"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice

[Low Levelled 335]

Someone needs to have an interesting relationship experience, dammit. Preferably a bad one, but I'll take some good news if necessary.

[muggiwhplar 2221]

I had a twosome on Friday night and Saturday morning.

 

>_>

[Boris5000 315]

I had a twosome on Friday night and Saturday morning.

 

>_>

Was it necessary to specify that it was a twosome?

[Estonian dude 238]

Ain't getting any news from me, I am up in the North (Norway), 20 miles from nearest habitation with no car. Even Tinder can't help me here, seen a few people and all at least 50 miles away. Needless to say, kinda difficult to see anyone.

[muggiwhplar 2221]

 

I had a twosome on Friday night and Saturday morning.

 

>_>

Was it necessary to specify that it was a twosome?

 

 

Yes

[Omar 137]

inb4 everyone tells us about their onesome

[muggiwhplar 2221]

I'm having a zerosome as I post this

[Sir_Squab 280]

Read these then, perhaps it will change your perspective.

 

http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2013/06/07/love-women/

 

http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2011/05/17/fun-with-logic-ten-reasons-why-im-not-a-misogynist/

 

http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2013/07/21/women-are-not-evil/

 

Anyways. You guys are free to intepret it as you wish, I don't really care. :P Like I said, all I care about is making sure you understand the proper precautions for preventing pregnancies.

 

 

6. Childless women in their late 30’s or early 40’s (what few there are) are psychotic, ticking time bombs. These twisted creatures are semen-seeking Tomahawk missiles. Their entire goal in life is to impregnated immediately. AVOID these women like the plague (I do).

 

 

It’s this: Women aren’t the enemy. Women are not evil, lying, malicious, angry feminists out to get you...or lie about their birth control

 

And you're SURE these were written by the same person?

[muggiwhplar 2221]

Yeah I'm sure. I think you missed the point of the article you quoted. Women don't get pregnant and have the baby over your objections solely to ruin your life. They do it because they want to have a baby. You are confusing their intent with their actions. He's not denying that some women lie about birth control; that's an indisputable fact (my own brother was conceived this way as a matter of fact-- ask my mom :P). He's simply saying women are not evil for doing so.

 

Additionally, it would be disingenous of him to pretend that women will never have a baby over a man's objections, or that certain demographics aren't more likely to follow certain behaviors. Again, just because women do things like that does not make women evil; it makes them women. And being prepared for the worst as a man does not make you a misogynist; it makes you smart.

 

Here's another similar article you'll probably want to read http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2012/08/23/ayn-rand-why-agreement-does-not-mean-devotion/

 

Just because you strongly support a person’s core views does not mean you support every word that comes out of that person’s mouth.

In other words, ignoring every piece of advice that he offers simply because you disagree with the tone of his advice in that one little bit doesn't really make any sense. And that's what you guys seem to be doing >_>

[Ring_World 753]

Sum up what hes saying, always assume the person your sleeping with wants to have a kid moreso then you do, and take the necessary steps to prevent pregnancy personally everytime.

 

 

If your a girl who doesn't want kids take pills even if the guy wraps up

If your a guy who doesn't want kids wrap up even if the girl is on pills

 

For guys, you have no control of what the girl does with your jiss if she gets access to it. So make sure the girl your sleeping with is on board with morning after, with abortion if needed, etc. Make sure her set of values and circumstances make her likely to be interested in that.

 

Ex:

You slept with a christian girl who doesn't have career ambitions and is living with a shitty family. 

 

 

Probably not the #1 most likely girl to terminate a pregnancy. :lol:

[muggiwhplar 2221]

Exactly. And these are the kinds of things you need to discuss and figure out BEFORE you get her pregnant.

[Sir_Squab 280]

Yeah I'm sure. I think you missed the point of the article you quoted. Women don't get pregnant and have the baby over your objections solely to ruin your life. They do it because they want to have a baby. You are confusing their intent with their actions. He's not denying that some women lie about birth control; that's an indisputable fact (my own brother was conceived this way as a matter of fact-- ask my mom :P). He's simply saying women are not evil for doing so.

