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Well that was weird.

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Talking with my ex (yeah we still talk daily, but I'm over her emotionally now so it isn't painful [not physically, but that's something a new girlfriend would cure]), and she confesses that she's realized she was bi. Something which I'd known for a year already but she'd always denied.

I tease her about this a lot with "I told you so"s and such, and then inquire deeper because I'm honestly curious (it's interesting to hear what a girl finds attractive in girls, etc).

 

By the end of the nigh porn has come up* and she's gotten a porn site link from me and is looking at it for the first time. I go to bed then, and the next day she admits to me that she pleasured herself to it.

She now really likes it although she doesn't like to admit it.

 

 

So yeah, I've gotten another guy's girlfriend to watch porn. I don't even know.

I almost feel like that was kind of like cheating. But it's not like anything to that degree happened. He knows she watched it (although not that her ex got her the links), and is fine with that. And it's not like she's attracted to me whatsoever anymore, so I don't see that being an issue.

Nonetheless, my conscience is bugging me.

Like on the one hand I feel like as boyfriend I wouldn't feel comfortable with my girlfriend's ex being so buddy buddy with her and talking about such touchy subjects. But on the other hand our discussions are entirely platonic.

 

*Don't ask how this ended up happening, I'm not sure. [/hide]

 

Stop talking to her dude.

 

Youll get over her much faster properly and stop interfeering with this other guys realationship.

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I don't think she'll become bisexual from this - it's simply appreciation of the female form. I don't see anything wrong with pornography in the first place.

 

 

That would be like me 'trying to reproduce asexually' while watching gay porn and then making the excuse that I don't like men. That makes no sense at all dude.

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Well that was weird.

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Talking with my ex (yeah we still talk daily, but I'm over her emotionally now so it isn't painful [not physically, but that's something a new girlfriend would cure]), and she confesses that she's realized she was bi. Something which I'd known for a year already but she'd always denied.

I tease her about this a lot with "I told you so"s and such, and then inquire deeper because I'm honestly curious (it's interesting to hear what a girl finds attractive in girls, etc).

 

By the end of the nigh porn has come up* and she's gotten a porn site link from me and is looking at it for the first time. I go to bed then, and the next day she admits to me that she pleasured herself to it.

She now really likes it although she doesn't like to admit it.

 

 

So yeah, I've gotten another guy's girlfriend to watch porn. I don't even know.

I almost feel like that was kind of like cheating. But it's not like anything to that degree happened. He knows she watched it (although not that her ex got her the links), and is fine with that. And it's not like she's attracted to me whatsoever anymore, so I don't see that being an issue.

Nonetheless, my conscience is bugging me.

Like on the one hand I feel like as boyfriend I wouldn't feel comfortable with my girlfriend's ex being so buddy buddy with her and talking about such touchy subjects. But on the other hand our discussions are entirely platonic.

 

*Don't ask how this ended up happening, I'm not sure. [/hide]

 

Stop talking to her dude.

 

Youll get over her much faster properly and stop interfeering with this other guys realationship.

 

I don't honestly feel like I'm interfering, though.

Hell, I was the one who talked her into getting the cajones to ask him out in the first place. Any interfering I've done as been in his favor.

And I am over her romatically, as I said. That mostly came from falling for another girl (who I've also gotten over), so right now I'm really not inetrested in anyone in aprticular for romance.

Sexually I'm still attracted to her, but that's another matter entirely. I'm sexually attracted to about 20 other girls I know, but that doesn't mean I need to stop talking to them, or even that I want to date them. It just means I find them attractive.

 

And to clear it up, yes she is bi. She has felt arousal around other females and wanted to bang other females. That's about as gay as you get. She's just finally started admitting it to herself and stopped being ashamed of it (mostly).

And also, anything she has done porn-watching wise her boyfriend knows about. Also, he knows she's bi and has jokingly said she's free to cheat on him with girls so long as she tells him ahead of time.

 

But I think I will back off from those subjects for now. I'm still going tot alk to her regularly though, as she's one of the few people who both knows me really well AND isn't afraid to tell me the truth even if it pisses me off at her. I know way too many yes-men (aka all my other friends) to throw away a person who likes to burst my bubble.

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I told her there was a secret method to doing it - and there is - but my once nimble and agile fingers were unable to perform because I was under the influence.

I would laugh, not hate. I'm a male. :(

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You dated her and got friendzoned? And dude, the year has been on for 5 months, I haven't even gotten my 1 rejection yet :wink:

Dude, you gotta keep on trying harder. And apparently I think you aren't escalating it fast enough if you've been on dates with the girl and she eventually shoots you down. Gotta start with touching right away, check with IamDan's siggy for the link to that post.

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So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends.

 

RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.

Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.

Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.

I strike out every other week.

Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.

Randox pretty much stays rational.

Etc, etc

 

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You dated her and got friendzoned? And dude, the year has been on for 5 months, I haven't even gotten my 1 rejection yet :wink:

Dude, you gotta keep on trying harder. And apparently I think you aren't escalating it fast enough if you've been on dates with the girl and she eventually shoots you down. Gotta start with touching right away, check with IamDan's siggy for the link to that post.

 

Well I'm talking mostly school year.

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Why bother counting your rejections? I know I've been through a few this year, but I sure as hell don't know the number...

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Why bother counting your rejections? I know I've been through a few this year, but I sure as hell don't know the number...

 

It's not something hard to count. I can get into a program where I end up meeting the president of the United States but can't get a gf. Fml lmao

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dude you're helping turn the guys girlfriend into an outted bisexual. Unless he's a religious nut, this is only a good thing to him. Calm down.

