March 27, 201214 yr The novelty of the situation wore off for me after my first year here. It's not all it's cracked up to be. But I'll sing you up anyways. "He could climb to it, if he climbed alone, and once there he could suck on the pap of life, gulp down the incomparable milk of wonder."
March 27, 201214 yr Oh. I wonder if people in NZ Universities dress better... Granted they mostly dress the same, but maybe better overall.
March 27, 201214 yr Editing bastard! "He could climb to it, if he climbed alone, and once there he could suck on the pap of life, gulp down the incomparable milk of wonder."
March 27, 201214 yr So I ended up hanging out with Stacey at a friend's party last night, and we ended up cuddling for basically the last few hours, so I was thinking, damn, I've finally got this. Today she texted me and said, "Hey just making sure, we're just going to prom as friends, right?". [bleep]. So basically, I ended up telling her I liked her, and she offered to let me go find someone else if I wanted to find someone I actually could start a relationship with, but she still wanted to go with me if I would still go with her. Not exactly any options for me at this point though, so I said I'd still go with her. Woo awkward friend date. At least I'm not going alone though I guess. Damn I can't wait until I can start fresh in college... OUCH. All I can say dude - You should of stepped up your game when cuddling to check the waters. 1593th to 99 Farming - July 08.
March 27, 201214 yr OUCH. All I can say dude - You should of stepped up your game when cuddling to check the waters. Lol, obviously its too late to change any of that, but out of curiosity what do you mean?
March 27, 201214 yr It means you should have tried to move beyond cuddling to see if she would have rejected that. And that if you would have, you would have had your answer up front instead of through a text message. You're right though, nothing can change that. "He could climb to it, if he climbed alone, and once there he could suck on the pap of life, gulp down the incomparable milk of wonder."
March 27, 201214 yr It means you should have tried to move beyond cuddling to see if she would have rejected that. And that if you would have, you would have had your answer up front instead of through a text message. You're right though, nothing can change that. I agree with this for future reference to those who read it. Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn
March 28, 201214 yr Eh. At the same time, it was a friend's party. I did consider trying that, actually, but I figured it'd have been really awkward for her with other people around. Granted, half of them were watching the movie and the other half were occupied with their own significant others, but it just didn't feel like the right time/place to try something like that. (Assuming by moving beyond cuddling you meant trying to kiss her). She also isn't normally a very touchy person, so I figured it was a good enough sign as it was. ...Besides, though this makes me sound much more socially inept than I actually am, it was my first time cuddling with a girl I liked, lmfao. Was on too much of a high from that to really be thinking "strategically", lol.
March 28, 201214 yr Ohhh, well if you were with a bunch of other people, that's a big difference. It would be awkward to do so in front of a group. Unless it was like a group orgy type thing. I thought you were alone with her. "He could climb to it, if he climbed alone, and once there he could suck on the pap of life, gulp down the incomparable milk of wonder."
March 28, 201214 yr ah I remember the days of group orgys. Who needs wingmen when everyone's experimenting? Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn
March 28, 201214 yr I've come to this decision:I'm just going to ask this girl out, even though it's been a bit less than a month sicne I broke up with my last girlfriend, because:1->My ex definitely shouldn't have an issue with it as she's practically been my wingman lately.2->I don't want to fall back into what I was before my alst relationship, which was that guy who's too terrified to tell his interests his feelings. So tomorrow I'm going to snoop around so that I know whether or not she's actually dating someone (she's very quiet about such thigns, but I'm pretty sure she isn't). If she is I'll abort of course, but I'm hoping she isn't.And then either tomorrow right after that or Thursday/Friday I'll ask her out, despending when an opportuntiy presents itself. Figuring my chances are good because:-She also gives me a smile in reply when I nod to her (how I say "hello" to people in busy hallways).-When I had to make a U-turn while walking with her because I had to get some papers from my ex (yeah I know dumb move) she did a double take that I inetrpreted as disappointment/jealousy. I could be 100% wrong and it may've just been confusion, but I'll find that out by asking her out.-We've held several conversations (albeit brief ones) last week because we were working on projects in the computer lab. She humored my ramblings on how I was going to write about the Rwandan Genocide, and asked me for adive on her paper as well. There was also other stuff but I'm tired and can't remember it.So yeah, the evidence is all circumstantial but I've always been the type to overanalyze. Whether she says yea or nay, I'll be more at peace with a definite answer than doubts and cowardice....Now just to hope I don't kill the asking out process like I did last time I asked a girl out. (I literally said it in such a faster gargle that she didn't udnerstand a word of it and I had to restate it, and was shaking the entire time. I can't believe she said yes after that. :wall: Regardless, I think I'm more confident with that stuff now, but we'll see.) Pretty much my only worry is that since she doesn't have a Facebook she may not of heard of me breaking up with my ex. It'd probably destroy my chances if ehr reply to me asking her out was: "Aren't you dating ____?" "Oh, no we broke up a month ago! Err, uhh, so, answer? " I REALLY hope that doesn't happen. Oh, and a final thing:Business cards are great initiations for flirting. I've got Business cards for the karate studio I go to that have my name, the studio info, and designate me as an instructor and a 1st degree black belt. Provided I present it right it can serve as a wodnerful... trump card. 8-) YEEEAHHHHHHH The only difference between Hitler and the man next door who comes home and beats his kids every day is circumstance. The intent is the same-- to harm others.