Real life help & advice

[Jeffwilson99]

Can I ask why you hate it?

I can't explain it very well, but I don't like the idea of someone needing to have an altered state of mind to enjoy themselves. In my opinion, it's just like any illegal drug ( I don't want a debate about how marijuana's fine, or this drug really doesn't hurt anyone.) and I don't like the thought of anyone using it. Particularly my friends.

 

Oh yeah, I was just wondering, in case it was family related issues with alcohol, or a bad experience or something. While I agree with McNeilp, I still think that 14 is a bit too young to be exposed to large amounts of alcohol. Closer to 16, or older, then that's a bit more acceptable. I guess there not really much you can do without sounding jealous or weird, but next time you might want to go along. Do don't have to drink, you should be able to think of plenty excuses not too, but you can keep an eye on her, and try and stop her from getting completely smashing.

But I wouldn't be too worried, you're at that age kids like to experiment.

[Omar]

Around here, when you go to a party and you don't drink, it's boring from what I've heard.

[Skull]

She's not the one who threw up, her friend did. I just found that out. But she said she drank more than them.

I'd say being exposed to alcohol underage is all part and parcel of being a teenager, it's bound to happen at some point or another. If you're not a fan of drinking, just tell them that, it's no real biggie. Hopefully they'll understand.

Underage drinking is pretty funny to look back on. Cheap cider from a plastic bottle in a park, classy as hell. Also, the sheer amount of hassle friends and I went through to get hold of a case or two of beer was ridiculous.

Around here, you pretty much drink insanely cheap vodka until you or a close friend gets a fake or you turn 21. $13 a handle (1.75L). Classy as hell.

[Tim]

Halp. I need a quick fix to helping me cut back drinking Coke alot. I'm starting to get back into being fit next week (signing up to ze new GYM) but obv' it's not going to help if Im still guzzling Coke. :(

[Jeffwilson99]

First off, don't buy it when you do you'r shopping, that just requires some discipline. Get a water bottle, fill it up can taking it everywhere with you. Like, to work and keep it on you're desk. Watching tv, in your car, everywhere! Once it becomes a habit, you won't thirsty, plus it's a healthy habit to get into.

[Assume Nothing]

I've posted this on the Today thread, but perhaps there's more traffic here on irl advice.

 

What should I do for a job interview? Or a better question - What should I not do at a job interview? I just want to apply for a part time job for the city council for administration work, really.

[stevepole]

I've posted this on the Today thread, but perhaps there's more traffic here on irl advice.

 

What should I do for a job interview? Or a better question - What should I not do at a job interview? I just want to apply for a part time job for the city council for administration work, really.

 

Just be yourself, be prepared, don't be late, and don't over think it.

[Sentry_Wolf]

Halp. I need a quick fix to helping me cut back drinking Coke alot. I'm starting to get back into being fit next week (signing up to ze new GYM) but obv' it's not going to help if Im still guzzling Coke. :(

 

You could switch coke for a mixed fruit juice or something as a nice healthy (as long as you buy the right ones, I suppose) substitute.

[Assume Nothing]

I've posted this on the Today thread, but perhaps there's more traffic here on irl advice.

 

What should I do for a job interview? Or a better question - What should I not do at a job interview? I just want to apply for a part time job for the city council for administration work, really.

 

Just be yourself, be prepared, don't be late, and don't over think it.

 

Hmm, bit late for that now. Oh well.

 

I did actually find a decent website for job interview advice >.>, which was this site; http://www.jobinterviewquestions.org/

[Iamdan]

Halp. I need a quick fix to helping me cut back drinking Coke alot. I'm starting to get back into being fit next week (signing up to ze new GYM) but obv' it's not going to help if Im still guzzling Coke. :(

 

You could switch coke for a mixed fruit juice or something as a nice healthy (as long as you buy the right ones, I suppose) substitute.

Juice isn't all that much better..

 

I can't explain it very well, but I don't like the idea of someone needing to have an altered state of mind to enjoy themselves. In my opinion, it's just like any illegal drug ( I don't want a debate about how marijuana's fine, or this drug really doesn't hurt anyone.) and I don't like the thought of anyone using it. Particularly my friends.

That's pretty naive. Using a drug doesn't automatically mean you need it to have fun.

[Dupin]

Dzi, send a thank-you note if you haven't already (for the interview). Believe me, it makes all the difference.

[Assume Nothing]

Dzi, send a thank-you note if you haven't already (for the interview). Believe me, it makes all the difference.

 

Will do. Too bad I won't get to work during the school term :(. I'll find something. Solicitors in general have plenty of paperwork to do, right?

[Bows]

I've posted this on the Today thread, but perhaps there's more traffic here on irl advice.

 

What should I do for a job interview? Or a better question - What should I not do at a job interview? I just want to apply for a part time job for the city council for administration work, really.

 

Just be yourself, be prepared, don't be late, and don't over think it.

