"I want a girlfriend/boyfriend", and other such relationship advice

[Omar]

as for the "[x/y] <3" vs "<[x/y]3" ?

who gives a [cabbage]?

it's just text anyway. and yet both annoy me

And like most funny things, rocco's joke was not that funny when you thought about it too much.

Hardy says it better than I do, but that was the gist of it.

[Maze]

Since it's been getting nicer outside, I decided to go to my local park. All my friends and stuff hang out there in the summer.

 

Anyways, one of my friends (a girl) has been acting.....strange. She used to always hug me and talk to me, but she doesn't anymore. She doesn't even talk to me that much anymore, just a little "Hi." and not even a hug or anything. She is always focused on someone else. I hate to sound like a self-centered [bleep], but it has been bothering me. I don't know if she is mad at me or anything.

 

She is really just a friend, but I do admit I have some "feelings" for her.

[Furah]

Since it's been getting nicer outside, I decided to go to my local park. All my friends and stuff hang out there in the summer.

 

Anyways, one of my friends (a girl) has been acting.....strange. She used to always hug me and talk to me, but she doesn't anymore. She doesn't even talk to me that much anymore, just a little "Hi." and not even a hug or anything. She is always focused on someone else. I hate to sound like a self-centered [bleep], but it has been bothering me. I don't know if she is mad at me or anything.

 

She is really just a friend, but I do admit I have some "feelings" for her.

Has she been acting nervous around you? It could be she thinks you're awesome. :wink:

[Tim]

Since it's been getting nicer outside, I decided to go to my local park. All my friends and stuff hang out there in the summer.

 

Anyways, one of my friends (a girl) has been acting.....strange. She used to always hug me and talk to me, but she doesn't anymore. She doesn't even talk to me that much anymore, just a little "Hi." and not even a hug or anything. She is always focused on someone else. I hate to sound like a self-centered [bleep], but it has been bothering me. I don't know if she is mad at me or anything.

 

She is really just a friend, but I do admit I have some "feelings" for her.

Has she been acting nervous around you? It could be she thinks you're awesome. :wink:

Or like a chick i know, She likes someone else but thinks you like her, and so she's trying to not give you hints anymore or be a bit neglectful. buuuuuuut I'm sure that's just happened to me, Probably something on her mind.

[Iamdan]

It could be anything really, don't bother trying to analyze it. Ask her what's up if you want, but if you wanted to make a move you should have done so earlier.

 

There's a 'window' of opportunity, that gets smaller and smaller as you get older.

 

I almost screwed it up with a shy girl not long ago because I was trying to get her act

[Maze]

Since it's been getting nicer outside, I decided to go to my local park. All my friends and stuff hang out there in the summer.

 

Anyways, one of my friends (a girl) has been acting.....strange. She used to always hug me and talk to me, but she doesn't anymore. She doesn't even talk to me that much anymore, just a little "Hi." and not even a hug or anything. She is always focused on someone else. I hate to sound like a self-centered [bleep], but it has been bothering me. I don't know if she is mad at me or anything.

 

She is really just a friend, but I do admit I have some "feelings" for her.

Has she been acting nervous around you? It could be she thinks you're awesome. :wink:

Or like a chick i know, She likes someone else but thinks you like her, and so she's trying to not give you hints anymore or be a bit neglectful. buuuuuuut I'm sure that's just happened to me, Probably something on her mind.

This is most likely the case.

 

She does like this guy who hangs out at our local park. She seems to try to ignore me for a reason. I doubt she hates me, but just doesn't want to show interest in me in order to not give him the impression that she "likes" me.

 

Oh well, I guess I'll just have to wait it out.

[RpgGamer]

I'm back. Seems like the thread is moving pretty slow still. I think Mazemeout's problem has been resolved. I say don't take it personal, she's just trying to protect you.

 

In other knews, I decided [despite the advice of many] to get back with my ex.

 

12th time's the charm?

