Fair is very good.

 

Not one of those gross ones, though. Don't you live in Philadelphia Rocco? There's gotta be tons of stuff to do there. It is always sunny there, after all.

 

 

Philly's a nice place. Some parts are kinda scary, while others parts are down right inspirational. Just a walk through the cleaner parts of town would make a decent date.

 

and this just dawned on me...How would a concert work as a first date? I mean, it's tons of fun, even if it's pretty much the opposite of a date setting.

thanks for the suggestions. And lent just unintentonally answered my next question, how to ask her out. thats a BRILLIANT IDEA LENT

I still cant decide if ill actually ask her out tho.... help plez?

I'd suggest a group event for a first "date". That way if you freeze up or something like that, one of your friends can save the situation. You'll feel more at ease not having to keep the conversation up all by yourself and she'll feel less awkward with her friends there. Once you're more comfortable, go for more of an actual date.

 

And someone's going to get lung cancer following your advice lent :lol:

I'd suggest a group event for a first "date". That way if you freeze up or something like that, one of your friends can save the situation. You'll feel more at ease not having to keep the conversation up all by yourself and she'll feel less awkward with her friends there. Once you're more comfortable, go for more of an actual date.

 

And someone's going to get lung cancer following your advice lent :lol:

i suck at group events. ill blend in with the crowd before i realize whats hapening.

and this just dawned on me...How would a concert work as a first date? I mean, it's tons of fun, even if it's pretty much the opposite of a date setting.

It could work, I guess it depends on what kind of concert it is. It would be a lot more laid-back than most dates though

Hey, Rocco turns out you're only like ~90 miles from me. If you ever feel like taking a field trip to double date, I'd be there for you :lol:

Definitely depends on what kind of concert and what kind of girl. You'd have to do something afterwards and preferably beforewards, though. Just to set and define the mood of the night.

 

Group events can be iffy. If everyone's friends it works great. But I've noticed around my age unless it's everyone's first date, a big couples group will quickly fall apart to each couple cuddling and kissing. If it's the right girl/guy combination that could be hilarious, though. Making fun of other people can make for great bonding with any relationship.

 

RPG, as for making friends, people will get annoyed if it's a small, tight group. But if it's a big group of people, and you make it seem like you won't be there long even though you're incredibly fun, you'll be wanted back.

One thing i deffinetly dont want to do if i ask this girl out is a group. Ill either ditch her by accedent, or spend so much time with her it will make her unconfortable. I really dont know what to do, or even if i should

RPG, as for making friends, people will get annoyed if it's a small, tight group. But if it's a big group of people, and you make it seem like you won't be there long even though you're incredibly fun, you'll be wanted back.

 

Probably true. I prefer the company of a tightly knit tiny group, so I suppose my view on the subject is a bit bias.

 

As for Alex,

If you're on a group date the idea isn't to get caught up on where to focus your attention. It's still a date, and your date deserves the majority of your attention. The group is there for more o a back up plan incase things get awkward. I prefer double dates over group dates. That way each has someone to focus on at all times. And your date isn't going to feel uncomfortable if you spend too much time with her. on the contrary, she'd feel outcasted if you didn't

No matter what you may say, i dont think ill ever be confortable in a group. Just not my style.

And no one has given me fedback if i should ask her out or not.... Im REALLY not sure about it....

No matter what you may say, i dont think ill ever be confortable in a group. Just not my style.

And no one has given me fedback if i should ask her out or not.... Im REALLY not sure about it....

Thats your own choice.

No matter what you may say, i dont think ill ever be confortable in a group. Just not my style.

And no one has given me fedback if i should ask her out or not.... Im REALLY not sure about it....

Thats your own choice.

Yes, is supose it is.

Thanks alot Captin Obvious

No matter what you may say, i dont think ill ever be confortable in a group. Just not my style.

And no one has given me fedback if i should ask her out or not.... Im REALLY not sure about it....

Thats your own choice.

Yes, is supose it is.

