Yup. And thanks for your advice guys.

Whoa, I've been reading the beginning of this thread for a bit tonight, funny to see the guru's asking for advice, before they became the gurus they are today...haha...

Is it normal to feel like a creep for earning the title of "cuddle buddy" from someone closer to your younger sister's age then your own? She still falls under the (x/2)+7 rule, but just barely...

Well, that depends on how old your sister is.

Whoa, I've been reading the beginning of this thread for a bit tonight, funny to see the guru's asking for advice, before they became the gurus they are today...haha...

Everyone's gotta start somewhere, right?

Is it normal to feel like a creep for earning the title of "cuddle buddy" from someone closer to your younger sister's age then your own? She still falls under the (x/2)+7 rule, but just barely...

Yeah that probably would be normal.

I think it's ok though, unless she's one of your younger sisters friends....

Whoa, I've been reading the beginning of this thread for a bit tonight, funny to see the guru's asking for advice, before they became the gurus they are today...haha...

 

 

I do believe that you are refernig to me :lol:

and yes, I used this thread a lot for advice back in the days when it was under the watch of IGoddessI and Ginger_Warrior. Good times. But we gotta keep this thread going, someone had to step up to 'guru'.

 

And no, I don't think she even knows my sister.

Wongtong, just don't wear loose/baggy clothing. That almost never looks good.

Wongtong, just don't wear loose/baggy clothing. That almost never looks good.

Yeah, I only wear tight tshirts/jeans. So I guess I'm fine.

Wongtong, just don't wear loose/baggy clothing. That almost never looks good.

Do hoodies count? Because I know tons of girls that can pull them off. (Literally, if I can get them to. ;))

Sometimes. When you think about it, people are attracted to what appears to be the best mate. Good body = good mate. Form-fitting clothes compliment a good body, loose clothes hide a good body. Though more often than not hide a not very good body. I mean yeah it works for quite a few people, but it's easiest to just go with good fitting clothes. Plus, I find clothes that fit well very comfortable :D

Wongtong, just don't wear loose/baggy clothing. That almost never looks good.

Do hoodies count? Because I know tons of girls that can pull them off. (Literally, if I can get them to. ;))

 

Nice! =D>

Haha, I wish I could wash my hands of most of the people I know and just make new friends. I'm far better with people I've made a first impression on with my current self than people who've known me for a while.

 

Somehow I've built a reputation as a player? I'm still (technically) a virgin, but rumors started somewhere that paint a very different picture. I think it's hilarious. I'll just shrug and let people make what assumptions they will. Better to have a reputation as a man-[bleep] than an antisocial smart kid. Being far more confident than is ever necessary is a great flirting tactic if you can pull it off, everyone.

Hey guys I have problem. There is this girl that just broke up with her boyfriend. My "friend" and I and both trying to go after her. He's being a total douchebag to me and he's getting this one kid who is popular with the women to side with him. I'm semi-friends with her. We never talk because we are not in each others classes. I don't know what she thinks of him because he's not in any of my classes either. We just talk over Xbox Live as a group. He is in her art class which I am not. I'm afraid he'll badmouth me and sweet talk her so that he can get with her. What should I do?

Hey guys I have problem. There is this girl that just broke up with her boyfriend. My "friend" and I and both trying to go after her. He's being a total douchebag to me and he's getting this one kid who is popular with the women to side with him. I'm semi-friends with her. We never talk because we are not in each others classes. I don't know what she thinks of him because he's not in any of my classes either. We just talk over Xbox Live as a group. He is in her art class which I am not. I'm afraid he'll badmouth me and sweet talk her so that he can get with her. What should I do?

 

 

talk to her first?

 

Sounds like your "friend" is playing dirty though. Not cool. You can stoop to his level and even the playing field or you can do the mature thing and confront him about it. Just don't swing first.

 

And Lent, I get what you mean about the handwashing thing. My "new" personality is hella better at socializing than my "old" one. I'm still exactly the same, I'm jsut better at presenting it. Thanks for the inspiration, buddy :thumbup:

Hey guys I have problem. There is this girl that just broke up with her boyfriend. My "friend" and I and both trying to go after her. He's being a total douchebag to me and he's getting this one kid who is popular with the women to side with him. I'm semi-friends with her. We never talk because we are not in each others classes. I don't know what she thinks of him because he's not in any of my classes either. We just talk over Xbox Live as a group. He is in her art class which I am not. I'm afraid he'll badmouth me and sweet talk her so that he can get with her. What should I do?

 

 

talk to her first?

