Yea, but i gotta admit looks make a girl want to talk to you. Its a turn on, but looks won't make a girl stay just attract her its like some short term magnet :P

 

Yep, that is very true for teenage girls and early 20s girls. Attractive looks is what makes a girl come up to YOU (not you to her). Sometimes she doesn't come up to you (or walk to ya) but if it's in class, she will start talking to you all of a sudden.

 

 

 

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Haircut is important. Though, personal opinion here, I think having long hair (by long hair I mean LONG hair -.-, like below the mouth or nose) isn't a chick-magnet. Short hair cuts generally give better results.

 

 

 

Having white (not yellow, or semi-yellow) teeth also helps :). Deodorants/colones that "give" out some sort of "cool" scent helps too.

 

 

 

Now, my ultimate chick magnet (what I consider) is having pretty male homeo sapien arms. Decently toned. Perhaps not toned but you can still show it off.

 

 

 

Looks are what makes a girl who you have never ever known before, want to talk to you. Just come up to you all of a sudden.

 

Personality comes after. Just tell her what women want to hear: "You look beautiful today!", use words such as: pretty, gorgeous, amazing, astonishing, very pretty. It may seem repetitive, yes, but it works :)

 

 

 

Those are my advices to you, Brandon, and anyone needing them.

 

 

 

Good luck. When you are nervous about talking to her or something, just think of this: "I have EVERYTHING to gain and nothing to loose.". If you get rejected, so what. You don't know her so you don't care of what she thinks of you.

 

 

 

Once more, gl.

 

 

 

:)

 

 

 

lol, A chick started coming onto me at a party, right, but I was drunk so it turned her off after like 5 minutes XD (I'm a strange drunk).

 

 

 

When you engage conversation, try not to let her talk too much about herself and make sure you dont ramble on about your own life. Try to keep it balanced - can be difficult sometimes, depending on the topic.

I guess I should have elaborated a little more, I was also asking how to really go about doing that. I know that's not a question that has a one size fits all answer at all, but I hoped there was something I could be told. I know by senior year I should have had some type of relationship, and already know this kind of stuff..but I haven't.

 

 

 

Senior year? You've got nothing to lose, you hardly know her and if she rejects you, you most likely won't ever see her again anyway. If you are shy and you don't have any good stories to talk to her about, you've got to lie. Go online and read some interesting and FUNNY stories, because if you can't make a girl laugh, she wont be interested in you for long. However, this will eventually stop working; this is more like an advice for a one night stand lol.

 

 

 

But if you're not shy and an outgoing guy with a sense of humor, come up and talk to her. Girls love when you talk about their looks and their cloths, don't be too straight that you're interested though. Get a little cockyness in your attitude, they love it, trust me.

 

 

 

 

 

I didn't say I hardly knew her, I said we've been kind of friends for a while. And my school has about 400 people, I most certainly will see her again :P I know that's not a good attitude to take with these things, being so self conscious, but I really can't help it, that's just me.

 

To whoever said I had "one-itis" that's probably true. I hope no one judges me on this, but for some reason even thinking about her makes me feel awful. It makes no sense with my other feelings for her. It felt like this before summer last school year too, it kind of lessened in the summer, but as soon as I talked to her this year it came back.

 

Maybe this is very normal, but I have no idea. I've never had any kind of relationship before, which as I mentioned before, is kind of sad for being a high school senior.

 

I know there isn't really much advice I can be given for this, but at the moment I'm more just venting, I've never really talked to anyone about things like this before.

If that's the case, she needs to find out whether he's really being altruistic. From where I'm sitting from the description you've just made, it doesn't sound like he's really all that interested at all. He's just an extroverted jerk who gets thrills from making all other people fall for him. Same would go his girlfriend, except she probably goes further. Such people are rarely worth the time people give to them, not that it stops people going to them in the first place.

 

 

 

My personal opinion doesn't matter though. If she doesn't find out what he really feels, then this uncertainty isn't going to go away unless she gets over him first. She's in a constant feedback mechanism. She's asking "Does he like me?". If he flirts with her, she looks for a reason to doubt he does. This reason would be the fact he offers her no special treatment compared to everyone else, and thus we are back to the original question.