Thanks alot Captin Obvious

Don't be an [wagon], we can't hold your hand and make all the decisions for you. If you need someone to do that, give up now because it won't work.

 

However, not doing the group thing is fine. I guess it's just a personal preference.

No matter what you may say, i don't think ill ever be comfortable in a group. Just not my style.

And no one has given me feedback if i should ask her out or not. I'm REALLY not sure about it.

That;s your own choice.

Yes, is suppose it is.

Thanks a lot Captain Obvious

Well what do you expect. I don't really see how you expect us to help you with deciding that. Flip a [bleep]ing coin if you are that unsure.

No matter what you may say, i dont think ill ever be confortable in a group. Just not my style.

And no one has given me fedback if i should ask her out or not.... Im REALLY not sure about it....

Thats your own choice.

Yes, is supose it is.

Thanks alot Captin Obvious

 

 

He's right y'know.

You could sit here and tell us your entire life story, but the fact of the matter is, it's your call. I could just as easily say no, don't do it. And would you? You could still ask her out, who's gonna stop you? me? certainly not. If she's seems worth the effort, then yes, go for it. If you don't feel ready, then accept that you may be letting an oppurtunity slip and move on with your life. You have the final say in this situation. We could say anything we want in this thread. It's up to you to follow the advice (or act contrary to it as many seem to do)

No matter what you may say, i dont think ill ever be confortable in a group. Just not my style.

And no one has given me fedback if i should ask her out or not.... Im REALLY not sure about it....

Basically this is what you do to see if you REALLY want to ask her out:

Ask someone "Should I ask her out?"

And they reply "No."

If you feel defensive and start coming up with reasons why you should ask her out, then you want to ask her out.

If you don't feel anything and just go "okay", well then you shouldn't ask her out.

 

You could even ask me. And I don't think you should ask her out. What do you think about that?

almost everyone at college has been trying to get me and my best friend together(we didnt make a big deal about it, just laughed it off) then yesterday hre sister started doing it and my friend now wants to talk about us

what does she mean by that exactly?

She likes you.

 

I ended up hanging out with that girl, we're doing it again this week. I told her I wasn't interested in being more than friends, at the moment the only way I see this going is us hanging out a couple times and me getting bored eventually because she doesn't say much.

No matter what you may say, i dont think ill ever be confortable in a group. Just not my style.

And no one has given me fedback if i should ask her out or not.... Im REALLY not sure about it....

Thats your own choice.

Yes, is supose it is.

Thanks alot Captin Obvious

 

 

He's right y'know.

You could sit here and tell us your entire life story, but the fact of the matter is, it's your call. I could just as easily say no, don't do it. And would you? You could still ask her out, who's gonna stop you? me? certainly not. If she's seems worth the effort, then yes, go for it. If you don't feel ready, then accept that you may be letting an oppurtunity slip and move on with your life. You have the final say in this situation. We could say anything we want in this thread. It's up to you to follow the advice (or act contrary to it as many seem to do)

 

hmmm.... I GUESS YOUR RIGHT

soz jaerkd00d, im getting out of my mind on this, That was all me being an idiot -.-

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Alright, I need advice.

Basically, I'm going out with a girl I've known since 1st grade. I'm in 11th now, so it's been a while since I first met her obviously. We went to school together from 1st to 5th, then from 8th-11th. I started going out with her a few months ago, and things were going well, but she's been really depressed about her parents being general [bleep]es, one of her friends dying in a car accident, and other stuff.

Long story short, yesterday she said she wanted to stop going out. I asked why, (this was over the phone) and the basic reasons were that:

She thought that she was making me depressed and all because she tells me all of her problems with life, and compared to me she has a pretty tough life.

She wasn't sure if it all could work out with us with all the [cabbage] that's been happening in her life.

Then on top of this, she felt like she wasn't good enough for me or something like that. She said she couldn't figure out why I liked her compared to all the other girls, and she just felt like she didn't deserve me.

The phone call ended with me having to get off the phone before we could talk about much more stuff. I really didn't want to go, but I didn't have a choice.

