edicius Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 You know, there's alot of topics on suicide on here. But, my friend shot himself in the head 2 days ago. Died yesterday morning. I don't know what to do, I feel miserable. I don't know where to go. How do you guys deal with a suicidal death? :cry: Yeah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cadburys_egg Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 I haven't seen a suicide topic for quite a while now, it's all about the depression stages now. But, uh, sorry about your friend. How on earth did he get hold of a gun? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viktorkrum77 Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 But, uh, sorry about your friend. How on earth did he get hold of a gun? Lax gun laws. Me doing staff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edicius Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 His dad's Yeah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viktorkrum77 Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 One of the hugest things people don't realize about suicide is how it so heavily effects and depresses your family and friends. I'd suggest taking some time to yourself to remember him, and then have his parents deal with all the legal paperwork and prepare the funeral, I wouldn't intervene much unless you have a strong emotional mind. Until then, I'd try not to think about it too much. Remember, the past is the past, it is done and can never be undone. We must move on, we should never live in the past. Me doing staff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richpoepaap Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Indeed, like Viktor said, don't ponder over it to much. remember him as your good friend. Take some time for yourself to give it a place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gin_and_Tonic Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Its not like you could have really done anything, is there? Of course feel sad, but not remorse - Im sorry to hear about the loss of a friend, my thoughts go out to his Family and friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1_man_army Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 No offense but this isnt the best place to look for advice/help with such a difficult topic. I think you'd be better to chat to your family/friends about this, people who knew your friend and who are sharing your pain will be much better to talk to about this than the posters in OT. Iam sorry for your loss though. He who learns must suffer, and, even in our sleep, pain that cannot forget falls drop by drop upon the heart,and in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful grace of God. - Aeschylus (525 BC - 456 BC) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rushrock Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 One of the hugest things people don't realize about suicide is how it so heavily effects and depresses your family and friends. I'd suggest taking some time to yourself to remember him, and then have his parents deal with all the legal paperwork and prepare the funeral, I wouldn't intervene much unless you have a strong emotional mind. Until then, I'd try not to think about it too much. Remember, the past is the past, it is done and can never be undone. We must move on, we should never live in the past. +1 There isn't much to do in this kind of situation. I hope you feel better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
warri0r45 Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Thats heavy dude. I'd be lying if I knew how to deal with it, as I have never had to. The best advice I could give is to talk to your family/friends about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuziAngel Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Yes, I agree that you shouldn't let it interfere with your future. But on the other hand, you will need to grieve now. Don't bottle up your feelings, nobody will think any less of you for shedding as many tears as you need to over your friend. Remember the good times you shared, maybe write a few things down. If it does get to you too much, I suggest you seek professional help, maybe in the way of a counsellor. The Poison Fairy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jemathonical Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 It's ok to cry,let it out. ^Sir Jem 05-The Bunny Drinking Blog?^ Click it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Errdoth Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 There is a time for mourning, but the mourning will eventually come to pass, then, you must enjoy the day. Last.fm Signature Overlays Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elphinstone Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 As someone stated before, the OT forum may not be a place for an issue like this. But, i will give my opinion. You should not have to take responsibility for this, let his family do it, and do NOT feel as if it was your fault. If you feel that bad about it, then... well, i think your family and friends can help you a lot more than lifeless posts over the internet. I'm sorry for you, and if it helps you in any way, i give you my deepest consolations. Which FF Character Are You?"The only tyrant i accept in this world is the still voice within." - Mahatma Gandhi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ndn3master Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 My 5th grade teacher's son hung himself do death talk to a counselor or something :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Foooman Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Remember, the past is the past, it is done and can never be undone. We must move on, we should never live in the past. Viktor is right. You just find a place for him and then move on. No use staying with something that cannot change. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercifull Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Your local hospital should be able to put you in touch with a bereavement councillor, i suggest you try giving them a buzz. Those guys are really good. Mercifull <3 Suzi "We don't want players to be able to buy their way to success in RuneScape. If we let players start doing this, it devalues RuneScape for others. We feel your status in real-life shouldn't affect your ability to be successful in RuneScape" Jagex 01/04/01 - 02/03/12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonmondalson Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Well that's not very nice. NuclearBB: Hmm, what's this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Too Far Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 just take it slow and remember him as a good friend eventualy you wil not be very sad thinking about him (could take long thoug) and you wil always then just remember him and dont EVER be embaresd in these kinds of situations for letting a few tears go cause of this it is very normal evryone wil understand good luck and lets hope your friend is on a very good place now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michiel2 Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I'm sorry to hear about this. You can find pretty much information on what to do on wikihow.com/Deal-With-the-Suicide-of-a-Loved-One At least, I think that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuBai Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 I know there is help out there if you need it - I've seen a pamphlet about it recently. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TotalTalker Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Just keep thinking about him. If you do this all the time, then it will feel as though he is still with you. As einstein said "imagination is more important than knowledge". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cardovilian Posted January 13, 2007 Share Posted January 13, 2007 Why have some people replying to this post used the word 'fault'? Edicius never mentioned this in his/her post, so please don't be putting thoughts like this into the discussion. If you are going to take on the role of 'counsellor' in such a situation, at least take time to read the person's post thoroughly first. Personally I agree with Elphinstone, Mercifull and others here. While we may all mean well and wish the best for you, you really should be seeking guidance and help from people who are qualified to give you what you need. I hope that you do find a way to deal peaceably with your friend's passing. Why is 'common sense' so named, when there is so little of it about?Welcome to puberty, we've been expecting you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PumpkinPete112 Posted January 13, 2007 Share Posted January 13, 2007 Well i dont know about a suicide death but... Recently my aunt died, try to keep busy, im sure your friend doesnt want you to give up your life over it. Cry and take the time to think about him, and so something that will feel important, especially at his viewing & funeral, make sure to go to those, it will help you. Sig Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
irulepoker Posted January 13, 2007 Share Posted January 13, 2007 Remember, the past is the past, it is done and can never be undone. We must move on, we should never live in the past. Exactly. Also, remember, to learn from the past. In this case, you now see the affects suicide has on your family and friends. I have known two people, yes two, who have commited suicide. It sucks ,a lot. You have to learn to cope with it, and move on. I couldn't have said it any better then Viktor did. You will feel sad, and upset, and guilty for about 2-3 months. And slowly but surely, it will fade away. My Farewell thread. Please post nicely, or die. :^_^:Yea, I'd vote for him too. But I don't think they let Iraqis vote :P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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