 

 

 

In short, here would be my solution - find a way of getting her to find out whether or not he does like her (and I'll bet £10 he doesn't), and if he doesn't, get her to say "no" everytime he tries flirting because he's got a girlfriend already.

 

 

 

Hopefully, her saying "no" to herself and him over and over again will snap her out of it and get her to see common sense.

 

 

 

I appreciate you helping me out on this, and you seem almost completely spot on, except from what I hear he's a nice guy, but whatever. Everything else seems correct.

 

lol, A chick started coming onto me at a party, right, but I was drunk so it turned her off after like 5 minutes XD (I'm a strange drunk).

 

 

 

When you engage conversation, try not to let her talk too much about herself and make sure you dont ramble on about your own life. Try to keep it balanced - can be difficult sometimes, depending on the topic.

 

 

 

I have the unfortunate tendency to ramble, but it is a kind of "interactive," funny ramble that usually entertains quite well. I will actually use it to test a person's sense of humor and if they don't laugh, I won't talk to them as much (those people are rare, however).

felt like posting so i guess i'll say that i have a little crush on this really pretty girl in my grade. she knows who i am and we've talked before and everything but everytime i see her (we have no classes) in the hall between classes my body like freezes :shock: . next time i see her im going to talk to her though.

To whoever said I had "one-itis" that's probably true. I hope no one judges me on this, but for some reason even thinking about her makes me feel awful. It makes no sense with my other feelings for her. It felt like this before summer last school year too, it kind of lessened in the summer, but as soon as I talked to her this year it came back.

 

For what it's worth, this "one-itis" is a perfectly natural emotion that can last as long as two years without it ever being a psychological problem, even if the two people involved never see or speak to each other.

 

 

 

If it were an actual infection, I'd probably have had half the guys in my high school infected with it every time they tried using girls for sex only.

 

 

 

You could feel awful for a number of reasons though. Maybe it's wishing you didn't have these feelings so life would be simpler, or maybe it's envy over the fact you're not actually going out. Either way, it's a perfectly natural part of growing up, and so is rejection, so don't be afraid to try and make moves.

[hide=]Yea, but i gotta admit looks make a girl want to talk to you. Its a turn on, but looks won't make a girl stay just attract her its like some short term magnet :P

 

Yep, that is very true for teenage girls and early 20s girls. Attractive looks is what makes a girl come up to YOU (not you to her). Sometimes she doesn't come up to you (or walk to ya) but if it's in class, she will start talking to you all of a sudden.

 

 

 

If you have pimples buy Proactiv: http://proactiv.com

 

Haircut is important. Though, personal opinion here, I think having long hair (by long hair I mean LONG hair -.-, like below the mouth or nose) isn't a chick-magnet. Short hair cuts generally give better results.

 

 

 

Having white (not yellow, or semi-yellow) teeth also helps :). Deodorants/colones that "give" out some sort of "cool" scent helps too.

 

 

 

Now, my ultimate chick magnet (what I consider) is having pretty male homeo sapien arms. Decently toned. Perhaps not toned but you can still show it off.

 

 

 

Looks are what makes a girl who you have never ever known before, want to talk to you. Just come up to you all of a sudden.

 

Personality comes after. Just tell her what women want to hear: "You look beautiful today!", use words such as: pretty, gorgeous, amazing, astonishing, very pretty. It may seem repetitive, yes, but it works :)

 

 

 

Those are my advices to you, Brandon, and anyone needing them.

 

 

 

Good luck. When you are nervous about talking to her or something, just think of this: "I have EVERYTHING to gain and nothing to loose.". If you get rejected, so what. You don't know her so you don't care of what she thinks of you.

 

 

 

Once more, gl.[/hide]

 

Strange, I've always found it the rule that the guy is supposed to do the approaching, and the girls job is just to leave hints. Ironically, I hate that rule, but I follow it like law.

Yep hate that rule.

 

Never seem to understand it cause it would just be so much more easier if girls would make the first move aswell. Of course not all girls are like that but most.

 

 

 

Good luck JeremyM =]

Yeah, life'd be easier if girls were more blunt about that. Anyways. I need help.

 

 

 

I have to choose between two girls. Well, not a life-or-death or anything, but you guys know how women's AD/HD will get ahold of them soon enough. They're both good-looking, smart, and all that.

