"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice

[AnthonyWL]

6ft7? Are you sure about that?

 

EDIT - a good rule of thumb on determining a healthy body-weight: if you look down and can't see what's beneath, then you've got a problem. If you look in the mirror and see ribs, then you're probably underweight.

 

Yep. I'm about 202 cms tall.

I can see my balls lol. Its not like that. I didn't say I was fat, I just said I feel fat. Everyone stating their height/weight compared to my 90 Kilos makes me feel a little big. I do have a good mix of Fat and Muscle though and I am far better than I was last year tipping the scales at 130 Kilograms.

 

Anthony, I am 6 ft 7, or 200 cm's and I weigh 85 kilos :D

 

We are the same height and you weigh less than me. Why is it you are so afraid of your weight when it comes to girls then? I don't get it. :P

[Tim]

Since everyone's saying it: 6ft @ 75 KG/165kg.

 

I used to only weigh 65/143 but the coke addiction and bad eating packed on a 10kgs 2 years ago. Mostly thanks to mum constantly saying "PUT SOME WEIGHT ON YOU'RE SKINNY" when I was 16 (only weigh 60kg back then). I kinda miss it too, a lot easier to "tone" myself then lose weight, THEN "tone".

[Estonian dude]

Who said I was afraid of weight? Girls are afraid of my height, lol :D

[Aeon_]

While we're on the topic of height/weight I think I'm around 6'2/64kg. :blink:

[MudRune]

While we're on the topic of height/weight I think I'm around 6'2/64kg. :blink:

Well look at that we're the same height and weight :o

[Noxx]

Well shit. Now I feel fat.

6'7. 200 lbs/90 KG's.

90KGs for your height seems good.

I'm a walking stick basically at 6'1 and a whopping 131lbs.

I've eater fast food probably 20 days out of the last 25 and i lost 7 lbs.

Okay.

[muggiwhplar]

5'8, 125 lbs...

 

I was only 105 lbs several years ago, but after only two months of weightlifting I shot up to 125 lbs, and haven't really gained any more weight since :blink:

[Blake]

Well shit. Now I feel fat.

6'7. 200 lbs/90 KG's.

90KGs for your height seems good.

I'm a walking stick basically at 6'1 and a whopping 131lbs.

I've eater fast food probably 20 days out of the last 25 and i lost 7 lbs.

Okay.

 

 

I'm pretty much the same, 6'3 and 140lbs. Instead of gaining the freshman 15 from living in the dorms and eating bad food for a year, I lost 5 pounds :P

[Iamdan]

Check out

 

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/

http://www.reddit.com/r/malefashionadvice/

 

Many stickies with good advice, and seddit focuses on inner game much more than canned lines.

[Assume Nothing]

It might be useful if you could share some rather specific threads for commenting.

[Duff]

edit: Yeah, was stupid. Too much over-thinking

 

Thanks for being rational for me, Saq. :thumbup:

[Estonian dude]

I think you are way over-thinking it. Come on, you aren't seeing for 10 weeks and you are good friends, girls love hugs. It would be simply logical.

[RpgGamer]

On the one hand, you're reading way too in to her blog posts, and you're getting just a bit too excited by her hugs. There's one night stands that literally don't even like each other that have sex within hours of meeting, and you think she's going to dump her boyfriend for you because she hugged you?

Well on the other hand, think of you through the eyes of her boyfriend. Some dude talking to your long distance, long time girlfriend constantly is scary.

 

The point is, never count yourself out of the running. If you really want to pursue her, than stop thinking and start doing. Though it'd probably best to make that call in 10 weeks when you see her again.

[Duff]

On the one hand, you're reading way too in to her blog posts, and you're getting just a bit too excited by her hugs. There's one night stands that literally don't even like each other that have sex within hours of meeting, and you think she's going to dump her boyfriend for you because she hugged you?

Well on the other hand, think of you through the eyes of her boyfriend. Some dude talking to your long distance, long time girlfriend constantly is scary.

 

The point is, never count yourself out of the running. If you really want to pursue her, than stop thinking and start doing. Though it'd probably best to make that call in 10 weeks when you see her again.

Nah, it's not only because of the hug. The story is a long one, tbh. Anyway, you guys are making sense. I gotta just quit thinking so much about everything. We'll see how this turns out.

[Low Levelled]

Girl that I go to school with and I have been sort of a thing for a while now. But we both talk to other people, and I kinda want to become exclusive. How should I do that without coming off as controlling?

