I read an interesting book and in it the author talked about what he named levels of non-disturbance. And that's basically what you allow or don't allow yourself to be offended by. For instance, if somebody walked around naked on the side walk, some people would laugh, some people would frown, some people would get angry or upset, everybody has a different reaction. Then they would get home, they would tell their family "Oh I saw a guy walk naked on the street, it was so funny!" or "I saw a damned lunatic walk around naked today, I hope he gets jail time! Kids live on this street for Christ's sake!". The guy walking naked didn't make those people happy or upset. The people made themselves feel that way because of their thoughts and beliefs. The person that laughs chose to find the situation funny, the person that frowns chose to react in fear, anxiety, anger, etc. Now once you understand that you can re-program yourself to stop getting upset over petty things, eg. other players calling you nerds. Most people don't get this though, and they allow themselves to be affected positively or negatively by what other people say or do.