 

 

 

One is pretty much my best friend. We've begun to like each other. She's one of those rebel girls. But she does have a temper, and if I didn't choose her, I'm pretty sure my chance with her would be over. BUT. She's confusing me a tad. I'm not positive if she's ready to have a relationship with me - or even if she's single. Definitely a problem. And in our tight-knit group that's about 50/50 on the guy/gal ratio, you know that there'd be problems if I asked one of the other guys. Well, probably not one of them. So I need to ask him tomorrow. And, you know, it's easy to tell this has a low chance of staying on track for a really long time - which would cause problems if we ended it on bad terms. She has the worst women's AD/HD ever, though - so I don't have much of a time slot. Rambling on to the other girl...

 

 

 

Cheerleader. Cute. Good girl. Pretty sure she's quite wealthy, and while she herself isn't cliquey, she's being brought into that group. Would probably be a quick thing, even though she is one of those few "popular" girls I'd ever seek a relationship with. However, I know for positive she'd say yes to a date. She's wanted me to ask for two years, but I just never wanted to date her. Her friends I hate, and have hated, which would be a problem, but like I said, doubt it'd take long.

 

 

 

I'm really pretty against dating at my age, since it's really so much trouble getting rides and stuff. BUT (yes I said butt again). I have tickets to a Night Ranger concert on Saturday. Which means I'm probably asking either of them tomorrow. I know the whole choose who you think thing. And I'm really leaning towards the first girl, even through all the mixed confusion and the possible trouble if I ask her when she's not ready - although I could easily pass the concert off as just a friend thing with her.

 

 

 

So whatcha think?

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Yeah, life'd be easier if girls were more blunt about that. Anyways. I need help.

 

 

 

I have to choose between two girls. Well, not a life-or-death or anything, but you guys know how women's AD/HD will get ahold of them soon enough. They're both good-looking, smart, and all that.

 

 

 

One is pretty much my best friend. We've begun to like each other. She's one of those rebel girls. But she does have a temper, and if I didn't choose her, I'm pretty sure my chance with her would be over. BUT. She's confusing me a tad. I'm not positive if she's ready to have a relationship with me - or even if she's single. Definitely a problem. And in our tight-knit group that's about 50/50 on the guy/gal ratio, you know that there'd be problems if I asked one of the other guys. Well, probably not one of them. So I need to ask him tomorrow. And, you know, it's easy to tell this has a low chance of staying on track for a really long time - which would cause problems if we ended it on bad terms. She has the worst women's AD/HD ever, though - so I don't have much of a time slot. Rambling on to the other girl...

 

 

 

Cheerleader. Cute. Good girl. Pretty sure she's quite wealthy, and while she herself isn't cliquey, she's being brought into that group. Would probably be a quick thing, even though she is one of those few "popular" girls I'd ever seek a relationship with. However, I know for positive she'd say yes to a date. She's wanted me to ask for two years, but I just never wanted to date her. Her friends I hate, and have hated, which would be a problem, but like I said, doubt it'd take long.

 

 

 

I'm really pretty against dating at my age, since it's really so much trouble getting rides and stuff. BUT (yes I said butt again). I have tickets to a Night Ranger concert on Saturday. Which means I'm probably asking either of them tomorrow. I know the whole choose who you think thing. And I'm really leaning towards the first girl, even through all the mixed confusion and the possible trouble if I ask her when she's not ready - although I could easily pass the concert off as just a friend thing with her.

 

 

 

So whatcha think?

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I am going outside the normal TIF answering realm. I believe if you think the dating of the second girl would only be a short-term thing and if you don't like the group she hangs out with, then I would try with the first girl. She seems like she wouldn't change or that you guys could have a constant relationship. Sucks you don't drive yet, but I think the first girl is your best bet.

Dude, date the hot one.

Lenticular, I have to agree you should go with the first girl. You said you would have no chance with her if you went out with the second, so if things don't work out with the first you'll still have the second to fall back on. Or do as Reb said, because the hot one is hot.

Yeah, life'd be easier if girls were more blunt about that. Anyways. I need help.

 

 

 

I have to choose between two girls. Well, not a life-or-death or anything, but you guys know how women's AD/HD will get ahold of them soon enough. They're both good-looking, smart, and all that.

