...*

 

 

 

 

 

Then again, I give them the idea that I do know Kung-fu and my dad is their doctor and I can make him prescribe fake drugs : I don't get bullied, I usually just answer back.

[SirHartlar]

I was bullied in primary school for a few years. A friend I was very close to lost his father to a motorbike accident and vented his anger on me. At the time I was powerless to stop it; I wouldn't fight back or tell anyone in case it made it worse. In the end he just grew out of it and now we get along just fine. This was a long time ago and don't hold it against him, he was going through a difficult patch in his life, I can't imagine what he was feeling. He is sorry for what he did and I'm not one to hold a grudge. :)

[deloriagod]

Nobody bullies me. I'm not the smallest guy around and I'm not afraid of anybody. In PE I play my hardest at everything we do and I usually match up with the biggest guys in my class (and I don't often lose). My dad taught me how to fight but I've never had to actually fight anyone. My dad was the same way as me when he was my age (but he was a little smaller) and I just kind of took after him. F* bullies, I'll stand up for anyone getting picked on.

[Will H]

I sort of get bullied, but it's not any physical or verbal bullying that most people experience. It's simply that if I answer a question which I don't think about thuoroughly which results in a wrong answer, a name is then coined from that which is repeatedly called to me by everyone.

 

 

 

The problem is that the names are not insulting, just annoying for sheer repetitiveness. This means that if I tell someone about it, which I have, it ends up sounding childish, so I just grin and bear it.

 

 

 

Of course, there are those (and you get them in every school for each year group) who have just that limited intelligence and seem to continue it even after everybody's got bored of it, but after a while it gets sparked again. -.-

 

 

 

I'm not part of the super-intelligent geeky group, nor am I part of a sporty non-acedemic group. I'm just in the average joe group.

 

 

 

All I do the combat it is not to spark it by being relatively quiet (but not silent) in class, but just focus on written and practical work, keeping up the grades. O:)

[highlanders]

Congratz on getting that out Striker, people are usually embarassed of doing so. I suffered a lot in my childhood, but it's mostly because I don't connect easily with people. I act much older, and think much older than I am, and I don't connect with people my age easily, they're mostly horribly stupid and superficial. 13 yrs old, going 43, see what I mean? My parents also thought I was always wise beyond my years, they always told me I had a very old soul. Now I just accept it, I'm very different from most humans, in a good way. I do what I have to do, and I try to make the eyes of people open and make them change their perceptions on the way.

 

 

 

Usually, people react two ways to suffering; if their suffering makes them learn something, they become wiser, but if their suffering does not make them learn and evolve, they become bitter.