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[constrictor]

 The_Gabe, on 25 May 2013 - 03:09 AM, said:

I'm actually glad to be a virgin right now. I never thought it would happen before I met this girl, but my perspective completely changed.

Coming from a fellow virgin, I agree. As much as sex is (will be) great, it doesn't make the world turn.

It's equally as dangerous to focus on having sex often as it is to be onesitus or whatever you called it in your blog, Muggiw.

[Ring_World]

Muggi has the right approach. Examine your reasons, if they are not out of fear or obligation then they are likely good reasons.

[Low Levelled]

Interesting date. I learned a lot about her, more than I usually do on a first date. Our backgrounds are completely different; I'm more well off than her, my family is a lot more supportive than hers, she isn't interested in some of my hobbies, like reading or sports, and she has major ex boyfriend issues. Some major red flags, but I can't help but wonder what it'd be like to be with her. At first glance, I think her confidence is shot, and I really think I could help her feel good about herself, but I really don't know if I can handle her wild child ways. She pretty much drinks when she wants, and has a tattoo. Not that I mind tats, it's just odd for me bc we are both 18 and I haven't ever been with a girl who has one. Not to mention the trust issues she developed from her last relationship. The way she described it to me, it seemed she was definitely emotionally abused. Ugh, why do some guys feel the need to bring girls down.

Anyway, does anyone have success stories with a girl some may consider to be "damaged goods"? Sorry if this is poorly written, its past 2:00 a.m. Lol

[Ginger_Warrior]

Low Levelled, on 25 May 2013 - 07:19 AM, said:

The way she described it to me, it seemed she was definitely emotionally abused. Ugh, why do some guys feel the need to bring girls down.

One of my friends described it as "if you make girls feel shit about themselves first, they'll be more desperate to stay around you." Generally, I've found that to be true for girls in their teens who are very confused about what a healthy relationship looks like.

What common interests do you have with each other? If I was looking for a way to build someone's confidence, it would be by exploring what kind of person they want to be, and what kind of things do they want to do, and generally encouraging them further down that direction.

[Low Levelled]

We both have the same immature, talkative personalities. There won't be a dull moment lol. From what I gathered, she wants to teach special education and really, really likes helping people. She definitely is in need of a healthy relationship. Which honestly somewhat scares me because if we do see each other more, which don't get me wrong, I hope we do see each other more, I'm afraid I might hurt her bc after summer we both are going to different colleges about 90 min away, and I really don't want to add to her hurt.

[Ginger_Warrior]

Low Levelled, on 25 May 2013 - 04:22 PM, said:

We both have the same immature, talkative personalities. There won't be a dull moment lol. From what I gathered, she wants to teach special education and really, really likes helping people. She definitely is in need of a healthy relationship.

Seems like if that's something that means a lot to her, that's probably where she's going to find self-confidence from.

As far as college is concerned, how much of that is an assumption on your part, and how much of that has she said herself? I'd talk to her before second guessing each other.

[Low Levelled]

Well first of all, making it that far seems like a stretch to me at this point. And secondly well, I know I do NOT want to even try long distance.

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 Low Levelled, on 25 May 2013 - 07:37 PM, said:

Well first of all, making it that far seems like a stretch to me at this point. And secondly well, I know I do NOT want to even try long distance.

90 minutes isnt that bad go see her like every other weekend.
Ezrelationship.