 

Fun story though. We got back together on Senior Trip. we shared a hotel, but the way the school regulated it, we couldn't ever be in the same room together. Good thing they never checked the bathrooms :P

[Jeffwilson99]

Surely you didn't...in the bathrooms? Oh, yeah fair enough actually, GC.

[Skeptical]

I'm hardly a social expert, but the extent to which I lack the basic ability to relate to other human beings is exemplified by my decision to ask strangers for help on the internet.

 

Here is my problem, or what I currently believe to be my problem:

 

-Meet girl, begin talking to girl.

-I find her attractive, and therefore interesting.

-Girl begins to blabber mindlessly about MTV, "Snookie" and emo music.

-Novelty of her attractiveness wears off, and boredom sets in.

-Girl asks/repeats something, I absentmindedly reply using a string of words inclusive of more than 5 separate syllables and possibly not English

-Girl backs away frightened, searching for someone with a lower I.Q. and muttering something about nerds and desiring carbohydrates.

 

I try to avoid sounding "smart" in front of members of the opposite gender, but unfortunately, when I become bored, I forget and slip back into my natural tongue. What can I possibly do to avoid this?

 

Help me strangers. :blink:

[Flyingjj]

Find smarter girls.

...

 

Or, alternatively, you can follow the advice that comes after my sarcastic response. Maybe even my own, if I have time to process it a bit and end up replying with something better later.

[Skeptical]

Find smarter girls.

...

 

Or, alternatively, you can follow the advice that comes after my sarcastic response. Maybe even my own, if I have time to process it a bit and end up replying with something better later.

 

Finding smarter girls is actually quite a bit more difficult than people project it to be.

 

No worries, I was expecting worse, and sarcasm is a least the more friendly and witty brand of depreciating humor.

[RpgGamer]

Surely you didn't...in the bathrooms? Oh, yeah fair enough actually, GC.

 

 

And in Space Ship Earth ;)

[Iamdan]

You remind me of singblade from tucker max's stories

[Lenticular_J]

I'm hardly a social expert, but the extent to which I lack the basic ability to relate to other human beings is exemplified by my decision to ask strangers for help on the internet.

 

Here is my problem, or what I currently believe to be my problem:

 

-Meet girl, begin talking to girl.

-I find her attractive, and therefore interesting.

-Girl begins to blabber mindlessly about MTV, "Snookie" and emo music.

-Novelty of her attractiveness wears off, and boredom sets in.

-Girl asks/repeats something, I absentmindedly reply using a string of words inclusive of more than 5 separate syllables and possibly not English

-Girl backs away frightened, searching for someone with a lower I.Q. and muttering something about nerds and desiring carbohydrates.

 

I try to avoid sounding "smart" in front of members of the opposite gender, but unfortunately, when I become bored, I forget and slip back into my natural tongue. What can I possibly do to avoid this?

 

Help me strangers. :blink:

Stop being so pretentious, for one thing.

[Amaranth_GTO]

I'm hardly a social expert, but the extent to which I lack the basic ability to relate to other human beings is exemplified by my decision to ask strangers for help on the internet.

 

Here is my problem, or what I currently believe to be my problem:

 

-Meet girl, begin talking to girl.

-I find her attractive, and therefore interesting.

-Girl begins to blabber mindlessly about MTV, "Snookie" and emo music.

-Novelty of her attractiveness wears off, and boredom sets in.

-Girl asks/repeats something, I absentmindedly reply using a string of words inclusive of more than 5 separate syllables and possibly not English

-Girl backs away frightened, searching for someone with a lower I.Q. and muttering something about nerds and desiring carbohydrates.

 

I try to avoid sounding "smart" in front of members of the opposite gender, but unfortunately, when I become bored, I forget and slip back into my natural tongue. What can I possibly do to avoid this?

 

Help me strangers. :blink:

1) Try to actually listen when they talk.

2) you don't need to dumb down what you say, most people are completely capable of understanding what you say as long as it's natural speech and you aren't deliberately trying to sound smart.

