"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice

[aquariusman]

She could still just think that you don't have feelings for her anymore, since you didn't make any attempts to get her (I'm assuming). Just try it, and if it doesn't work, then maybe there's period of awkwardness for a few weeks, but then things will settle down. There's no real risk, but if it works out and she does reciprocate your feels, you've got yourself a girl If you have feelings for her, try.

[Tim]

Imo, Online is totally useless. I tried it because I cant seem to find a girl in my area at all. Guess what: ALL the women I met online had such [developmentally delayed]ed standards it made me realize so many are worse then the girls I've met in person.

 

You Must Be Strong

You Must Be over 25

You Must Have a Car (Tick)

You Must Not be Looking for Intimate Encounters

etc

etc.

 

Just a load of bullcrap.

[Giordano]

Imo, Online is totally useless.

And when you have like a social network type thing, too much drama.

Just a load of bullcrap.

[TTanT]

I think I've found my dream girl. She plays Pokemon, and isn't ashamed to admit it, she has a sense of humor, and she looks pretty nice.

 

Well, I asked her out (although she pretty much led me to it), and she said yes. :thumbsup:

[Flyingjj]

I think I've found my dream girl. She plays Pokemon, and isn't ashamed to admit it, she has a sense of humor, and she looks pretty nice.

 

Well, I asked her out (although she pretty much led me to it), and she said yes. :thumbsup:

Success stories make me happy. See---> :grin:

Have fun, and I wish you the best of luck.

[RpgGamer]

I think I've found my dream girl. She plays Pokemon, and isn't ashamed to admit it, she has a sense of humor, and she looks pretty nice.

 

Well, I asked her out (although she pretty much led me to it), and she said yes.

 

 

:D

Congradulations

\:D/

 

*highfive*

 

I love hearing good news updates on here.

[TTanT]

Hey, thats what this thread is for. To force pansies like me to make a stand.

[BlindBaker]

I know I said I was done with this girl and (for the most part) I am. But I'm still trying to figure out where I went wrong. It seemed like as I got more confident and talked to her more, she slowly started giving signs of "No, I don't like you and I don't want to talk to you. Leave me alone." She's far too nice to actual say it (which is a little annoying) but I could tell she was thinking it. At first she looked around every time I approached (maybe making sure her friends weren't watching? Don't know why. Her friends like me). Then she stopped making eye contact. She would just look down or anywhere that wasn't my face. And recently she stopped talking to me completely. Just pretended I wasn't there.

 

I really don't know what I did that caused this, or why I'm still worrying about it at all.

 

By the way, congrats TTanT! :)

[Kenshinjapan]

I know I said I was done with this girl and (for the most part) I am. But I'm still trying to figure out where I went wrong. It seemed like as I got more confident and talked to her more, she slowly started giving signs of "No, I don't like you and I don't want to talk to you. Leave me alone." She's far too nice to actual say it (which is a little annoying) but I could tell she was thinking it. At first she looked around every time I approached (maybe making sure her friends weren't watching? Don't know why. Her friends like me). Then she stopped making eye contact. She would just look down or anywhere that wasn't my face. And recently she stopped talking to me completely. Just pretended I wasn't there.

 

I really don't know what I did that caused this, or why I'm still worrying about it at all.

 

By the way, congrats TTanT! :)

 

She could have simply just not been that into you or you were just being too clingy. I personally hate it when a girl that likes me hangs around too much.

[Abc1230]

Uh... I'm not really looking for relationship advice, I'm just kind confused about something >.> I didn't feel like looking for a more appropriate thread ;)

 

I had to stay after school last year for a homework group thing... I didn't do homework... and there was (surprise) this girl there. I was pretty quest (again, surprise) for most of the year. She asked me to play scrabble with her... The "class" was in the... special people... room. The next day as I was leaving she said I had pretty eyes. Needless to say, I was [bleep]ing confused and said thanks and fast-walked away (just below running). The rest of the year was spend in silence like the previous 14 or so ;)

 

Uh... I added her on facebook a week or two ago and sent her a message thanking her for talking to me. She said that she remembered and that it made her day. I honestly thought somebody was paying her to talk to me >.> I saw her again today and she said "Hi." I didn't recognize her for a second (that's normal, right?) and just kept walking. Then I realized who she was and said "I know you." :/

 

I know for a fact that she isn't interested in me (C'mon, you've seen my irl pics :P ) I guess it's more of a social question than a relationship one. What caused her to do this? Up until that point, and still today a bit, I absolutely believed that everybody hated me. There was no walking away laughing at me afterwards either :/ I'm pretty sure that she wasn't being forced to talk to me either. This is the second time in my life that something like this has happened to me. I'm pretty sure I [bleep]ed up pretty well both times :thumbsup:

 

Uh... back to the question.