 

Sounds like your "friend" is playing dirty though. Not cool. You can stoop to his level and even the playing field or you can do the mature thing and confront him about it. Just don't swing first.

 

And Lent, I get what you mean about the handwashing thing. My "new" personality is hella better at socializing than my "old" one. I'm still exactly the same, I'm jsut better at presenting it. Thanks for the inspiration, buddy :thumbup:

 

How though? Im not in any of her classes and shell think im some creep if I randomly msg her on Facebook with something like "Hey we should go out"

Hey guys I have problem. There is this girl that just broke up with her boyfriend. My "friend" and I and both trying to go after her. He's being a total douchebag to me and he's getting this one kid who is popular with the women to side with him. I'm semi-friends with her. We never talk because we are not in each others classes. I don't know what she thinks of him because he's not in any of my classes either. We just talk over Xbox Live as a group. He is in her art class which I am not. I'm afraid he'll badmouth me and sweet talk her so that he can get with her. What should I do?

 

 

talk to her first?

 

Sounds like your "friend" is playing dirty though. Not cool. You can stoop to his level and even the playing field or you can do the mature thing and confront him about it. Just don't swing first.

 

And Lent, I get what you mean about the handwashing thing. My "new" personality is hella better at socializing than my "old" one. I'm still exactly the same, I'm jsut better at presenting it. Thanks for the inspiration, buddy

 

How though? Im not in any of her classes and shell think im some creep if I randomly msg her on Facebook with something like "Hey we should go out"

 

 

Have you ever talked to her? Do you have anything in common. Hell even if it's a mutual friends, talk about them! A random msg on Facebook can look out of place, but if you have ever talked to her before, it won't be that bad. Unless you lay down the mack a little too strong in relevance to how recent her break up was. Try smiling and waving to her in the halls as she passes by as a start. Maybe even a hello. Then that random FB msg will look significantly less odd. Yes this takes time, but you are infact at a major disadvantage. Tey to get your name around, and around people she associates with. The more she hears good things about you the better. You have to go into overhaul mode if you really want her with this kind of competition, but take it with a grain of salt cause it's no guarentee you'll win. Start small. Work you're way up to the "lets go out". Infact, never use taht phrase. brag about how awesome a certain place is, then ask her if she'd like to accompany you there next time you go. But, build up a little comfort first. Then lay down the sexual tension on your "hangout/date".

Hey guys I have problem. There is this girl that just broke up with her boyfriend. My "friend" and I and both trying to go after her. He's being a total douchebag to me and he's getting this one kid who is popular with the women to side with him. I'm semi-friends with her. We never talk because we are not in each others classes. I don't know what she thinks of him because he's not in any of my classes either. We just talk over Xbox Live as a group. He is in her art class which I am not. I'm afraid he'll badmouth me and sweet talk her so that he can get with her. What should I do?

 

If he talks his friend down it's low value and she will see that, no need to worry about it and no need to drop to his level. What do you mean by being a douchebag to you?

 

You're the alpha male, you don't need to worry about any other guy. That's how you compete, by not competing.

 

Just start by being fun and aloof in the attraction phase and work your way up. You don't need a reason to do the initial approach, but keep it light and short. Then work your way through the stages.

Mlb, show her you're better :)

Hey guys I have problem. There is this girl that just broke up with her boyfriend. My "friend" and I and both trying to go after her. He's being a total douchebag to me and he's getting this one kid who is popular with the women to side with him. I'm semi-friends with her. We never talk because we are not in each others classes. I don't know what she thinks of him because he's not in any of my classes either. We just talk over Xbox Live as a group. He is in her art class which I am not. I'm afraid he'll badmouth me and sweet talk her so that he can get with her. What should I do?

 

If he talks his friend down it's low value and she will see that, no need to worry about it and no need to drop to his level.

 

And wouldn't not giving a [cabbage] about what he says display higher value too?

 

Anyway, I'm planning on hanging out with this girl sometime. Not looking for a relationship, just some practice and a confidence boost. But I have a problem. I'd like to bring some people we're both friends with, but here's the thing. They're all mad at her for some really stupid reason. Did I mention "movie night?" Just about every other Friday night she has some people over and just watches movies all night. Well here's what happened with that. This girl (let's call her Olives) didn't want to have movie night that Friday (I think she was busy), and she told our friends that. Some time during the week they forgot and went to her house anyway. Olives explained again that they weren't having movie night, they got all pissed, and now they won't talk. So how am I going to get her to tag along somewhere if they hate each other?

