The power of using smilies when texting or chatting someone, just amazing...

 

I don't understand why? I've always kind of found it immature.

For the girl initiating the kiss, I would say its kind of critical that you do this sometimes. If one party is always initiating something, they are going to assume that you don't want to do that, and they'll stop. If you don't reciprocate the action, I think the assumption would be that your saying you aren't ready to do that yet. You don't need to do it right away, but for me I would use 3 as the magic number (as in he doesn't get to kiss me four times before I kiss him back).

 

It's verification that you like what they are doing, and want them to keep doing it.

The power of using smilies when texting or chatting someone, just amazing...

 

I don't understand why? I've always kind of found it immature.

 

it's the difference between:

 

I'll see you there

I'll see you there.

and

I'll see you there! :D

 

[conveying emotions is hard enough when you're texting, the stupid smilies are stupid but make all the difference]

 

Out of interest, is it okay for the girl to initiate a kiss to the guy?

And is it still a case of when it 'feels' right to you?

 

I don't see why it wouldn't be ok.

 

 

@Kalphite

 

Like everyone else has said before, you will know when the time is right.

 

 

I love it when girls initiate. I almost hate it when they don't.

 

@Kalphite:

 

if you didn't find the right time it's because you either didn't make the time or you actually don't want to make time. Creating the "let's kiss" moment isn't always difficult, nor should it be. If you're truly having problems finding it, something else is likely wrong with the equation. Like who you're with. Or what you ate haha

I guess I see the point, but I've always thought of smilies as "girl text language" along with purposefully misspelling words and adding extra letters on the end of a word. (eg Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy)

Yeah, well texting girls I find them tons more responsive when I use just a couple smilies than when I just text them...

Yeah, well texting girls I find them tons more responsive when I use just a couple smilies than when I just text them...

 

You're also from a different generation from some of us old heads though.

The age gap isn't that big in the grand scheme of things, but those few years really really seem to add up.

I've always viewed smiling in text messages as girly. Not to mention a lot of my gay friends go crazy with emoticons. Not trolling or stereotyping, just saying what I've noticed.

Meh, I just use one every 2 or 3 texts, for some reason it makes everything a lot more jokey, less serious, and saying random shit won't get you [bleep]ed slapped

What are you saying to girls that will get you slapped? :shock:

Smileys can completely change the context of a text. eg.

 

Hey

Hey ;)

I kinda tend to use rather many smilies (Well, not in sms, but then I don't usually have long conversations over those). It's a quick and easy way to combine what you're saying with an emotion, e.g. so your chat partner knows that the "wow, impressive :o" is not "wow, impressive :rolleyes: "

What are you saying to girls that will get you slapped? :shock:

Umm, one that I don't know very well and I'm making jokes bout walking to her house to get some oj...

I honestly hate it when people don't use at least some smilies. It makes them seem so completely emotionless and monotone D:

I honestly hate it when people don't use at least some smilies. It makes them seem so completely emotionless and monotone D:

And apparently lots of people seem it that way... Heck a girl that I can't talk 10 minutes worth normally, start the smilies flowing and your good as long as you have something to talk about.

Best thing about smilies is that they're flirtatious, but the reader of them tends not to notice that.

"=p" can allows you to get away with insults and bragging: "I'm better than you at everything." vs. "I'm better than you at everything =p"

"XD" is a general way of diffusing tension and showing you aren't upset. "I fell down the stairs and broke my arm." vs. "I fell down the stairs and broke my arm XD"

;) and ;D are both pervertedness inserters that won't be taken seriously but can place ideas in people's heads.

My main ones are "XD" and "=p" which I spam to the point of meaninglessness, and also "8D."

 

Chicks love smily faces.

 

 

On a semi-related note, I'm considering asking yet another girl out.

I had courses with her back in 10th grade, and we still talk in the halls occasionally. Her being CAP English and me being AP, conversation wouldn't be an issue. As an added bonus, her last relationship ended about when mine did, meaning she's likely looking again by now too.

My main worries are that 1: I can't start escalating things as she doesn't have a Facebook, and 2: We don't see each other outside of school often at all.

 

I figure I'll get my friend to do some snooping/ try to set something up so that we'd end up hanging out for me. (Side note, gay friends are wonderful wingmen.) If he can't then I'll probably give up on the diea, unless I decide to say "Screw it" and just ask her to prom for the fun of it.

(Side note, gay friends are wonderful wingmen.)

Really? From my experience, the girl you are interested in is too enthralled with the gay guy to notice you.

(Side note, gay friends are wonderful wingmen.)

Really? From my experience, the girl you are interested in is too enthralled with the gay guy to notice you.

Yeah, that can happen.

However they're also more or less 100% trustworthy as it's not like they're going to fall in love with the girl you're gunning for or something. It all depends on the type of girl and such. The girl I'm going for now is an old friend of his, and thus she isn't going to be too enthralled by him.

Still, a gay friend is an invaluable asset when it comes to information gathering and the like.

@Kalphite:

 

if you didn't find the right time it's because you either didn't make the time or you actually don't want to make time. Creating the "let's kiss" moment isn't always difficult, nor should it be. If you're truly having problems finding it, something else is likely wrong with the equation. Like who you're with. Or what you ate haha

 

I haven't had a true first kiss yet and that was the closest thing to a date I've been on, with a girl that's incredibly indecisive as to what she actually wants out of whatever we are at this point that I was trying not to scare off. So forgive me for not knowing how to "create" that moment right away? Hell, I tried setting it up by having us lay out under the stars but then once that happened the conversation turned away from anything intimate enough to lead up to a first kiss...