 

Now, if she actually makes a move on you, that's different (though you should probably evaluate the wisdom of being with a girl who started seeing someone else before breaking it off, because that's probably going to cause trust issues for you one day if you stay together long enough). You just need to keep in mind that you are only going to be able to see what you want to see, and if you get it wrong you are going to piss her off something fierce.

 

and this is why I love Randox. I see girls cheat on guys that are great people way to often, and the next poor bastard doesnt realize that if she's willing to give up a great dude for you, there's a serious chance that you'll befall the same fate.

 

Speaking of which... reminds me of a documentary I watched on the science channel a week or two ago:

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HA6nBS-KHEc

 

As far as bisexuality goes, another documentary I watched basically said that all humans are bisexual... just because touching and being close to other humans, regardless of gender, makes you feel a lot better. Unlike other animals, humans don't have sex solely for reproductive purposes... it's just part of our really complex social systems.

 

But in countries like the USA, we've been told that this is bad.

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Why bother counting your rejections? I know I've been through a few this year, but I sure as hell don't know the number...

Well, at least giving it a shot (or seven) and getting rejected every time is better than giving it no shots.

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Camera guy: Whoa, haha, are you okay dude?

Matt: You want anything funny that happens, don't you?

Camera guy: still laughing

Matt: You want the funny shit that happens here and there, you think it comes out of your [bleep]ing [wagon] pushes garbage can down, don't you? You think it's funny? It comes out of here! running towards Camera guy

Camera guy: runs away still laughing

Matt: You think the funny comes out of your mother[bleep]ing creativity? Comes out of Satan, mother[bleep]er! nn--ngh! pushes Camera guy down

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Why bother counting your rejections? I know I've been through a few this year, but I sure as hell don't know the number...

Well, at least giving it a shot (or seven) and getting rejected every time is better than giving it no shots.

 

i completely agree, but there's no reason to keep tabs on the number of times you struck out

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Ok, got finally turned down from that girl, without even a date. Should've taken action right away.

God damn, should've gotten the contacts of the hot young chick that visited my school today.

So right now I am looking at 3 months of loneliness, with no remorse whatsoever in sight. And it is summer, should be the happiest times. Things going pretty bad with my best mate aswell, we don't get along as we used to.

And, since it is summer and I live in such a hellhole, no chance for getting new contacts either.

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So I've noticed this thread's regulars all follow similar trends.

 

RPG is constantly dealing with psycho exes.

Muggi reminds us of the joys of polygamy.

Saq is totally oblivious to how much chicks dig him.

I strike out every other week.

Kalphite wages a war against the friend zone.

Randox pretty much stays rational.

Etc, etc

 

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I've been sparing you guys my ex rants for the past few days, as she's been relentlessly calling and texting me since the drunk incident.

 

Regardless, I'm going to be hanging out down the shore on what I partially believe to be the day she comes back. That'd be nice if it worked out that way. She called to tell me she broke up with her boyfriend because she's still maybe in love with me. What a [bleep].

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I've been sparing you guys my ex rants for the past few days, as she's been relentlessly calling and texting me since the drunk incident.

 

Regardless, I'm going to be hanging out down the shore on what I partially believe to be the day she comes back. That'd be nice if it worked out that way. She called to tell me she broke up with her boyfriend because she's still maybe in love with me. What a [bleep].

 

Time to get a restraining order. Not even kidding.

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I've been sparing you guys my ex rants for the past few days, as she's been relentlessly calling and texting me since the drunk incident.

 

Regardless, I'm going to be hanging out down the shore on what I partially believe to be the day she comes back. That'd be nice if it worked out that way. She called to tell me she broke up with her boyfriend because she's still maybe in love with me. What a [bleep].

 

Time to get a restraining order. Not even kidding.

 

I really would like to be civil with her, but if this summer ends up in like worst case scenario territory, than I see this as a viable option.

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Honestly, do it. Don't buy into the bullshit "make-up sex is good" routine like you've done the past two years with the spastic. Cut off ALL ties and rebuild yourself, It took me too many years to do the same and its only recently I got myself back on track. (aside from the absence of "lulz im drunk and having sex with everyone" routine that everyone but me seems to go through)

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I love how far from normal my situation is [and how understanding a good portion of you have been over the years]

 

regarding my ex, she texted me today saying she might be stranded at her current home for the summer because her mom's doctor said she is liable to die, and doesn't have the insurance for any out of state care, if she travels the distance to come [to my] home. So, I have no idea where this story is going now. Still just as going with the flow as before.

 

 

 

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Be super mature around him, and show him you're not just some scumbag

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He was cool with me before we started dating though...

 

Well I suggest showing the utmost respect to him and your girlfriend when around him. Some dads are just like this, it's more something your girlfriend has to confront him about than yourself. He needs to realize his baby girl isn't a baby anymore, and that's not even close to territory you should set foot in. So, in essence, ask you girlfriend to talk to her dad so that he's less hostile/more friendly toward you. If it persists, than she's gonna have to have a real sit down with him and tell him how it is.

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Oh, I realized I haven't filled you guys in on anything since I asked her out. These last 4 months have just been amazing. Even though we can only talk through texts or Facebook I feel like we trust and are closer to each other than most couples who are able to see each other every day. Unfortunately she isn't able to come over for graduation and because of that I told her that I loved her over the phone rather than in person and she was really happy about that. We've already established that our relationship was much more than a fling and that we both do intend to make it work all the way through marriage (she believes that not knowing how far the other person is planning on taking the relationship can kill it). Really, our only bump in the road so far has been her dad who has forbidden us from talking since April. That's obviously not working for him...

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I think he needs to realize that you can't force your child to feel one way or another about another person. If she loves you, but he disagrees with that, then yea, he can take physical steps to block you two, but in the end it just hurts his relationship with his daughter. He can't force her to not love you.

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