 

Why did she talk to me and what should I have said? Remember, I've essentially spent my life in social isolation. There is nothing "obvious" to me >.>

[Amaranth_GTO]

Why? I guess because she wants to be friends with you, or at least be nice to you. Not everyone is a total [wagon], some people really are nice. :) And besides, it's probably not good to go around telling everyone to go talk to the shy, quiet kid then ignoring the people who do. If someone wants to be your friend, let them.

 

What should you have said? Even if you didn't know who she was, you should've said "hey" back. If you didn't have anywhere to go, you could have stopped and had a conversation. Just say "hey, what's up?" then she responds, then you respond, then she responds again... You know how it works.

I guess what you should do, is tell her on facebook or next time you see her for real that you didn't recognize her when she said hi to you, or something like that.

[RpgGamer]

Uh... I'm not really looking for relationship advice, I'm just kind confused about something >.> I didn't feel like looking for a more appropriate thread

 

I had to stay after school last year for a homework group thing... I didn't do homework... and there was (surprise) this girl there. I was pretty quest (again, surprise) for most of the year. She asked me to play scrabble with her... The "class" was in the... special people... room. The next day as I was leaving she said I had pretty eyes. Needless to say, I was [bleep]ing confused and said thanks and fast-walked away (just below running). The rest of the year was spend in silence like the previous 14 or so

 

Uh... I added her on facebook a week or two ago and sent her a message thanking her for talking to me. She said that she remembered and that it made her day. I honestly thought somebody was paying her to talk to me >.> I saw her again today and she said "Hi." I didn't recognize her for a second (that's normal, right?) and just kept walking. Then I realized who she was and said "I know you." :/

 

I know for a fact that she isn't interested in me (C'mon, you've seen my irl pics ) I guess it's more of a social question than a relationship one. What caused her to do this? Up until that point, and still today a bit, I absolutely believed that everybody hated me. There was no walking away laughing at me afterwards either :/ I'm pretty sure that she wasn't being forced to talk to me either. This is the second time in my life that something like this has happened to me. I'm pretty sure I [bleep]ed up pretty well both times

 

Uh... back to the question.

 

Why did she talk to me and what should I have said? Remember, I've essentially spent my life in social isolation. There is nothing "obvious" to me >.>

 

Dude really? She's being social. Whether she wants to hook up with you, or hang out with you, does it matter? She's merely interacting with you. You're WAY over thinking it. Have some confidense in yourself. You sound like you hate yourself (which you justify by saying everyone hates you in your mind). You shouldn't. Love yourself, and others will love you too. People follow example.

[RpgGamer]

I know I said I was done with this girl and (for the most part) I am. But I'm still trying to figure out where I went wrong. It seemed like as I got more confident and talked to her more, she slowly started giving signs of "No, I don't like you and I don't want to talk to you. Leave me alone." She's far too nice to actual say it (which is a little annoying) but I could tell she was thinking it. At first she looked around every time I approached (maybe making sure her friends weren't watching? Don't know why. Her friends like me). Then she stopped making eye contact. She would just look down or anywhere that wasn't my face. And recently she stopped talking to me completely. Just pretended I wasn't there.

 

I really don't know what I did that caused this, or why I'm still worrying about it at all.

 

By the way, congrats TTanT!

 

The first thing you did wrong was you tried to figure out women. They don't make sense. You will NEVER figure them out. You just gotta roll with it. Play the cards you were dealt. That sort of thing. If this girl isn't interested in you, she isn't worth your time. Wouldn't it be better to spend your time on a girl that's interested in you? Go, my child. And find this mystery women that will be attracted to you!

[Omar]

abc, I'm almost sure no one actually hates you. You see, you've had no impact on people's lives, whatsoever. For them to hate you, you'd have to have had negative impact on them. She was just being nice. You're facing an opportunity to make a friend here.

[Wisp]

I know I said I was done with this girl and (for the most part) I am. But I'm still trying to figure out where I went wrong. It seemed like as I got more confident and talked to her more, she slowly started giving signs of "No, I don't like you and I don't want to talk to you. Leave me alone." She's far too nice to actual say it (which is a little annoying) but I could tell she was thinking it. At first she looked around every time I approached (maybe making sure her friends weren't watching? Don't know why. Her friends like me). Then she stopped making eye contact. She would just look down or anywhere that wasn't my face. And recently she stopped talking to me completely. Just pretended I wasn't there.

 

I really don't know what I did that caused this, or why I'm still worrying about it at all.