 

 

 

One is pretty much my best friend. We've begun to like each other. She's one of those rebel girls. But she does have a temper, and if I didn't choose her, I'm pretty sure my chance with her would be over. BUT. She's confusing me a tad. I'm not positive if she's ready to have a relationship with me - or even if she's single. Definitely a problem. And in our tight-knit group that's about 50/50 on the guy/gal ratio, you know that there'd be problems if I asked one of the other guys. Well, probably not one of them. So I need to ask him tomorrow. And, you know, it's easy to tell this has a low chance of staying on track for a really long time - which would cause problems if we ended it on bad terms. She has the worst women's AD/HD ever, though - so I don't have much of a time slot. Rambling on to the other girl...

 

 

 

Cheerleader. Cute. Good girl. Pretty sure she's quite wealthy, and while she herself isn't cliquey, she's being brought into that group. Would probably be a quick thing, even though she is one of those few "popular" girls I'd ever seek a relationship with. However, I know for positive she'd say yes to a date. She's wanted me to ask for two years, but I just never wanted to date her. Her friends I hate, and have hated, which would be a problem, but like I said, doubt it'd take long.

 

 

 

I'm really pretty against dating at my age, since it's really so much trouble getting rides and stuff. BUT (yes I said butt again). I have tickets to a Night Ranger concert on Saturday. Which means I'm probably asking either of them tomorrow. I know the whole choose who you think thing. And I'm really leaning towards the first girl, even through all the mixed confusion and the possible trouble if I ask her when she's not ready - although I could easily pass the concert off as just a friend thing with her.

 

 

 

So whatcha think?

 

 

 

First girl sounds a tad sketchy. Personally, if the second girl has been interested in you for that long, maybe it's worth a shot? I'd personally be leaning towards the second girl if I was in your position. Let me know who you choose and how it works.

Well, hehe, I'm headin' for firsty. Second girl just got asked out by a kid I know. No big deal, since this guy's famous for short "relationships". So I get my shot with the first girl and see what happens. Thanks for the advice, guys. And th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-that's all, folks!

Well, hehe, I'm headin' for firsty. Second girl just got asked out by a kid I know. No big deal, since this guy's famous for short "relationships". So I get my shot with the first girl and see what happens. Thanks for the advice, guys. And th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-th-that's all, folks!

 

 

 

T-T-T-T-Toooday, Junior!

 

 

 

I just had to say it.

why isn't there a too many girls want me thread for all the pimps out there?, knowing tif i doubt it would get any posts

why isn't there a too many girls want me thread for all the pimps out there?, knowing tif i doubt it would get any posts

 

Ermm... yay for us?

 

 

 

I wouldn't give any advice on such a thread anyway.

Mm, answered.

Man, my parents' advice wouldn't work for you. They grew up when you got to know a person over a doobie.

 

 

 

Or could that work for you?

 

 

 

Meh. It'll probably sorta just flow out between you. If not, just start talking about something you like, like music or something, and hopefully she'll respond.

 

 

 

EDIT: AND CRAP I FORGOT TO ASK GIRLIE NUMBER ONE TO THE CONCERT AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAUGH

 

 

 

And we were alone and just talking for ten minutes, too. She was dropping hints like a B-2 >_<

 

 

 

Oh well. I see her in even more classes tomorrow.

This is mainly asking for Ginger_Warrior to respond, as I seem to respect his opinion the most, but others, feel free. :)

 

If you remember back, there was a girl I thought liked me, turns out she did, and I liked her back. She's going to Paris for 4 days though and won't be talking for a while. On sunday[next one coming] we're supposed to meet up & talk about stuff. Now, I don't know a thing about her and I'm really not good when it comes to talking about stuff I have no clue about. How do I break the ice and find out stuff? Apart from asking really corney stuff, I just want to get to know her as a friend.

 

 

 

thanks. will edit after an answer again.

 

I don't get it... have you never spoken to each other face-to-face before?

 

 

 

Well, if you wanna get to know her as a friend, that's always a good start. So just act like you would around your friends.