I'm pretty much 100% sure she's not lying about her reasons, so it's not just her saying "it's not you, it's me" to end the relationship.

 

She says she still likes me, and I still like her, but anyways, what should I do?

Alright, I need advice.

Basically, I'm going out with a girl I've known since 1st grade. I'm in 11th now, so it's been a while since I first met her obviously. We went to school together from 1st to 5th, then from 8th-11th. I started going out with her a few months ago, and things were going well, but she's been really depressed about her parents being general [bleep]es, one of her friends dying in a car accident, and other stuff.

Long story short, yesterday she said she wanted to stop going out. I asked why, (this was over the phone) and the basic reasons were that:

She thought that she was making me depressed and all because she tells me all of her problems with life, and compared to me she has a pretty tough life.

She wasn't sure if it all could work out with us with all the [cabbage] that's been happening in her life.

Then on top of this, she felt like she wasn't good enough for me or something like that. She said she couldn't figure out why I liked her compared to all the other girls, and she just felt like she didn't deserve me.

The phone call ended with me having to get off the phone before we could talk about much more stuff. I really didn't want to go, but I didn't have a choice.

I'm pretty much 100% sure she's not lying about her reasons, so it's not just her saying "it's not you, it's me" to end the relationship.

 

She says she still likes me, and I still like her, but anyways, what should I do?

Epic first post.

 

But, uh, just try to keep talking to her.

You need to up her self esteem a little bit.

Alright, I need advice.

Basically, I'm going out with a girl I've known since 1st grade. I'm in 11th now, so it's been a while since I first met her obviously. We went to school together from 1st to 5th, then from 8th-11th. I started going out with her a few months ago, and things were going well, but she's been really depressed about her parents being general [bleep]es, one of her friends dying in a car accident, and other stuff.

Long story short, yesterday she said she wanted to stop going out. I asked why, (this was over the phone) and the basic reasons were that:

She thought that she was making me depressed and all because she tells me all of her problems with life, and compared to me she has a pretty tough life.

She wasn't sure if it all could work out with us with all the [cabbage] that's been happening in her life.

Then on top of this, she felt like she wasn't good enough for me or something like that. She said she couldn't figure out why I liked her compared to all the other girls, and she just felt like she didn't deserve me.

The phone call ended with me having to get off the phone before we could talk about much more stuff. I really didn't want to go, but I didn't have a choice.

I'm pretty much 100% sure she's not lying about her reasons, so it's not just her saying "it's not you, it's me" to end the relationship.

 

She says she still likes me, and I still like her, but anyways, what should I do?

Epic first post.

 

But, uh, just try to keep talking to her.

Yeah, I had been browsing the forums for a while and then this came up so I figured I may as well ask for some advice, so I registered and all that.

 

She's been going through a lot obviously, so I'm doing what I can. I guess I'm here partly just to rant myself.

I guess it won't hurt to try to get advise from a different audience.

 

I really have a problem in where I can never truly get a college girl to actually sit down and have a cup of coffee with me.

 

First, there's the whole time issue. Sometimes, they never have the time to actually at the very least have some small talk with me. Then when they potential do have time, they stress about how they they have to do homework and other stuff they have to do.

 

Since the whole "you can never get that crush you have in class in college" theory has been right so far (I will say I had some "success" but w/e). I thought I would try with a girl who's in a same student org. as me. It has worked so far as getting to know somewhat more about each other, but same issues keep occurring. We might say hi while we're heading to our classes, but never really time to actually sit down and chat about stuff (maybe like only twice.) Other times she busy with her job/hw or our schedule conflict too much where we can talk during school.

 

One of my friend suggested to simply use Facebook, but really now? Maybe to actually set up a date, I guess.

 

I fear that she might feel I'm not making a good enough effort though (when I feel I am.) If her friend is leaving this on her wall.

 

thats ok (her name). yeah guy stuff .. blah ..haha oh well, you know. you live and learn.

 

I really want to date this girl. She seems amazing and her love of soccer matches mine.