 

By the way, congrats TTanT!

 

The first thing you did wrong was you tried to figure out women. They don't make sense. You will NEVER figure them out. You just gotta roll with it. Play the cards you were dealt. That sort of thing. If this girl isn't interested in you, she isn't worth your time. Wouldn't it be better to spend your time on a girl that's interested in you? Go, my child. And find this mystery women that will be attracted to you!

Actually he tried to figure out one person, not women in general. Figuring out women is just as impossible as figuring out men, cuz everyone is different.

My advice: Blind, just ask her directly. I don't know the story, I haven't been keeping up with this thread, but asking directly is often the best solution.

[BlindBaker]

I know I said I was done with this girl and (for the most part) I am. But I'm still trying to figure out where I went wrong. It seemed like as I got more confident and talked to her more, she slowly started giving signs of "No, I don't like you and I don't want to talk to you. Leave me alone." She's far too nice to actual say it (which is a little annoying) but I could tell she was thinking it. At first she looked around every time I approached (maybe making sure her friends weren't watching? Don't know why. Her friends like me). Then she stopped making eye contact. She would just look down or anywhere that wasn't my face. And recently she stopped talking to me completely. Just pretended I wasn't there.

 

I really don't know what I did that caused this, or why I'm still worrying about it at all.

 

By the way, congrats TTanT!

 

The first thing you did wrong was you tried to figure out women. They don't make sense. You will NEVER figure them out. You just gotta roll with it. Play the cards you were dealt. That sort of thing. If this girl isn't interested in you, she isn't worth your time. Wouldn't it be better to spend your time on a girl that's interested in you? Go, my child. And find this mystery women that will be attracted to you!

Actually he tried to figure out one person, not women in general. Figuring out women is just as impossible as figuring out men, cuz everyone is different.

My advice: Blind, just ask her directly. I don't know the story, I haven't been keeping up with this thread, but asking directly is often the best solution.

I thought about that, but then I figured, [bleep] it. It's not even worth a try if I'll never get anywhere with her.

 

And now I'm gonna go list everything about her that pisses me off to no end. And that's a lot.

[Hobgoblinpie]

Uh... I'm not really looking for relationship advice, I'm just kind confused about something >.> I didn't feel like looking for a more appropriate thread ;)

 

I had to stay after school last year for a homework group thing... I didn't do homework... and there was (surprise) this girl there. I was pretty quest (again, surprise) for most of the year. She asked me to play scrabble with her... The "class" was in the... special people... room. The next day as I was leaving she said I had pretty eyes. Needless to say, I was [bleep]ing confused and said thanks and fast-walked away (just below running). The rest of the year was spend in silence like the previous 14 or so ;)

 

Uh... I added her on facebook a week or two ago and sent her a message thanking her for talking to me. She said that she remembered and that it made her day. I honestly thought somebody was paying her to talk to me >.> I saw her again today and she said "Hi." I didn't recognize her for a second (that's normal, right?) and just kept walking. Then I realized who she was and said "I know you." :/

 

I know for a fact that she isn't interested in me (C'mon, you've seen my irl pics :P ) I guess it's more of a social question than a relationship one. What caused her to do this? Up until that point, and still today a bit, I absolutely believed that everybody hated me. There was no walking away laughing at me afterwards either :/ I'm pretty sure that she wasn't being forced to talk to me either. This is the second time in my life that something like this has happened to me. I'm pretty sure I [bleep]ed up pretty well both times :thumbsup:

 

Uh... back to the question.

 

Why did she talk to me and what should I have said? Remember, I've essentially spent my life in social isolation. There is nothing "obvious" to me >.>

 

This is a typical case of Analysis Paralysis. You're thinking too much, instead of acting. If you believe everyone has an ulterior motive, how can you trust anyone?

[obfuscator]

Uh... I'm not really looking for relationship advice, I'm just kind confused about something >.> I didn't feel like looking for a more appropriate thread ;)

 

I had to stay after school last year for a homework group thing... I didn't do homework... and there was (surprise) this girl there. I was pretty quest (again, surprise) for most of the year. She asked me to play scrabble with her... The "class" was in the... special people... room. The next day as I was leaving she said I had pretty eyes. Needless to say, I was [bleep]ing confused and said thanks and fast-walked away (just below running). The rest of the year was spend in silence like the previous 14 or so ;)

 

Uh... I added her on facebook a week or two ago and sent her a message thanking her for talking to me. She said that she remembered and that it made her day. I honestly thought somebody was paying her to talk to me >.> I saw her again today and she said "Hi." I didn't recognize her for a second (that's normal, right?) and just kept walking. Then I realized who she was and said "I know you." :/

 

I know for a fact that she isn't interested in me (C'mon, you've seen my irl pics :P ) I guess it's more of a social question than a relationship one. What caused her to do this? Up until that point, and still today a bit, I absolutely believed that everybody hated me. There was no walking away laughing at me afterwards either :/ I'm pretty sure that she wasn't being forced to talk to me either. This is the second time in my life that something like this has happened to me. I'm pretty sure I [bleep]ed up pretty well both times :thumbsup:

 

Uh... back to the question.