 

 

 

Talk about your interests with her. Write out a list and brainstorm all the things you find interesting and why. Surely you'll be able to find common ground in a few of those interests, but if you're lucky, some differences too. Debate is often the most provocative form of dialog between two people, and often brings people closer when talking about their differences. So long as it doesn't roll into an argument, there's no problem with it, so don't feel a need to agree blindly with everything she says. She's going to Paris, I've been there too. It's a fantastic place, so talk about how she felt about it. Listening to someone always gives off an aura that you're laid back, polite, helpful and not aggressive - generally speaking, a good companion.

 

 

 

That's the conversation sorted. Now find something to do, even if it's just a walk in a park or shopping, or going for a night out or something. There's nothing more awkward than sitting on a bench with someone while no one's talking and you're doing nothing. Hence, don't take her to the pictures.

 

 

 

That's my advice. If it doesn't help, tell me what's wrong and I'll try and focus on it.

Just broke up with my girlfriend of about 11 months. Wasn't all too interested in a physical relationship with her. I found that, if I didn't have the 'pressure' of being her boyfriend on me, I would be able to be myself more around her, and enjoy hanging out with her more the I did before. So, I guess you could say that I would rather be really great friends and not in a relationship with her.

 

 

 

She doesn't like it. She thinks I'll avoid her and never talk to her after a while, and I assured her, I would probably talk to her more. She avoided me for the most part today, which confuses me, since she was worried about me avoiding her.

 

 

 

So my question: Should I give her three or four days without bothering/talking to her? How long, if not?

Just broke up with my girlfriend of about 11 months. Wasn't all too interested in a physical relationship with her. I found that, if I didn't have the 'pressure' of being her boyfriend on me, I would be able to be myself more around her, and enjoy hanging out with her more the I did before. So, I guess you could say that I would rather be really great friends and not in a relationship with her.

 

 

 

She doesn't like it. She thinks I'll avoid her and never talk to her after a while, and I assured her, I would probably talk to her more. She avoided me for the most part today, which confuses me, since she was worried about me avoiding her.

 

 

 

So my question: Should I give her three or four days without bothering/talking to her? How long, if not?

 

Give her some space to herself. She needs to figure things out in her head first before she can honestly make any rational attempt to work things out with you.

 

 

 

My only concern is you deliberately ignoring her will reinforce the idea you want to be completely away from her. I'd give it about a week, and then get back in touch in a friends kind of way.

 

 

 

Also, you're gonna need to tell her exactly why you felt the need to split up with her. Explain that it's not about her, it's about how you feel about yourself. Maybe you can actually work on your own personality. If you balance spending more time with your friends, where you're under no pretences, rather than spending as much time with her at the moment, maybe you can feel like you're being yourself more rather than just being her boyfriend.

Cup_Lion, you did just break up with her after a longish relationship. You didn't really tell us how she felt about that, but chances are this was a blow to her. If she feels hurt, she'll want to avoid you for a while to lick her wounds and figure things out. No girl wants to hear that their boyfriend doesn't feel like he can be himself around her... and it appears that your main problem is that you've simply fallen out of love with her (no physical attraction). Another thing that no girl ever wants to hear...

 

 

 

So, give it a little time, show her you still want her around after a few days and let her decide how to go on now.

Ok, so I liked this girl in my year for six months, and in Febuary I finally plucked up the courage to ask her out to the cinema with me. She said yes first of all, but then she text me later saying she had work the following day and couldnt make it for tommorow (I asked her out for the day after I asked), but then she said I could meet her after work and we could go get some food together. So I was all prepared in the morning, but about three hours before I was supposed to meet her she pulled out, because she said she had to spend time with her mother and that she was tired. I said thats fine (although I was crushed, it wasnt that bad till later). So then I hadn't spoked to her in two days, so I asked her out again on the Friday (It was a Tuesday that I'd asked her out before), but she said a strange answer, but it was basically a no. So I was heartbroken for a while, but I got over her, and here we are six months later. Problem is I've started to like her again over the past 3 weeks, and I know theres a really strong chance she doesn't want to /won't go out with me (espeacially after all that happened). I just don't wanna feel this way about her anymore, although I'd love a girlfriend I know it can't be her. I'm really confused on what to do about her now :?

Well heres the simple answer.

 

 

 

Forget about her, if these thoughts come again, then you just ignore them.