3) If you aren't into popular culture items, talking to people who are into popular culture might not be such a good idea. Instead of talking to the girl carrying around the Abercrombie bag, talk to the one who frequents the video game store. Point is, try to talk to girls who are interested in what you're interested in. Or at least feign interest in what they're interested in.

[Maze]

Things have been going uphill since my last situation.

 

She now talks to me a lot more and compliments me a lot. We're pretty much friends again, and that makes me happy.

[aquariusman]

I'm hardly a social expert, but the extent to which I lack the basic ability to relate to other human beings is exemplified by my decision to ask strangers for help on the internet.

 

Here is my problem, or what I currently believe to be my problem:

 

-Meet girl, begin talking to girl.

-I find her attractive, and therefore interesting.

-Girl begins to blabber mindlessly about MTV, "Snookie" and emo music.

-Novelty of her attractiveness wears off, and boredom sets in.

-Girl asks/repeats something, I absentmindedly reply using a string of words inclusive of more than 5 separate syllables and possibly not English

-Girl backs away frightened, searching for someone with a lower I.Q. and muttering something about nerds and desiring carbohydrates.

 

I try to avoid sounding "smart" in front of members of the opposite gender, but unfortunately, when I become bored, I forget and slip back into my natural tongue. What can I possibly do to avoid this?

 

Help me strangers. :blink:

One thing I think you need to do is be interested in girls for who they are, not what they look like. You might stumble across the rare girl that is a stunner and has the personality that meshes with yours perfectly, but you're 13, that isn't very likely. Focus on personality, it's more important in the long run.

[Lenticular_J]

Hey, let's not get hasty.

[aquariusman]

Hey, let's not get hasty.

Yeah, that was a bit harsh. Edited.

[Lenticular_J]

Not the harshness, the whole "don't just like a girl for her face and [bleep]."

 

Although I'd appreciate her more for her body in general. There's little I don't enjoy about a girl's body. Harshness was pretty much necessary.

[Skeptical]

I'm hardly a social expert, but the extent to which I lack the basic ability to relate to other human beings is exemplified by my decision to ask strangers for help on the internet.

 

Here is my problem, or what I currently believe to be my problem:

 

-Meet girl, begin talking to girl.

-I find her attractive, and therefore interesting.

-Girl begins to blabber mindlessly about MTV, "Snookie" and emo music.

-Novelty of her attractiveness wears off, and boredom sets in.

-Girl asks/repeats something, I absentmindedly reply using a string of words inclusive of more than 5 separate syllables and possibly not English

-Girl backs away frightened, searching for someone with a lower I.Q. and muttering something about nerds and desiring carbohydrates.

 

I try to avoid sounding "smart" in front of members of the opposite gender, but unfortunately, when I become bored, I forget and slip back into my natural tongue. What can I possibly do to avoid this?

 

Help me strangers. :blink:

One thing I think you need to do is be interested in girls for who they are, not what they look like. You might stumble across the rare girl that is a stunner and has the personality that meshes with yours perfectly, but you're 13, that isn't very likely. Focus on personality, it's more important in the long run.

 

 

I'm actually 15, only a few months from 16... does my profile actually have the wrong age listed?

[Omar]

Cooldog, I think you need to realize that MTV isn't terrible by definition, neither is mainstream music, etc. I don't know if you've ever watched Jersey Shore, but it's a hilarious show.

[Amaranth_GTO]

Cooldog, I think you need to realize that MTV isn't terrible by definition, neither is mainstream music, etc. I don't know if you've ever watched Jersey Shore, but it's a hilarious show.

Plus it makes for good drinking games :thumbup:

[TTanT]

I'm sorry to go off-topic, but.

 

How good of a sign for a relationship is it if you've been together for two months, (We're both highschoolers [i'm a sophomore, and she's a freshman]) and have not had a single disagreement thusfar?

 

This includes hanging out at least twice a week, and seeing each other constantly at school, then messaging each other online.

[Lenticular_J]

Terrible. Relationships will involve fights. All relationships do. One of you isn't quite acting like yourself (not unusual).

 

In fact, it's weird to even know someone for two months and not get pissed off at each other at least once.