 

Additionally, it would be disingenous of him to pretend that women will never have a baby over a man's objections, or that certain demographics aren't more likely to follow certain behaviors. Again, just because women do things like that does not make women evil; it makes them women. And being prepared for the worst as a man does not make you a misogynist; it makes you smart.

 

Here's another similar article you'll probably want to read http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2012/08/23/ayn-rand-why-agreement-does-not-mean-devotion/

 

Just because you strongly support a person’s core views does not mean you support every word that comes out of that person’s mouth.

In other words, ignoring every piece of advice that he offers simply because you disagree with the tone of his advice in that one little bit doesn't really make any sense. And that's what you guys seem to be doing >_>

 

 

Oh I think, overall, he has a point. I just think it's normal, expected human behavior for people to disagree with him based solely on his writing style. Most people are emotional thinkers first and logical thinkers second. So if they read something of his that makes them disagree based on emotion, chances are that person just made up his or her mind, then and there, about the validity of what he's saying.

 

I think my point is... people are doing exactly what you're saying because that's fairly normal human behavior :P

[Maze 6]

I don't know what to do about my situation. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now.

 

But she seems really distant. She doesn't text me first anymore. When I text her, it's pretty much just short replies. I don't really know what happened. Last time we were together in person, we cuddled and watched a movie and everything seemed fine. The only thing that seemed off was that she hadn't kissed me in a long while. She's also pretty quiet, which is normal, but I feel like she doesn't really enjoy being around me anymore. She hasn't said it specifically, I just get a vibe.

 

We haven't talked in a couple of days. And next time we do, I want to just talk to her about all of this and how we feel disconnected from each other.

 

Is that a good plan? What's going on?

[muggiwhplar 2221]

So you two haven't kissed (and therefore haven't slept together) in a very long time? Yeah something's off. Though I have a feeling if that's the case, you haven't exactly been very proactive about those things.

[Maze 6]

So you two haven't kissed (and therefore haven't slept together) in a very long time? Yeah something's off. Though I have a feeling if that's the case, you haven't exactly been very proactive about those things.

A few weeks. Not super long.

[Low Levelled 335]

Not kissing for a few weeks is a long time in a relationship period, but especially one that's only four months.

[obfuscator 1005]

Yep looks like that relationship is on its last legs. Just talk to her about it

[Maze 6]

Well damn. Well now that my relationship is [bleep]ed, what's a good place to meet women for an 18-year-old?

[Tim 374]

You dont. :twss:

 

Broke it off with the guy i was seeing. Was fun while it lasted but after my health scare and other things, I couldn't care less if I go a few months without sex whilst I sort more important crap out. Besides, thanks to one guy I slept with about a year ago, majority of the damn gay scene here knows about my size now and suffice to say, isn't difficult to pick up guys because of his blabbermouth. >.>

[Sir_Squab 280]

Well damn. Well now that my relationship is [bleep]ed, what's a good place to meet women for an 18-year-old?

 

Assuming you're monogamous and in a monogamous relationship right now, I saw worry about meeting women after you talk to your GF. Although the odds are really high that the relationship is dead, don't treat it like it's over until it's, you know, actually over.

 

If you come in with a negative attitude, you're very likely to get negative results. If you come in with a more positive attitude, you are more likely to get positive results.

[Maze 6]

I know. How do I approach it with her?

 

I was just going to tell her that I feel like we've been disconnected from each other and maybe we could work it out.

[Sir_Squab 280]

Tell her that. Just explain how you feel, and go in with the intention of resolving the issue. Don't come in with the expectation of ending it OR fixing it.

[muggiwhplar 2221]

Just go into the conversation with the mentality of gaining more experience and learning new things about relationships/women. You're young.

[Hedgehog 2501]

Next time you see her say, "Why have you been distant lately?" Don't try to wait for the right time to ask. Just ask her. If you try to wait, you'll never ask.

[RpgGamer 1089]

Don't treat it like it's over until it is is spot on. After 4 months you should be able to talk to her comfortably about why there seems to be a disconnect without iy turning into a cluster [bleep]