[hide=Tifers say the darndest things]I told her there was a secret method to doing it - and there is - but my once nimble and agile fingers were unable to perform because I was under the influence.I would laugh, not hate. I'm a male. :(Since when was Ireland an island...? :wall:I actually have a hobby of licking public toilet seats.[/hide]
March 28, 201214 yr She's most likely single (I didn't get a definite answer, but people seem to think she is), so I'm going for it tomorrow. I would've today but I barely saw her. Also I brought the way of asking a girl out up to some friends of mine and they agree it is a 100% chance of success.Walk up to the girl and cut off a chunk of your masculine biceps, and throw it at her. Instant lay. The only difference between Hitler and the man next door who comes home and beats his kids every day is circumstance. The intent is the same-- to harm others.[hide=Tifers say the darndest things]I told her there was a secret method to doing it - and there is - but my once nimble and agile fingers were unable to perform because I was under the influence.I would laugh, not hate. I'm a male. :(Since when was Ireland an island...? :wall:I actually have a hobby of licking public toilet seats.[/hide]
March 29, 201214 yr Just advice, tips, etc... On the actual asking out part, first time nervous as hell and excuses are easy to make atm... Oh, and today, I think, I realized that this person either likes me currently or at least liked me at the first of the year so yeah... http://forum.tip.it/topic/325514-bonez899s-journey-to-an-eventual-max/ My blog of progress on Runescape.
March 29, 201214 yr Just advice, tips, etc... On the actual asking out part, first time nervous as hell and excuses are easy to make atm... Oh, and today, I think, I realized that this person either likes me currently or at least liked me at the first of the year so yeah...Don't think, just do.Even if it's only "Do you want to go out with me?" that you ask, tyring to go by a script will just make you crash and burn if you're nervous.If she already likes you then if you stutter and make a fool of yourself she'll probably find it cute. If she doesn't like you at all the answer'll be the same regardless of clever wording.Just remember this: Asking soon and finding out is better than another day spent being tormented by doubt. And being rejected won't hrut nearly as bad as you think it will. It's like a bee sting. You flip out because you don't wanna be stung, then you get stung and it's entirely bearable. Yet the enxt time a bee coems around you freak out again....If anyone mentions Japanese Giant Hornets I swear I will injure you. In other news I recently found out that the girl I'm going to ask out has an over-protective dad. [bleep]. My last girlfriend had one of those and I accidentally amde him hate me forever. So, hopefully this time I step more carefully. The only difference between Hitler and the man next door who comes home and beats his kids every day is circumstance. The intent is the same-- to harm others.[hide=Tifers say the darndest things]I told her there was a secret method to doing it - and there is - but my once nimble and agile fingers were unable to perform because I was under the influence.I would laugh, not hate. I'm a male. :(Since when was Ireland an island...? :wall:I actually have a hobby of licking public toilet seats.[/hide]
March 29, 201214 yr Just advice, tips, etc... On the actual asking out part, first time nervous as hell and excuses are easy to make atm... Oh, and today, I think, I realized that this person either likes me currently or at least liked me at the first of the year so yeah...Don't think, just do.Even if it's only "Do you want to go out with me?" that you ask, tyring to go by a script will just make you crash and burn if you're nervous.If she already likes you then if you stutter and make a fool of yourself she'll probably find it cute. If she doesn't like you at all the answer'll be the same regardless of clever wording.Just remember this: Asking soon and finding out is better than another day spent being tormented by doubt. And being rejected won't hrut nearly as bad as you think it will. It's like a bee sting. You flip out because you don't wanna be stung, then you get stung and it's entirely bearable. Yet the enxt time a bee coems around you freak out again....If anyone mentions Japanese Giant Hornets I swear I will injure you. In other news I recently found out that the girl I'm going to ask out has an over-protective dad. [bleep]. My last girlfriend had one of those and I accidentally amde him hate me forever. So, hopefully this time I step more carefully. Japanese Giant Hornets. Three months banishment to 9gag is something i would never wish upon anybody, not even my worst enemy.
March 29, 201214 yr Walk up to the girl and cut off a chunk of your masculine biceps, and throw it at her. Instant lay. wat. Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn
March 29, 201214 yr Been a few days now since i called my ex. I spoke to her the other day and told her that if we're going to make this "just friends" thing work she needs to put in her part too. If she's not going to call me then clearly something is not how it should be, and i cannot be asked to be her toy. No matter how much i love her, and no matter how much it hurts me not to talk to her.