 

Hmm, bit late for that now. Oh well.

 

I did actually find a decent website for job interview advice >.>, which was this site; http://www.jobinterviewquestions.org/

15 Minutes early is on time for a job interview.

[Iamdan]

I highly recommend a book about job hunting, interviews etc called 'what colour is your parachute?'

 

Bring your laptop and in some situations, if you don't have work to do while you wait for the interview then pretend you do. It shows your time is valuable. Obviously don't do this for a mcdonalds interview or something.

[Maze]

Anybody know any interesting famous person with heroic traits that I could write about for a "hero" essay?

[Guest Rob]

Are you at a catholic school? If you are, do it on someone like Joan of Arc and get brownie points.

[Riku3220]

Anybody know any interesting famous person with heroic traits that I could write about for a "hero" essay?

Most civil rights leaders (MLK, Harriet Tubman, Sojourner Truth) and most U.S. presidents (Washington, Lincoln, Truman) fit your criteria quite nicely

[Saru Inc]

Halp. I need a quick fix to helping me cut back drinking Coke alot. I'm starting to get back into being fit next week (signing up to ze new GYM) but obv' it's not going to help if Im still guzzling Coke. :(

 

 

Poke a needle underneath your fingernail until it bleeds every time you think of coke. Take pliers and rip the finger nail out every time you drink coke.

[Omar]

Alright, I can take burns, cuts, crushing, mauling and all types of gory things, but eyes and fingernails are off-limits. Makes me squirm.

[Kimberly]

Where do you guys to find motivation when you can't motivate yourself?

[Jeffwilson99]

Music is pretty good, if you pick the right stuff with emotional meaning or whatever. I also find showers are good ofr clearing your head, getting some ideas, and planning what you want to do.

[stevepole]

If I ever need motivation I usually listen to music, watching a movie, things that can get my mind over whatever is distracting me.

[Shiny]

Have a shower, and really take my time. Also, I find listening to music helps.

[TTanT]

So, I have to apologize to you guys. As well as avoiding this thread for a few weeks, I didn't take your advice.

 

My girlfriend has been fairly adament about legal action, mainly because she knows her mom is too weak to ever go against her dad. Also, she is afraid of it, I think.

 

But, it's been getting worse lately. She managed to go 4 weeks without self-mutilating, but yesterday she ripped so much skin off her thumbs she needed to cover them with band aids at school today.

 

Also, her fatehr recently told her to move in with her grandparents during an argument, and she actually consider packing up and doing so. Today she told me the only thing that makes ehr go home is the knowledge that running away gets you labelled as a juvenile delinquent and gets you sent to court.

 

You see, her parents freaked out on her for not wanting to eat dinner (becasue it was a food she disliked and she was feeling nauseus). They then screamed at her for being lazy and not doing enough chores, when she regularly makes dinner, cleans dishes, does the laundry, and cleans the bathroom. Compared to her dad who plays Call of Duty all day and ingests 2 liter bottles of pop in 24 hours, despite having severe diabetes.

 

He then threatened to hit her, and started saying I act like a snob around him and am not good enough for her. Keep in mind he hasn't seen me face to face in the past seven months. As a matter of fact, he's seen me twice. Once he was cussing at traffic and glaring at us, so I was silent. The other time he asked if I played World of Warcraft.

 

Aka, we haven't exactly intereacted enough for him to have opinions on me.

 

Now today, she went offline again in a similar fashion, and an hour and a half later came on and told me she'd been screamed at. After this short exchange:

 

"got yelled again otl."

"orzwhat for?

;;?

[and did it start the moment you elft?]."

"the usual."

 

After this she ceased to reply for a while, and then this happened:

"This is ambers father."

"Hello?

*May I ask what you've come here to tell me?."

"i have come here not to tell you anything, was just letting you know the messages you were sending were not gettingto amber."

"Oh, okay.Is she grounded from the computer/phone?Or just away for the moment?"

"that's between us and amber. I am sure she willlet you know."

"Okay

I'd just like to know if she'll be able to contact me over the weekend

So I can know whetehr I should try calling, making plans, etc."

 

*This was sent after several minutes of him not replying to my initial response of hello.

 

 

At this point he ceased to reply altogether. Now beyond the frustrating point that I don't know whetehr she's groudned from talking to me, and she boviously can't tell me if she is, and he obviously won't, I'm also worried.

 

This is the first time her dad has ever had the audacity to post for her. What's happened?

 

It could be Amber is just upstaiors crying or having an anxiety attack (I can't believe that's a best case scenario).

 

But it could even be that he's beaten her. I don't know.

 

Honestly, my main reason for posting here is because I'm freaking out and need to be calmed down. Help.

[Guest Rob]

At this point, I think you need to get some outside help. Have legal action taken if possible, or at least a therapist for her and her father. If you seriously think he could be hurting her at this moment, then I'd suggest going to her house and checking on her, providing it won't put you in an unsafe situation.