 

Why did she talk to me and what should I have said? Remember, I've essentially spent my life in social isolation. There is nothing "obvious" to me >.>

 

This is a typical case of Analysis Paralysis. You're thinking too much, instead of acting. If you believe everyone has an ulterior motive, how can you trust anyone?

 

Yeah. She wants to talk to you - talk back!

 

If you have no friends currently, you have nothing to lose. Try to be genuinely interested in what she has to say, and be nice, and things will go great.

[Abc1230]

Edit:

Meh... Nevermind

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[deathdrow]

How do you "Move on" when you wouldn't consider dating any other girl in your class? For me, I'd need someone to move on to, so I'm in in a bit of a hard-spot here.

Flirt, meet chicks from other schools, just, don't think about trying to get back together with whoever you're trying to move on from. Even if you want it, or there's a chance it might happen, just let it be, and just find something else to do. A large portion of moving on is just finding something to take up the time you had devoted to what you're going over, I'm also assuming you just came out of a relationship, if you're trying to move on from someone you have a crush on, just go meet more people, or socialize more with other people.

Run-on sentences ftw.

[RpgGamer]

How do you "Move on" when you wouldn't consider dating any other girl in your class? For me, I'd need someone to move on to, so I'm in in a bit of a hard-spot here.

Flirt, meet chicks from other schools, just, don't think about trying to get back together with whoever you're trying to move on from. Even if you want it, or there's a chance it might happen, just let it be, and just find something else to do. A large portion of moving on is just finding something to take up the time you had devoted to what you're going over, I'm also assuming you just came out of a relationship, if you're trying to move on from someone you have a crush on, just go meet more people, or socialize more with other people.

Run-on sentences ftw.

 

Don't think of it as moving on to someone else. You don't have to be dependant on a significant other to have a good time in life. As Deathdrow said, try flirting with other girls you haven't met before. Can't find any other girls? Try your local mall on weekends. Try joining a co-ed sport. There's plenty of ladies out there, it's just a matter of finding them. As for the actual moving on? Just focus your attention on other interesting things. I assume you just came out of a relationship? Think about all of the things that you couldn't do while you were in a relationship. Reconnect with old friends. Join a club. Start hanging out in random places for the hell of it. Get a new hobby. Just make yourself busy and eventually, you'll notice the feeling of loneliness slip away.

[Lenticular_J]

Ahh, I've been having fun lately. You guys that aren't involved in any groups or anything: JOIN SOMETHING! Theater was a friggin huge help for me lately, because there are people from all walks of school life involved in it. And now I'm a central figure in the arts world at our school, because this guy who is pretty much amazing at everything he does (he's a really awesome guy) has named me his replacement recently. Haha, so much fun. I could take up a lot of space being a braggart about the fun I've had, but that would be a [bleep] move. So I'll sum it up with fun.

 

I do find it strange that so many of my friends are older. I have very few good friends in the sophomore class, simply because a good few people seem to dislike me for stupid high school reasons. Also, some of the freshman class have deified me. I like my life as of late.

 

Just thought I'd give you guys an update. Now, me and one of my friends in college are gonna try out a pick-up line we came up with. It's funny. We'll find some cute girls, walk up to them, draw a line in front of them with some chalk, pick them up and carry them over the line, say "There's our pickup line. We should date." and walk away. Teehee!

[decebal]

 

Just thought I'd give you guys an update. Now, me and one of my friends in college are gonna try out a pick-up line we came up with. It's funny. We'll find some cute girls, walk up to them, draw a line in front of them with some chalk, pick them up and carry them over the line, say "There's our pickup line. We should date." and walk away. Teehee!

Watch out for the pepper spray. :thumbsup:

[AndyPandy]

Just thought I'd give you guys an update. Now, me and one of my friends in college are gonna try out a pick-up line we came up with. It's funny. We'll find some cute girls, walk up to them, draw a line in front of them with some chalk, pick them up and carry them over the line, say "There's our pickup line. We should date." and walk away. Teehee!

Watch out for the pepper spray. :thumbsup:

 

Yah. You tried that where I live you'd get a punch in the face.