March 29, 201214 yr You're going from dating straight to being close friends? :ohnoes: - 99 fletching | 99 thieving | 99 construction | 99 herblore | 99 smithing | 99 woodcutting - - 99 runecrafting - 99 prayer - 125 combat - 95 farming - - Blog - DeviantART - Book Reviews & Blog
March 29, 201214 yr You're going from dating straight to being close friends? :ohnoes: yeah...I'm with tripsis on this. There's no way in hell you can simply transition that with your history, I wouldn't hold it against her for not calling you. Quote Quote Anyone who likes tacos is incapable of logic. Anyone who likes logic is incapable of tacos. PSA: SaqPrets is an Estonian Dude Steam: NippleBeardTM Origin: Brand_New_iPwn
March 29, 201214 yr You're going from dating straight to being close friends? :ohnoes:We pretty much always considered ourselves to be best friends anyway. Even when we were broken up in the past, when something like this happened before, we always stayed friends. It was awkward and hard but it was worth it.
March 29, 201214 yr Stay friends - fine. But don't be best friends.. at least not now. That means don't be calling each other all the time and getting upset when she doesn't call you back. You were dating.. you need time to heal. It's going to be so much harder to get over her if you're in constant communication with her. Been a few days now since i called my ex. I spoke to her the other day and told her that if we're going to make this "just friends" thing work she needs to put in her part too. If she's not going to call me then clearly something is not how it should be, and i cannot be asked to be her toy. No matter how much i love her, and no matter how much it hurts me not to talk to her. I mean honestly, from that quote, you sound like you're still dating. You called her, complaining that she's not putting in enough effort, and told her that she needs to do her part. That sounds like a relationship. She broke up with you because she wanted the freedom to explore her new life. Maybe she does want to be friends, but she doesn't want being your friend to be a chore. I'd suggest laying off her. If it were me, I'd break off all contact at least until I got over her. But at the very least, don't hound her to be your friend. Lay off and if she calls you - chat, do whatever. But don't be on her back about how she has to do x, y, and z to be your friend. That sounds like a boyfriend and girlfriend with relationship problems. - 99 fletching | 99 thieving | 99 construction | 99 herblore | 99 smithing | 99 woodcutting - - 99 runecrafting - 99 prayer - 125 combat - 95 farming - - Blog - DeviantART - Book Reviews & Blog
March 29, 201214 yr Stay friends - fine. But don't be best friends.. at least not now. That means don't be calling each other all the time and getting upset when she doesn't call you back. You were dating.. you need time to heal. It's going to be so much harder to get over her if you're in constant communication with her. Been a few days now since i called my ex. I spoke to her the other day and told her that if we're going to make this "just friends" thing work she needs to put in her part too. If she's not going to call me then clearly something is not how it should be, and i cannot be asked to be her toy. No matter how much i love her, and no matter how much it hurts me not to talk to her. I mean honestly, from that quote, you sound like you're still dating. You called her, complaining that she's not putting in enough effort, and told her that she needs to do her part. That sounds like a relationship. She broke up with you because she wanted the freedom to explore her new life. Maybe she does want to be friends, but she doesn't want being your friend to be a chore. I'd suggest laying off her. If it were me, I'd break off all contact at least until I got over her. But at the very least, don't hound her to be your friend. Lay off and if she calls you - chat, do whatever. But don't be on her back about how she has to do x, y, and z to be your friend. That sounds like a boyfriend and girlfriend with relationship problems.Nononono you misunderstood :PThe day i called her, i told her that she was right. Time apart is what we needed (although it's exactly what we have both been doing). She told me that until things are the way we want them to be (meaning we have our careers sorted out and know what we want out of life) we should go back to how things were before, by just being friends (to which i agreed). She then told me that i should still continue to call her, like i did, before we dated and while we dated. We have pretty much been talking to eachother almost every day since the day we met regardless of our relationship status. Even when i was dating someone else or she was dating someone else.But when she told me that "I" should continue to call her and text her, ME. That's when i told her that she needs to remember that friendships are not a one way road. If she was serious about continuing a friendly relationship she can't expect me to do all the work. Like i said, you misunderstood a bit. She was the one telling me to call/text her. I was just reminding her it goes both ways. Does it sound like i'm making up excuses to justify my actions? The more i think about it the more i feel like i am.I haven't seen this girl for over 3 months now also, btw. So it feels to me like it's really easy for me to get over her. I've been thinking that the only reason i got upset was because i knew i was losing her and i wanted something that i couldn't have anymore (i'm sure most people understand that).But now that i'm back at school and back to my regular ol' busy life it feels like i just couldn't care any less :|
March 29, 201214 yr Does it sound like i'm making up excuses to justify my actions? The more i think about it the more i feel like i am.Yes. I for one don't think exes can be friends, at least not for a long period of time and it all depends on the type of relationship. "He could climb to it, if he climbed alone, and once there he could suck on the pap of life, gulp down the incomparable milk of wonder."
March 29, 201214 yr I'm a piece of <3: that can't even ask a girl out... http://forum.tip.it/topic/325514-bonez899s-journey-to-an-eventual-max/ My blog of progress on Runescape.
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