They should learn to grow up and pay more attention to be honest. There's no way she's in the wrong for it, try talking to the others about it? maybe they'll understand they shouldn't mad at her.

I've caught myself in quite the predicament. I've been laying the mack down on this new girl (the one I felt like a creep for hanging out with ironically :lol: ). We've been flirting and talking all night for the past week or so, and it's all in good fun. I've told her quite clearly like 3 times that I'm enjoying being single, and I don't want a relationship. So we agreed to just hang out and whatnot. Okay I'm fine with that. Today she hands me a note, at the very bottom of which in VERY large text states: "I love you". And of course it was accompanied by like a dozen hearts, and then she signed her name following "love". Normally I'd be exstatic about such progress, but like I said...I'm enjoying being single. And then there's the fact that I've only been talking to her at all for like 2 weeks now. If that. I'm not frightened or anything...but this isn't what I was looking for. And I don't think I have the heart to let her down...

 

Have you ever talked to her? Do you have anything in common.

Even the tiniest-wincy-bitty piece of previous contact would justify a convo. Just today, I talked with a girl I hadn't talked with since elementary school. It went good.

They made up by themselves. I kinda figured that would happen.

I've completely dropped my old group of friends. They're quite close-minded, and we've been drifting apart a lot lately. Hopefully we can still hang out occasionally, but, [cabbage] happens.

 

Now I need to start getting more phone numbers! Of everyone, I mean. I have too many friends that I don't talk to much outside of school. I gotta change that.

Eh, tonight, I'm not really in the mood to make some account or have a friend post on my behalf, so, [bleep] it, what's up guys?

 

Girl once screwed me over before and chose a lame guy over me, best friends both before and after until now, for a while she's liked me now, decided to give her second chance, got really close, etc etc etc...and here we are now. Basically, after her telling me how she couldn't imagine living without me, how much I mean to her, and all the memories, the kisses, the fun, I decided to ask her out. The thing? She just seemed completly 'meh' about it. Completely not caring. A total drop from like, a couple days ago. I figured she'd be really happy. Oh, but of course, in my life, things only get better. Days pass and we're a couple, and she just seems to care less and less, until today. My group of friends usually hangs out in town, so that's what we did. But she basically just ignored me the whole night. All the ILOVEYOU(SKILL)s are all gone from her phone, she went to talk to someone else while hanging with me, and when I tried to just simply reach out and hold her hand, she just pulled away. What?... Then, after we all were getting in our cars to head home, I had my closest friends wait for me to find her so I could do our usual hug/I love you thing. I find her, and I said "hey, where have you been? I've been waiting for like 15 minutes to say goodbye...". She says "Oh, well, goodbye, lol" and goes to talk to someone else.

 

Well, hmm. Lot of personal information I wouldn't really want to share. But I'm just kinda fed up with how ridiculous this is right now and I honestly don't care. Even this earlier apparent woo love each other so important we are so close yay relationship isn't going to work out for me. Awesome guys. :thumbup:

 

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Eh, tonight, I'm not really in the mood to make some account or have a friend post on my behalf, so, [bleep] it, what's up guys?

 

Girl once screwed me over before and chose a lame guy over me, best friends both before and after until now, for a while she's liked me now, decided to give her second chance, got really close, etc etc etc...and here we are now. Basically, after her telling me how she couldn't imagine living without me, how much I mean to her, and all the memories, the kisses, the fun, I decided to ask her out. The thing? She just seemed completly 'meh' about it. Completely not caring. A total drop from like, a couple days ago. I figured she'd be really happy. Oh, but of course, in my life, things only get better. Days pass and we're a couple, and she just seems to care less and less, until today. My group of friends usually hangs out in town, so that's what we did. But she basically just ignored me the whole night. All the ILOVEYOU(SKILL)s are all gone from her phone, she went to talk to someone else while hanging with me, and when I tried to just simply reach out and hold her hand, she just pulled away. What?... Then, after we all were getting in our cars to head home, I had my closest friends wait for me to find her so I could do our usual hug/I love you thing. I find her, and I said "hey, where have you been? I've been waiting for like 15 minutes to say goodbye...". She says "Oh, well, goodbye, lol" and goes to talk to someone else.

 

Well, hmm. Lot of personal information I wouldn't really want to share. But I'm just kinda fed up with how ridiculous this is right now and I honestly don't care. Even this earlier apparent woo love each other so important we are so close yay relationship isn't going to work out for me. Awesome guys. :thumbup:

 

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That seems like the kind of girl you don't need in your life; not as a friend, and definitely not a a girlfriend. I'm sure you've picked up on that by now though.