Bullies!?

[Striker6]

Have you ever been bullied in life? If so, share with the online community what you did about it and how it has affected you? You might still be bullied at school and are worried about how to deal with it! Basically this is a discussion about your experiences of bullies, not specifically at school.

 

 

 

I was bullied at school, and it has damaged me alot and nobody did a thing about it. Because I am naturally a quiet, polite, "good" person I was picked on between the years of about 12-16. I am 18 now, and no longer bullied but only because I changed schools. When at school though all of my friends were in different classes to me, and although I work hard I am not especially as naturally intelligent as some of my friends so was put in lower classes. People that were more, hmmmm how to say it? "street wise", "rough" etc than me. I was different, I wasn't loud, and not a trouble maker. But people just didnt like me, they used to make fun of my appearance, trip me up, steal my money, embarass me. Once some people did it everybody joined in. I remember standing next to a door to the science lab and a model of a skeleton was near me I was just looking at it and some girl next to me who I had never spoken to said "what ben, is that your one and only friend"? The guy next to her congratulated her on the quick witted remark. This kind of thing happened every day.

 

 

 

By the time I was 15 I was a loner and nobody liked me, I wasn't really as badly bullied as I had been, because I no longer spoke out in class or communicated with my class mates, but still hated for being "different" to them. I never told anybody about it for obvious reasons.

 

 

 

I still have no friends and I am 18 and nobody knows really who I am, just somebody to avoid. I constantly think of ways to avenge my young, naive self by possibly hunting down those that used to bully me. But I remembered what I did when I was about 14, I found the Internet and confided in it. I figured other people do the same, so share your stories. You see society grabs and strangles those that are different, perhaps some souls can still be saved. Dub me the Unforgiven, are there any others?

[1canadian1]

I dont get bullied, I bully.

[ThoseTheBrokes]

I dont get bullied, I bully.

 

 

 

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[Nom]

I dont get bullied, I bully.

 

 

 

And you posted this. . . on a thread. . . about people who are bullied. . . including the author. . .

[xvillexvalox]

No one in our school gets "seriously" bullied, ussually the only ones who get bullied are those that can and do stand up for themselves, say a jock picking on a punk for his tight pants.

 

 

 

But the quiet kids that everyone thinks are weird and that seem nerdy, they are just left to be at peace, no one minds unless they get in their way.

 

 

 

Best way to avoid bullying, be freinds with everyone, be outgoing, and stand up for yourself.

 

 

 

We don't have many bullies mainly because the bullied aren't to afraid to tell a counsler and the bully gets "bully" written in their acedemic record. (colleges will see it).

 

 

 

 

 

Though, if you really want to be a BA, when someone says something witty, don't stray away from what you're doing, but give the the death stare, and don't show any emotion or make any sounds. Trust me, it annoys people ALOT, I do it to my parents when I get in fights with them :D

 

 

 

 

 

Anouther way to differ bullies, bully them, makethem feel bad for picking on others.

[BlueLancer]

I wasn't bullied in school, I was fortunately pretty big, but I have the utmost despise against bullies and I have an agenda to revenge bullies who have picked on my friends/family members in childhood and are still arrogant [wagon] as adults.

 

 

 

They behave that way just because nobody ever told them what they're doing is disgusting and cowardly, or they realized this, and kept doing it anyways because they're twisted. They need a reality check.

 

 

 

They're the same kind of people who cheat in online games, steal accounts, scam others... And later in life as adults resort to lying, cheating, stealing, violence... They'll do anything despicable to bolster their tiny ego and further their own advantage.

[hellbellz]

I dont get bullied, I bully.

Nice way of making people feel bad about themselves, lowering their self esteem, and being rude and crude to people. Jerk. If you were being sarcastic, you're pretty childish.

 

 

 

 

 

Sorry to hear about that Striker. You really should have told someone, such as a guidence counciler. You should really start by making some friends, where you work, where you go to college, or wherever you go. You just have to introduce yourself, be kind. Oh, if people think you're wierd, screw them.

[Diesel]

I'm 6' 3" 175 lbs. I don't get bullied, however I don't bully. People call me the gentle giant :P

 

 

 

Bullying is horrible. Usually those who bully are only trying to cover up their own insecurities. If I ever got bullied, I wouldn't feel sorry for myself, I would feel sorry for the bully. Maybe that's just me though...

[heartless619]

i was bullied once but now...i take revenge on bullies and those who bully others...

[Nero]

I never was bullied, people were too afraid to bully me in elementary school, and I just stick to myself and don't piss anyone off in High School.

[look_its_rob]

I kinda get bullied sometimes, mostly just cause of my huge nose(no really, its huge) but it really depends on who im with at the time. like, when i play basketball (which i do every single day cause I'm a straight up balla :wall: \ ) i always get picked on cause (err how to say this with out sounding racist) my town has lots of black kids, most of them play basketball, and almost everyone of them is rather stupid( seriously there is almost no black kids in honors classes) and cause im the goofy white kid playing basketball they make fun of me and my nose.

 

 

 

but when im in class, and in school i don't get made fun of thattt much sometimes my friends poke fun but i poke fun at them too.