[Randox]

I would just like to voice my objection to trying to horn in someones relationship. If you don't respect her enough to respect her relationship, then do you really think you should be with her?

 

Now, if she actually makes a move on you, that's different (though you should probably evaluate the wisdom of being with a girl who started seeing someone else before breaking it off, because that's probably going to cause trust issues for you one day if you stay together long enough). You just need to keep in mind that you are only going to be able to see what you want to see, and if you get it wrong you are going to piss her off something fierce.

 

@Low Levelled

 

You can either try to use enough diplomacy to try and make controlling behaviour not look like controlling behaviour, or you can take a totally different (and not controlling) route, and start off by not 'talking' to other people. This would seem to be a reasonable way to signal how you would like things to go, and see if she follows suit or talks you about it.

 

Or, going back to talking, you could go for point blank and just tell her that you want to get serious about the relationship.

 

Keep in mind that she might not be ready for that yet. If she isn't, then there will really be no point in sticking together. Either she will be ready, or she wont, and there isn't a damn thing you can do to change it.

[Estonian dude]

Ok, so I grabbed my balls tonight, when I saw the girl I spoke of on messenger.

Chatted a bit and then asked if I could take her out sometime. Directly.

And her reply: "Let's see to it sometime during the summer. :D"

What should I make out for it? Interested? Not interested? And my course of action, specially considering I am only 1 month in the country before leaving for 2 other months?

[Vezon Dash]

Ok, so I grabbed my balls tonight, when I saw the girl I spoke of on messenger.

Chatted a bit and then asked if I could take her out sometime. Directly.

And her reply: "Let's see to it sometime during the summer. :D"

What should I make out for it? Interested? Not interested? And my course of action, specially considering I am only 1 month in the country before leaving for 2 other months?

 

Maybe she's busy with school?

[Estonian dude]

Indeed she is.

And Drivers' school aswell.

[Vezon Dash]

Indeed she is.

And Drivers' school aswell.

 

Then that is probably why she wants to wait. I see nothing wrong with that.

[The_Gabe]

Asking out a girl that I've got on a few dates with, and we both constantly text each other.

 

Wish me luck boys.

[Vezon Dash]

Asking out a girl that I've got on a few dates with, and we both constantly text each other.

 

Wish me luck boys.

 

Good luck.

[TTanT]

Well that was weird.

[hide=Some stuff in here may offend people]

Talking with my ex (yeah we still talk daily, but I'm over her emotionally now so it isn't painful [not physically, but that's something a new girlfriend would cure]), and she confesses that she's realized she was bi. Something which I'd known for a year already but she'd always denied.

I tease her about this a lot with "I told you so"s and such, and then inquire deeper because I'm honestly curious (it's interesting to hear what a girl finds attractive in girls, etc).

 

By the end of the nigh porn has come up* and she's gotten a porn site link from me and is looking at it for the first time. I go to bed then, and the next day she admits to me that she pleasured herself to it.

She now really likes it although she doesn't like to admit it.

 

 

So yeah, I've gotten another guy's girlfriend to watch porn. I don't even know.

I almost feel like that was kind of like cheating. But it's not like anything to that degree happened. He knows she watched it (although not that her ex got her the links), and is fine with that. And it's not like she's attracted to me whatsoever anymore, so I don't see that being an issue.

Nonetheless, my conscience is bugging me.

Like on the one hand I feel like as boyfriend I wouldn't feel comfortable with my girlfriend's ex being so buddy buddy with her and talking about such touchy subjects. But on the other hand our discussions are entirely platonic.

 

*Don't ask how this ended up happening, I'm not sure. [/hide]

[RpgGamer]

dude you're helping turn the guys girlfriend into an outted bisexual. Unless he's a religious nut, this is only a good thing to him. Calm down.

 

Now, if she actually makes a move on you, that's different (though you should probably evaluate the wisdom of being with a girl who started seeing someone else before breaking it off, because that's probably going to cause trust issues for you one day if you stay together long enough). You just need to keep in mind that you are only going to be able to see what you want to see, and if you get it wrong you are going to piss her off something fierce.

 

and this is why I love Randox. I see girls cheat on guys that are great people way to often, and the next poor bastard doesnt realize that if she's willing to give up a great dude for you, there's a serious chance that you'll befall the same fate.

[Assume Nothing]

I don't think she'll become bisexual from this - it's simply appreciation of the female form. I don't see anything wrong with pornography in the first place.