 

Also for the emoticon discussion, I tend to abuse the hell out of them. Everything seems too serious without them.

(Side note, gay friends are wonderful wingmen.)

Really? From my experience, the girl you are interested in is too enthralled with the gay guy to notice you.

Yeah, that can happen.

However they're also more or less 100% trustworthy as it's not like they're going to fall in love with the girl you're gunning for or something. It all depends on the type of girl and such. The girl I'm going for now is an old friend of his, and thus she isn't going to be too enthralled by him.

Still, a gay friend is an invaluable asset when it comes to information gathering and the like.

 

In your situation, you make a valid point.

 

 

 

@Kalphite

 

Although, sometimes things need to be serious, and if I want to have a genuine conversation, it would be in person or over the phone.

I only use one smiley, XP, very rarely. I only text one person anyways and when I do it, I'm pressing her buttons enough to turn her ears red.

Best thing about smilies is that they're flirtatious, but the reader of them tends not to notice that.

"=p" can allows you to get away with insults and bragging: "I'm better than you at everything." vs. "I'm better than you at everything =p"

"XD" is a general way of diffusing tension and showing you aren't upset. "I fell down the stairs and broke my arm." vs. "I fell down the stairs and broke my arm XD"

;) and ;D are both pervertedness inserters that won't be taken seriously but can place ideas in people's heads.

My main ones are "XD" and "=p" which I spam to the point of meaninglessness, and also "8D."

 

Chicks love smily faces.

 

 

On a semi-related note, I'm considering asking yet another girl out.

I had courses with her back in 10th grade, and we still talk in the halls occasionally. Her being CAP English and me being AP, conversation wouldn't be an issue. As an added bonus, her last relationship ended about when mine did, meaning she's likely looking again by now too.

My main worries are that 1: I can't start escalating things as she doesn't have a Facebook, and 2: We don't see each other outside of school often at all.

 

I figure I'll get my friend to do some snooping/ try to set something up so that we'd end up hanging out for me. (Side note, gay friends are wonderful wingmen.) If he can't then I'll probably give up on the diea, unless I decide to say "Screw it" and just ask her to prom for the fun of it.

 

give that [bleep] a smiley face. [bleep]es love smiley faces.

 

although, your whole shpeal kinda falls apart when you dont have their number, and they dont have a facebook :P

 

@Kalphite:

 

if you didn't find the right time it's because you either didn't make the time or you actually don't want to make time. Creating the "let's kiss" moment isn't always difficult, nor should it be. If you're truly having problems finding it, something else is likely wrong with the equation. Like who you're with. Or what you ate haha

 

I haven't had a true first kiss yet and that was the closest thing to a date I've been on, with a girl that's incredibly indecisive as to what she actually wants out of whatever we are at this point that I was trying not to scare off. So forgive me for not knowing how to "create" that moment right away? Hell, I tried setting it up by having us lay out under the stars but then once that happened the conversation turned away from anything intimate enough to lead up to a first kiss...

 

Also for the emoticon discussion, I tend to abuse the hell out of them. Everything seems too serious without them.

 

never been kissed? really? I thought you dated a girl a while back?

whatever, it's one of those things thats a huge deal until you do it, then it just comes naturally. Just connect to her, make her smile, look in her eyes and go for it. If she's looking in your eyes and smiling, that's a clear KISS ME NOW IDIOT moment.

 

Also if she puts on lip gloss at some point during the evening, you better get ready.

...also look for lip biting, too much hair playing, or her putting your hand on her body...or her hand on your body [wink wink]

 

You can create these moments by just making her happy on a deeper level, which is truly not as hard as it sounds in some cases. In the cases where it's truly hard, it's best to just leave the connection on a friendship level.

 

Girls101. I'm writing a damn book.

So the girl I like popped up in a dream last night and we more or less started dating in said dream.

So now I wake up, and my feeligns for her have been intensified by said dream.

 

Assuming nothing changes, I have no chance of seeing her until break ends, or at the very least until UB Con this Saturday (assuming she goes, which i don't know).

 

Sometimes I hate my subconscious. IT LOVES TO TORTURE ME, I TELL YOU. AHHHHHHHHHH

One of the many disadvantages of being one of those people who falls for others easily and hard.

/endrant

 

EDIT:

A trip to the art museum and thus time spent not stuck at home did wonders for that yearning feeling. Feeling way better now, and have plans for how I'd arrange ways to hang out with her in a group setting a few times so I can gain her interest.

Assuming nothing changes

 

Why are you talking about him? Thought your dream was about the girl you like...

 

Anyway, know where you're coming from... Dreams can screw you over and make things seem better or whatever, I had a dream last weekend that some random girl I don't even like asked me out :/ not really sure why, but hey.

For the girl initiating the kiss, I would say its kind of critical that you do this sometimes. If one party is always initiating something, they are going to assume that you don't want to do that, and they'll stop. If you don't reciprocate the action, I think the assumption would be that your saying you aren't ready to do that yet. You don't need to do it right away, but for me I would use 3 as the magic number (as in he doesn't get to kiss me four times before I kiss him back).

 

It's verification that you like what they are doing, and want them to keep doing it.

 

Yeah it's just something I was wondering about, I almost always embrace it, if the guy is trying to kiss me, but I've never actually tried kissing first.

I just feel a bit like I'm invading personal space, or maybe it's because I'm shy, but the guy I like kissed me first. I was a bit too dazed to kiss back but since then I've always returned the kiss. Thanks for the tips, I'm probably going to try to find time to talk to him next week to clear up the fact that I had a little crush on him and that I don't mind not getting serious right now, since we have exams and other things to think about. I just kind of want to keep it casual and ensure we're still friends, at the least.