 

 

 

but the kids at basketball really bother me, makes me want to avoid all the good courts in the city.

[Satenza]

Pft, whitemen can't jump.

 

 

 

And canadians can't bully.

 

 

 

I never really got bullied, mainly just friendly banter.

 

 

 

The funny thing is here in England that after highschool (ends at 16) you go to a seperate college for 2 years (before university) so most of my friends stayed on there and we remained friends with a few new people. The bullies who stayed and went to college were often isolated since they had barley any friends and those they did have mostly dropped out. With the amount of freetime in the middle of the day they were pretty much alone the whole time.

 

 

 

That was true karma.

[Rebdragon]

Geez dude :| . Children and teenagers can be social bastards some times... though try not to let revenge get in your head too much :? .

 

 

 

I wasn't bullied in school, I was fortunately pretty big, but I have the utmost despise against bullies and I have an agenda to revenge bullies who have picked on my friends/family members in childhood and are still arrogant [wagon] as adults.

 

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I've always been short as hell (curse genetics, still at 5'7" as a frikkin' Senior), but I am/have always been athletic, fast, and adept at gymnastics, so I've never had to deal with bullying either ^_^.

 

 

 

Though, I remember in 8th grade there was a kid who always used to verbally abuse me, exclusively. Sad thing was he was shorter than me, not even sure if he broke 5ft, so I couldn't legally beat his face in without him physically attacking me first (wasn't that strong back then anyways >_>), and I've never been one to like or be good at verbal attacks, so I just took it for a year. Switched high schools next year anyways (not because of him, parents actually forced me :lol: ), thank god I never have to deal with that little pest again <_<.

[Mithril_Max]

i was bullied once but now...i take revenge on bullies and those who bully others...

 

 

 

bully bullier -...0 lol

[ThoseTheBrokes]

I've been bullied, since I was 12 probably.

 

for no reason.

 

I'm 17 now, and I still occasionally get bullied.

 

one of the reasons I dropped out of school for a year.

 

 

 

they all knew I couldn't handle my temper, and I've snapped so many times, punching people in the head.

 

It's gotten to bad that I've broken my hand from punching someone out of anger.

 

not just some person, the person that was bullying me.

 

 

 

errugh,

 

tossers.

[IGoddessI]

I was bullied from year 4 to year 7 because I was a bigger build than most of the girls in class. I was a straight A teacher's pet so I guess that didn't help either.

 

 

 

In high school I actually developed an eating disorder and starved myself to the point that I was actually anorexic. I got along pretty well with everyone, still a straight A student in year 8 and year 9.

 

 

 

In year 10 I was still anorexic and a straight A student until half way through the year I got bang bashed by group of bigger girls for reasons unknown. I never found out why they bashed me.

 

 

 

I ended up leaving school, finished year 10 somewhere else but started hanging out with the wrong crowd and my grades went from straight A's to C's and D's. I also had an abusive boyfriend for 2 years during that stage and developed a few self esteem issues from that and confidence loss.

 

 

 

I then realised I didn't like who I became and got away and put myself in to an adult environment to finish year 11 and 12 through TAFE instead of high school and graduated in the top 15% of QLD.

 

 

 

But now I'm 21 finishing honours in psychology, I'm no longer anorexic but I still do have eating problems time to time but that's linked to my ocd not the teasing.

 

 

 

I am pretty anti social but I always have been, I rather my own company than the company of others unless it's with my family or my boyfriend. I only really see my friends every few months because I don't like other people's company lol.

 

 

 

At university I know about 60 really nice people but I don't hang out with anyone. While everyone stands around to talk, I prefer to sit by myself and study for the next class.

 

 

 

I have anxiety talking to females, (which is weird) I have 1 friend who is a girl and about 20 that are men. There are about 5 men in my whole degree so that probably explains why I'm anti social there.

 

 

 

I am extremely shy, introverted and don't talk to strangers very much unless I'm working, with my boyfriend or in an environment where I have to such as motivational seminars.

 

 

 

I am a nice person but yeah, even though I work with people nearly everyday, I'm not a people person. Bet you didn't see that one coming!

[StrOwez]

I thought you left and declared never to post again... :-k

 

 

 

anyway I have never been bullied, since I get a long with everyone.

 

 

 

Got jumped (beat up) couple of times by some yobs (always more than 3 on 1)

 

 

 

Had a fair share of fist fights, nothing too serious.

[Giordano]

To me, theres not much phyiscal bulles anymore, since you can sue that crap for abuse faster than a smoke addict smoke a stick...

 

 

 

It's more of a plain annoyance, really. One time this manchick thing annoyed me ('bulllied' by some people's standards) so I pushed it into a bookshelf, knocking them both down.

 

 

 

Ahhh...the good ol' times. 8-)

[speedofsound]

My story is just like your Striker. I've been bullied all my life. I have no friends, and where i though I did have friends it turned out they were just pretending to be my friends so they can talk about me behind my back and make me feel bad. I know what its like. I'm quiet now, i don't talk to anyone. The only "friends" i have are on the internet, and i don't know how much you can consider them friends. I know what its like. I'm made fun of constantly. My voice sounds funny, My teeth are messed up, I'm fat...whatever they can see, they make fun of.

[IGoddessI]

I got my own back though.

 

 

 

On the last day of year 7 I grew the confidence up to tell the girl who always made fun of me to stfu, the guy who used to always pick on me, I actually threw a chair at his head lol

 

 

 

In high school on the day before I left I wrote a nasty poem about the girl who hit me being a skank, made many copies, went to school early and plastered them all over the wall, shoved chewing gum in her locker key hole and wrote that she was a b*tch in permanent marker in the middle of the table where her and her friends used to sit before walking home.

 

 

 

And my ex who used to bash me, I dobbed him in to the cops for drugs and when he had an open house inspection before I grew the confidence to leave I left his drug stash on the middle of the table so the agent and people who came to view the house saw them LOL

[das1330]

one kid did bully me for awhile last year (7th grade) for around a month or two, but twards the end he stole about 250$ worth of schoolbooks from my bag on the way to school. I told the principal and had some witnesses, so they searched his bag and not only found the books, but a large combat knife. He was expelled for that and a number of other things (he had been suspended more then a few times before this) and this year, I was told he had to switch school districts. That was the last of my problems with bullies.

[Intriguing]

I've never experience bullying, really. Until this year (grade 11), I was homeschooled, and until about a year and a half ago, was very introverted. I had like 2 friends, good friends though. I had very, very small encounters with bullying, as in some 16 year old (I was probably 13 at the time), threatening to beat me up. But I wasn't really worried, because one, I knew he didn't have the confidence, two, if he did, my brother would kill him.

 

So I started going to school in year 11, missing most of the bullying I would of gotten (most of the tools leave in year 10), and I go to a pretty good school anyway. Even though I'm a twig (around 5'11", and 60kg), I'm pretty outgoing, witty, and I pretty much do everything I can to avoid a fight, so that's probably why I've never gotten in one. Also, I'm friends with almost everyone in my year, and about half of the people in years 10 and 12, so that helps.

 

I realise I'm pretty lucky to have avoided bullying, so I try to stand up for people when they're getting bullied, but it doesn't really happen very often at my school.

[Barihawk]

Show backbone, but don't fight back. Just walk away, don't let them bully you.

 

 

 

If anything, fighting back would make it worse on you.

[Bobbington]

I was bullied for around 3 years, in the end stopping it was not all that hard.

 

 

 

Most people offering advice tell you to talk to somboy about it, or tell the bullies how it makes you feel. However I dubt this has ever been said by a current victim of bullying.

 

 

 

I personaly belive the "tell sombody" idea..... does not work! infact it makes it worse.

 

 

 

To stoped it; I looked at the simple question..... "why are they bullying me?" The answer was simple, it was not becase they did not like me, or that there was anything wrong with me..... it was becase they felt I was an easy target who abusing me could make them look better infront of their friends.

 

 

 

Most people will find the bully will only bully to make them selves look better to their so called "friends".

 

 

 

To stop it, you need to take away their reason, this is done in a few steps.

 

 

 

1. stop caring "I dont care what you think" it is amazingly powerfull, you dont act with it, you dont say it.... you just do it. Block off the emotion.... no longer care about their opinion. As far as I am conserned the bullies opinion about anything is worth nothing. It is hard to do, and you have to make an effort to it, but it is very possible to stop caring.

 

 

 

2. Make a joke!

 

Q. "Is that skelaton your only friend?"

 

A. "no I am also friends with a toilet brush!"

 

You may think you may now look like an idiot..... but who cares! the bully tried to make a joke, and you went along with it! again it comes back to point one, their joke is nothing more than that...... a Joke..... you can take it in a few ways, either let it effect you, and possibly become upset about it, or think...... "ooo! a joke! how can I join in!"

 

 

 

Bullys think they are funny! dont let them have the last word.... you will nearly always find you can make a better joke than they can!

 

 

 

3. Look at your friends! this needs to be done while you have still held on to them. Beeing the victim can and will cost you friends, look how your friends treat you, if you don't like who they are anymore, make the move! you dont need them!new fiends can be made, it is not hard, but the baggage of failed friend ships can drag you down.

 

 

 

I personally took this step when i found one of the actions I made becase of my friends was actually itself bullying...... thats not who I wanted to be! I stoped beeing their friends. This does not mean you have to hate them.... they where your friend and you need to remember this. They are just not who you spend your time with anymore, take some time apart! It will change your life.

 

 

 

4. dont let it go to far!

 

I think partly becase of how I was brought up, and that with the bullying..... I do have some social problems (which is probaly why I hide on the internet :P).... basically I let it go to far, I did not sort the issue soon enough. I though the only way to stop it was to talk to sombody, which I was not going to do....... There are other ways!

 

 

 

 

 

These days, I have left my town and am now living in my university city, I made a 100% fresh start, and have a great set of new friends. I am very happy (although I still hide on the internet :P)

[The Observer]

I got bullied in Grade 4 I believe. Then, it stopped. I made a joke about somebody else they didn't like and they ignored me after.